I don't think he thinks I can do it but I would like to try I think I can and would love to have a better job and income. I really like the thought of helping people feel better.
2007-10-28 14:02:15 · 16 answers · asked by babygirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Break his finger and then tell him "If you let me go to nursing school I could fix that!"
2007-10-28 15:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you 2 do have a lot in straightforward. You both look insecure. He advised you about the lady so for sure he has no longer some thing to conceal. perchance yet another excuse he advised you is because he's likewise insecure. Jealousy would not get you everywhere yet in an difficulty and existence is in simple terms too short to be mad. in case you want him believe him and do not question him each and every of the time. You in no way understand what can ensue stay on a daily basis as your very last. Love, stay, giggle. appreciate the very incontrovertible truth that he's a complicated operating guy. He ought to stop his pastime and college that receives rid of diagnosis time. That way he can spend all his time with you. You stated you 2 have the weekends and Fridays! What more suitable do you go with?
2016-10-23 03:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all your facts together first---the cost of going back to school, how you're going to pay for it and work out the time to do that and still support your marriage, what part time schooling opportunities are available, what he'd have to do to help you, how much money a trained nurse can make, how much they are in demand, etc.---THEN sit him down and just tell him that you want/need to go after your dream and you hope he can get behind the idea and here is what I found about about...... Assure him that going back to school is not a statement that you are unhappy or restless with your marriage but rather that you have a calling to help people. Acknowledge that it will change the marriage but that growth can be a very a good thing in a marriage when people work together for a common goal and that you want/need him behind you.
2007-10-28 14:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you want to do it and explain how you are going to do it so that you still have time together, and then do it. He should not have a problem with that unless he has control issues and doesn't want you to improve yourself and if that is the case, you will need the training so if the marriage fails in the future you will have a way to support yourself. There is a great need for good nurses who really want to help people feel better so you should be able to do that with no problem. Good Luck to you!!
2007-10-28 14:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this question should be reported as "Illegal" if you don't go to school and you have to ask someone if you should go to school. Definitely you have to go to school besides of what your husband has to say or any comments from his side. It will be better for you and him if he supports the idea, but if he doesn't, you can't stop that part of your life, you just meet the wrong partner. You will feel misserable if you don't go and you wanted to go, this opportunity is today and then later is completely different, you can always go, but it doesn't make sense to stop. The way to tell your husband: Step by step, step 1: "I want to go to school, this is how I'm going to do". Step 2: there is not such a thing. Why are you asking such an obvious question with such an obvious answer?. You before you are a wife, you are a PERSON with its needs and needs to be happy, it seems you see going to school as something wrong, do you have an idea of what are the wrong things other wifes are doing out there?. This should also encourage your husband to go to school and keep up in somehow for the kind of wife he has found, which any husband should feel proud, but it seems you don't feel proud of yourself if you are asking this question, probably because of a lack of self esteem, which is something he probably brought down in order .... etc etc - the subject is huge so I'm not getting into any of that since it will be out of scope for your question. Go to school and enjoy it, it's beautiful.
2007-10-28 14:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Openly and honestly is the only way. BUT start with a couple of night courses if you are going for the 4 year degree rather than the 2 year. Try to find a cheap local or community college to start night classes. The nursing program is not easy. Good Luck. It is a very good paying job and always in demand.
2007-10-28 14:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"Honey I am going back to school to become a nurse". He only does not think you can do it because he does not want you to succeed. If you succeed then you might not need him anymore. This behavior is classic. Here's incentive. My niece 25 yrs old is making $78,000 as a nurse after only two years of working. You can do it. Don't ever let any male tell you that you cant they only say this to make themselves look and feel better about themselves.
2007-10-28 14:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Shelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you really want it and understand that it will change your relationship.
When I went to nursing school, I saw quite a few husbands who were threatened by their wive's new found independence and earning potential. Also it will be difficult if he doesn't support and encourage you.
Talk to him about the idea and be prepared to deal with his insecurities.
Good Luck.
PS.
I love being a nurse.
2007-10-28 14:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like this ." Honey I'm going back to school to become a nurse. " You could try standing on your head when you do it but i don't think it would help much.
2007-10-28 14:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit across him and talk to him patiently.
Tell him what your dreams and aspirations are and see how the two of you can work towards it.
Honest and straight communication would help.
2007-10-28 14:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Romi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋