Please help, I'm so sad that I might just kill myself?

Question

I dont know where to start, the first thing is that I'm not very bright like I got kicked out of a prestigious all girls catholic school when I was gr.5 (I'm second year high school now) and I'm studying at a small school regular school. (Some of the seniors get into pretty great colleges so it feels good to know that) and my mom told me yesterday (In public at shakey's) that I'm going to be a burden to my sisters (My sisters are looking at really bright futures) when she and my dad dies, that after I got kicked out she left my academics alone (I'm doing normal like B+ to C- after I got kicked out for some reason) and she said that my phycologyst said that I'm a slow learner and that my other one said that I have trouble concentrating. She said she made me try for so many different things like gymnastics, tennis, dancing and I fail in everything she said I might as well learn how to clean the house while they're gone so that I'll accuire some skills so that I can be a maid.

And she made me cry (In a shakey's) and she said that she doesnt know what to do with me anymore and that she wont pay for anything when I'm 18. and one of my sisters said how will I go tot college and she said I wont get into college anyway and my sister said that I have a talent for art and my other sister said that fine arts course in her university is free and my mom said that its a waste of effort. Another thing is when I look at myself I see something thats worthless like I'm just a waste of space. Dont give me stuff like "God made me for a reason" because my mom said that I'm not a believer and she's not going to confirm me because thats my problem now. And another thing is that I feel like dying is the only way I'm not going to be a burden to anybody

Answer 1

As a kid I was told how stupid I was by everyone. My older brother was this genius who knew everything. Now I'm an electronics engineer and make my living designing, installing and repairing computer systems. My older brother? After his divorce, 17 years ago, he moved in with my dad and beta test video games (for which he doesn't get paid).
Keep your chin up and don't go down without a fight.

Answer 2

HEY HEY HEY Hot Girl!!!

Forget the suicidal tendencies.

Nothing is worst than cashing it in.

Look at yourself in the mirror, NAKED, and see what is staring back.

You will see a physical flaw somewhere, but forget that.

You will see a beautify young woman that has to figure out how to get ahead.

I do it every day and I am an overweight 48 year old man!!!
Do I see a guy who could lose a few pounds?

Heck no, I see a guy who is going to try his best EVERY day.
Somedays I win, some days plain suck.

I even got kicked out of Texas A&M University 3 times and it only took 7 years to graduate. Big Woop. You can do it.

Now for terrible fun, start making your moms life a LIVING HELL. Start doing things you never would dream of doing and watch how truly helpless she really is. Let her know you sister has a rep as the school skank. Tell her you overheard other mothers talking about her, and what is she really trying to hide. Even hint you have thoughts of what life will be like when she dies. Mom will start pooping is her pants.

Now go drink a beer and plan some fun revenge.

Answer 3

Your mom sounds like one of those parents who's forcing their child to be whatever they want so that they can be their little darling that they can show off to others. She shouldn't be forcing you to do those gymnastics and dancing classes if you don't want to - you're getting Bs and Cs (which aren't bad marks btw) because your parents are pressuring you to do what they want, not because they respect you as an individual. Also it's absolutely cruel that she would discriminate against you for being a slower - I'm willing to bet that she lied about it just to intimidate you (after all you heard it from her, not directly from the psychologist) but even if you had a learning disability, it means you deserve all the more respect. At my university there are people with ADD who can't write notes by themselves and are still bright students who do well - even if you are a slow learner (which I doubt) don't let that stop you. Chances are you just haven't been able to explore something you like.

Don't let your mom get inside your head - instead let it be your motivation, so that when you get to college (which I'm sure you will) you can prove her wrong by not only being successful, but doing something that you want to do independent of pressure, that perhaps your oh-so-successful sisters couldn't do. Maybe your mom won't admit she lost - but at least you'd know in your heart that she did.

Hang in there. BTW "prestigious" private schools aren't that big a deal - even the top universities try to get many students from public schools so that they can get some diversity.

Answer 4

Its really sad to hear that a mother would say this.I am 33 and a mother of two small girls. You need to take her words and prove them w rong. No matter if you are slow or incredibly intelliegent you need to know that you could do almost anything with your life. Look at all the people out there that grew up in poverty with no education who became presidents of corporations or started there own businesses with almost nothing. All you can do is try as hard as you can in school. It is almost over. I believe if you get a's or c's it really doesnt matter. it doesnt make who you are. College is important but not always for everyone. You need to think about yourself right now and what you want out of life and what YOU want to become. That is the most important. So one day you can look back on your mother and say, see I did it. I am not a maid. I am important and successful. Dont give anyone the power to make you feel bad, about your self or less then you are. Be strong and be independent. And make goals for yourself and you will have the world in your hands.

Answer 5

There's a really good author ... John Bradshaw ... who writes about dysfunctional families. In one of his books, John Bradshaw: On The Family, he discusses "family roles" ... it sounds as though you are the family scapegoat. And, yes, as another poster pointed out ... you are being verbally abused. You are not alone. Do you have a guidance counselor at school? If so, talk to your guidance counselor to find out what your aptitudes might be ... EVERYONE isn't good at EVERYTHING, but usually someone is really good at something. Maybe you just haven't found what you're good at yet. And each child in the family is different ... each child should be loved for the individual he or she is. Is there anyone in your family ... a grandparent, aunt, etc. ... that you can talk to and is supportive of you? You might also tell your psychologist what was said ... maybe your psychologist needs to have a discussion with your mother. In fact, maybe your mother needs a psychologist to work out her own issues.

You've received some really good responses, which may make you feel a little better right now. If so, call your counselor tomorrow. If you don't feel better, call this evening ... I'm sure she/he has an emergency number. This is a situation that needs to be taken care of. Your counselor needs to know how your mother treats you so that she/he can give you some ways to deal with it. I do believe, however, that he/she will refer your mother for counseling because it is abusive behavior. She's certainly not helping your self esteem.

Answer 6

Your mom sounds like she is frustrated with you, but she is also being ABUSIVE! Do you think your home life is a reflection on you not doing so well in school? Do your parents ever try to raise your self esteem? It sounds like NOT.

You spell and write very well - so you can't be stupid.

There are a LOT of people who are very bright, they just don't fit into the school system and dont do well in school. Many drop out and do better later when they are more mature. Maybe you should look into an ROTC program for the rest of high school. There are a lot of things such as auto mechanic, beauty school, etc - you can just pick something you think you might be good at and do the schooling. You get high school credit for it and have a career at the end of high school.

You can always do something else later. Just find something you can make money at now. I did waitressing for a LONG time and it made me enough money to live on my own.

Answer 7

Theres nothing wrong w/ being a slow learner. Slow learners tend to remember the things they are taught for a long while. Dont believe what your mom says about being a burdon to ur sisters. Everyone has their own goals as far as school goes and everyone concentrates on something differend. So what if your not good at gymnastics, tennis or dancing. You dont have to be good at everything. Everyone has something their good at, and you will find it eventually. Dont let anyones negative words hurt you , just try hard in school and if you dont get it, ask for help. I had trouble concentrating for a while, but it was because of my eyes, so i got glasses. It helps me focus on what im working on, ask a doctor it may be vision or something else. Dont kill yourself please!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Well, if you have the idea in your head that you fail at everything, then you can't succeed. YOU have to be positive about everything you do, regardless if it's easy or difficult. You have to work hard at everything that you do to be able to achieve. No one has natural talent. It takes years to master tennis or dancing, and even then, masters fail once in a while.

YOU have to have a positive attitude. It doesn't matter if you're a fast, slow, or medium learner, you have to give yourself the opportunity to learn the material. Even the most brilliant people have to review material over and over in order to truly understand and be able to apply it.

YOU need to be determined to do something. If you're good at art, get art classes. You could become an art therapist or art teacher, and there's many other careers that involve art like graphic design that aren't just artists. You have to apply yourself and work hard for your dreams to be reality.

Answer 9

I can't believe that your MOTHER told you that!! she should be ASHAMED OF HERSELF!!

PLEASE PLEASE do not take this out on yourself. no one should have to try for all of those things if they dont want to.. those are things that kids should do when they are interested in them! not when they are forced to! I am so sorry that someone has made you be so down on yourself... ESPECIALLY the one person that should always have your back and support you NO MATTER WHAT!
the simple fact is that some people are not that great at school and some of us arent really fast learners. not everyone is the same.. we are all different.
what i think you should do is do your best and keep how you feel right now as a memory as to why you don't want to EVER make your children (or anyone else for that matter) feel that way. you sound like a great person.. you just have to see that in yourself :)

Answer 10

First off intelligence is not a insight for who you are as a person.It sounds to me that you have issues, why are you getting kicked out and seeing a psychologist. now your mother is being very degrading and judgemental and should not compare you to your sisters. I dont know the whole story, because there is always 2 sides, i am only hearing yours, mayber you should go to family therapy, were everyone is involved-not just you. it sounds to me like your mother is only making things worse by saying hurtful things to you.noone or nothing is worth killing yourself over! only YOU can change your life. also maybe you have attention deviciet order. Also you probalbly fail at things because they dont interest you. find something you like and you will suceed, I wish you the best, sometimes the worst things in life bring the best, you will be okay trust yourself and dont let anyone bring you down, thats what they want. dont let them win-this is YOUR life live it well BE HAPPY!!!

Answer 11

Geez your mom is a witch. You should prove her wrong and do better than all your siblings.

Remember the richest man in the world dropped out of college. (Bill Gates) and the smartest man who ever lived (Albert Einstein) couldn't find a job as a teacher.

It's all about attitude. Forget everyone who puts you down. The only opinion that matters is how you feel about yourself.

Do your best and work hard. You'll be fine.