What do I do about my husband who seems to care too much about making more money. He already works a lot at his regular job but he keeps trying to figure out ways such as business ventures to bring in more money. We are already doing fine financially actually better than we ever have before. He says he wants to make sure we are prepared in the future for ourselves and for our 3 daughters college education when they're older. But I'm afraid it will be at the expense of spending more time with his family and just enjoying life.
2007-10-28 13:53:28 · 18 answers · asked by noel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like perhaps there may have been some money problems in his past - perhaps with his parents - so he sees the money as security. Perhaps there is a way you can convince him to spend more time on the family and do things together if you find him a way to make money that both of you are involved in, for example, an E-Bay store. You may be able to make good money at that and still have more time to spend together.
2007-10-28 14:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand. I think you should talk to your husband about this. You have very valid concerns. Just let him know that he should slow down a little and not worry about it so much so that he has more time to spend with his family. Tell him if he keeps going like this he will miss out on living life. Tell him how you feel and say it in a way that isn't argumentative because that will only make things worse. He is trying to make things better for your family but let him know that the time he spends with his family is also an investment into the future of his family.
2007-10-28 13:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dani Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello.. well mam i know how you feel alot of women go through that so dont feel alone...you need to ask your husband if you say he is making enough money at his regular job!! why does he have to make more money....if he is not spending enough time with his family in the end he will miss out on times when he was really needed to be there as a dad to listen to his wife and kids.. you need to put him in a position and say enough is enough we need to see you more.. ask him who matters more us or money?? some times you have to get people's attention you have to keep pressing the issue and tell him you and the kids need to be around him more..i hope this helped..be blessed...
2007-10-28 14:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by NIXON_777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a problem if he never spends time with his family at all.... but usually the biggest problem is when the wife starts whining "you never pay attention to me" and goes out and has an affair. Let him work while he can and count your blessings that he isn't a lazy bum who sponges off you.
He must take some time off occasionally, so schedule quality family time and make sure he leaves his laptop & cell phone at home.
2007-10-28 14:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing well, do not complain. If he was at a low wage job, he would end up working more then he is now just to keep things a float. Either way is not good.
However, at least try to reach a compromise to encourage him to at least take a vacation every once in awhile to spend time with family.
2007-10-28 13:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by PeguinBackPacker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money is his motivator; but this could become an obsession.
It's common in today's day and age for people to become obsessed with money, if the problem persists he should see a therapist for help.. because obsession with money is just as big of a problem as an obsession with crack cocaine.
2007-10-28 14:02:57 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES this is a problem he will divorce you and marrie his job GET him away do something as a family and you be incharge of the bills and he won't know whats happending about money and he will stop
2007-10-28 13:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something else repaces family as #1 priority its aproblem ask him to rate importance if family ain't #1 not$ cause you can replace $ in lots of different ways but family is forever then its gone. no amount of money can buy it back.
2007-10-28 13:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by bilbobagsend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me he's trying to plan for the future. You got 3 college tuitions to pay for, three weddings to pay for, 5 cars to pay for. Hope there is enough left over for your retirement.
2007-10-28 13:58:13 · answer #9 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, 4 females in the house can be costly so I know where he is coming from.
2007-10-28 16:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by Hooch A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋