How do deal with loneliness?

Question

I have no friends.

I have to work a lot of hours as part of my training for work. I have a good job, but training is a bit lengthy.

I've tried asking some of my workmates out, but they have been too busy. When I join their conversations, they mostly ignore me.

I'm done with college. I've tried volunteering, but I mostly meet older people in their thirties and fourties. I want to meet people my age

How do I deal with this loneliness? I spend so much time procrastinating since I feel empty.

Answer 1

I am lonely too. We are in a similar situation. I am 22 years old. I am current working on a Master degree. I also working part-time as a research assistant in college. Most people at work or graduate students in my program are older and very busy with their life and family. Moreover, I am from foreign country. I have no friends or family in the U.S; therefore, I am even more lonely. I recently decided to work for a university cafe because I want to get out and make friends. Well, I knew the cafe job can be very harsh and labor demanding; however, it gives me opportunities to talk to college kids (people my age :)

You may need to get out and do something. You may need to join some clubs, playing sports, go out on dates, go to bars or nightclubs. etc.

I wish you well and take good care :)

Answer 2

Looks like people around 30's and 40's understand you much better then of your own age. Make friends with them and share your hobbies and interests. If your hobbies dont interest them then try sharing their hobbies. If that still dosnt work then you have to decide weather you want a lover or a friend. Looking for a lover of friend is not easy. Sharing your interests with a similar taste person helps a lot. Working long hours gives you little time to share hobbies. You can watch movies or join this Yahoo Answers Section ( like what i am doing for you right now) . By helping others in the few free hours of yours will give you so much pleasure, if no other way works. good luck. Join me on the answering side!!!

Answer 3

well let me tell that loneliness is a hard thing sometimes it makes you feel bad but sometimes loneliness is good like that you can find yourself and get to know you well in the inside. And make friends is another hard things let me tell you you're not the only one there are so many people just like you trying to work things out making friends and I think the key is to talk find a subject interesting for that person that you want as a friend, you can make friends asking getting to know anyone like that that person can present you ans share with you its friends. Good luck! don't be alone too much.

Answer 4

Then you need to go where people your age go. If you work a lot of hours, set one day a week to go out and meet new people. Try a new place each week until you find one that makes you feel comfortable. Any time you go to a new place, the people that go there all the time, will get so they know you and you will fit in.

Answer 5

Hey/
I work long crazy hours too/
I work during the day- and I have a nite job..
I still manage to have friend time.
I`ve notice that people @ my job are the same way.
I could be in the same rm as them/ joining in talking to everyone. And nothing. @ my job the sales only hangs out w. sales....so on and so on
I understand....
You need a friend-- I`ll be your friend.
I`m online all the time
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Answer 6

Join a group! Honestly, taking up a class will help you to meet people who have similar interests and will give you something to talk about with them. Always be friendly and smile as it will make you seem more approachable. Good luck!

Answer 7

procrasnation is not a healthy way to approach life. as I see it you are ready to make changes in your life. maybe consider to join a gym where most young and single people hang out and work out. have fun with your life!

Answer 8

YOU NEED TO STOP ASKING THOSE WORKMATES OUT. YOU SHOULD GO OUT AT COFFEE SHOPS NOR BOOKS STORES. SOMETIMES BEEN LONELY IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU. if YOU NEED A FRIEND YOU CAN ALWAYS EMAIL ME.