Can someone please tell me where I can find a virgin for marriage?
I don't want to marry a non-virgin. First, because I am a virgin, and likewise want to marry a virgin girl. Second, if I married a non-virgin, I'd go through life feeling inferior, insecure, jealousy and even loathing her.
Any ideas?
2007-10-28 13:39:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shaemer,
Sorry, tramp, but I don't want to get a disease, like you. You make think that being promiscuous and getting all sorts of diseases (i.e. HPV, Herpes - these two cannot be protected with condoms) is new and modern and trendy, but let me tell you that monogamy came after non-monogamy. Learn your history, dunce. And please grow up, too: learn to be an adult and respect other peoples' opinions. Child!
2007-10-28 13:56:49 · update #1
Firstly, don't worry about what any of these extremely rude people have been saying about your stance on virginity. I for one also don't plan on losing my virginity until/if I get married. Hell, I'm 18 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet, although that's the sort of physical contact I would draw the line at until I get married.
It's not really a matter of "where" to find a virgin. If you really want a virgin, then find somebody would a sense of modesty and grace, rather than an extremely horny teen who posts their half-naked pictures on the internet and gets drunk at night clubs. If a person has extra-marital relations they're more than likely to do it again as they may develop a taste for it. I'm not saying non-virgins are "bad", but if you want somebody who shares the same traditional values that you do, you'll need to judge a girl on the basis of her personality (which should be a good indication of whether or not she's a virgin).
Good luck.
2007-10-28 15:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by sillygostly 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some has suggested a church. If your reason of going to church is only to find a virgin, you are going for the wrong reason and will be disappointed. You should find a good relationship with God first (if you have not)
Here is the deal, if a girl becomes a real christian while she is still a virgin, there is large chance of remaining virgin till marriage. There is no guarantee anyway because a lot of things happen, which may not even be of her making.
Again, a christian girl that is virgin will not go about telling everybody "I am a virgin". Many that claim to be virgins are not. How do you verify? If you want to know before marriage, both of you are not. If you find out after, both of you are not
My advice as a Christian is follow the Lord's advice. Forgive the past so that you can marry based on love. You can marry a virgin and still end up in divorce because of attitude or lack of real love.
Beside, you only see the "good" thing you did by being a virgin. What of the things you ever did wrong or people you ever hurt? Being a virgin is great but does not necessarily make you better than the others. Good luck!
2007-10-28 21:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Need 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why would you loathe a woman who made a bad decision once? I was a virgin until I met my husband (we had sex before marriage, but not until we were sure we would GET married). However, he'd had two previous sexual partners. I always felt a little jealous of them, but then... I found out that the physical relationship we had was so much more, because we were truly, deeply in love, committed, and we were able to build a sexual life of our own. He reminds me frequently that what we have together is more than he ever dreamt of. By now his previous relationships don't matter to me, all that matters is our relationship, not his mistakes.
2007-10-28 22:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by Aia S 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get some counseling...and do everyone a favor- before you get married tell the girl about your feelings towards non-virgins - especially the loathing part. This way she can get out of the relationship without a lot of legal costs.
2007-10-28 20:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jake1234 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should concentrate a little more on the type of person you want to marry and not weather he/she has had sex or not. You problems with inferiority and insecurity stem far past marrying a non-virgin if this is such a concern to you.
2007-10-28 20:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why is that so important to you. Marriage is about loveing someone unconditionally, and if a woman is marrying you, then I think thats a loud and clear statment that she doesn't view you as inferior. Why base so much on the sex, that's only part of what love and marriage is all about. You shouldn't base your love for sommeone based on if they are a virgin or not. Base it on her character.
2007-10-28 20:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
basically it will be just like meeting anyone else in life... by fate, and by chance. you may meet a virgin, you may not. whomever you end up marrying, that person will add something unique to your life, even if it is not their virginity, it may be something spiritual, some wisdom, or whatever...you shouldn't dwell on the person being a virgin, and making you feel inadequate, why focus on the negative ?
2007-10-28 20:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know you could miss out on a great lady with an attitude like that.
This attitude is the reason christian women settle for jerks. Virgin guys can't handle a woman who hasnt been perfectly chaste.
you aren't perfect either. Its called forgiveness and grace.
2007-10-28 20:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by sojourning.sarah 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Err, what century do you live in?
"Find a virgin to marry" sheesh - why not just enjoy life, and if you are lucky enough to fall in love - then take the chance and marry her (the virginity factor should not enter into the equation)
Grow up !!
2007-10-28 20:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
Wow.
You can't help who you fall in love with. It shouldnt be about who is and isn't a virgin, it should be about who you bond with and end up falling for.
But, if you want to find a virgin, why not try joining some religious groups! No promises though, because not everyone remains a virgin before marriage.
2007-10-28 20:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋