First, please don't tell me to go to singles/dating. All children there. I have been divorced for 1 1/2 yrs. 2 months ago a man I was very much in love with ended our relationship. I have been trying to move on, but still love him so much. So, I was asked out by someone to go to lunch. Originally I said yes, then called him back and said no. The thing is that his kids are grown and gone, I still have two elementary school age. He had his early, I had mine late. I just don't see how long range this would work. We are too different stages of life even though we are about the same age. I know it is just lunch. But if I don't see how it could work long term, no sense someone getting hurt when it eventually ends right? Or am I just avoiding moving on? Would you have gone? It just seems like he has been there done that and I am still raising young ones. Reality check...what do you think?
2007-10-28 14:49:37 · 5 answers · asked by Sleepless in Seattle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u can hear every kind of advice here, but only u can decide for urself. good luck. hope this helps :)
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2007-10-28 14:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have gone. It is just lunch. You do not know where he wants to be in life. Do not judge and assume. Why not go and find out the truth. What is the worst that can happen? You had lunch and some conversation. You need to get out and meet people and do somethings. Don't sit at home and brood. It will get better it is just going to take a little while. If you get out and keep busy it will be easier sooner. Good luck.
2007-10-28 21:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, u r so right. your still in love with the other guy. and u really cant move on until thats all in the past.i feel for u. i know what your going thru. in time it will pass. so stay strong until it does and keep those young one in mind just like u did with this guy. your a great mom. one day u will find mr.right. good luck and dont feel guilty u know whats best for u.GOD BLESS YOU.
2007-10-28 22:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by spoodleroo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your wrong in not going.. I just think your wrong in the wording of your ad. You need to be specific in the type of man you are looking for. If you are looking for a man who has children the same age as yours, then specify that. Then for sure you won't be wasting your time.
2007-10-29 00:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if your not totaly over your x then it would be unfair not only to you but to whomever you would date, give it some more time, only you will know when the time is truely right.
2007-10-29 08:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋