Kidding aside, my son is 28. When he was 22 a woman, divorced with 2 young kids "latched" on to my son because she was scared of raising her 2 kids alone and financially. She got pregnant, they married. THAT was 3 years ago. 3 days ago, she right out told my son that she never loved him from the beginning, and she wanted out of the marriage. 2 days later, she was seen out with a 56 year old man, drinking, dancing and kissing all over him. YOU as a mother, how do you feel or what do YOU do?
2007-10-28 13:38:16 · 22 answers · asked by charks love 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Oh yeah, btw, SHE is 34.
2007-10-28 13:39:23 · update #1
She may be "34 year old married mother" but she isn't acting like it.
First if she wants to play dip the doodle with whomever, she should not be in public until her divorce is final or at all really but definitely not in public, she has children it also reflects.
Second if she told him this 3 days before being "seen out playing" , she was doing it BEFORE she told her husband.
I don't so much focus on the ages of the adults as they are all old enough to understand the situation and make proper choices, other than the children.
However it does suggest this mother used your son and is not to worried if her children witness, or suffer any repercussions due to her public flaunting. Which in fact is a woman your son was better off without from the beginning. Let her go. In fact help her pack!!
Thats what I think, here's what I would do:
Sit back a let her be seen in public before a legal seperation or divorce. That just goes on your sons side in it. She is not only acting like a fool she is burying herself there too. If you have alimony in your state, she might not be getting any. She better worry about custody matters to. It WILL reflect her in court. Way I see it you don't need to do anything she is doing it all for you. She's getting rid of herself, showing people what she really is out in the public eye, her children too, and she is painting a bad picture for divorce court too. So let her. The best revenge is the one "done to ourselves with no help but from the fool we have become".
All your son should need to do is keep cool, now and in court if it lands there. (get a good lawyer of course) The judge will see whats on paper and if any public displays are made then, let them be hers not your sons. Without a word he will look MUCH BETTER than her should it go that way. Calm, cool, and collected until its ALL over. This one will do her own hanging.
Adultry is a crime that you CAN be charged for. Check your state laws.
2007-10-28 14:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by savahna5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jeeze! That sucks big time! If I were your son, I'd take the 3 kids, (I know 2 aren't his, but he's likely bonded with the little ones, and for sure THEY bonded with him!), and leave. What a terrible environment for them. And your son does not need a toxic person like that in his life. I don't know what state he lives in, but it will be hard to prove she's an unfit mother without a lot of proof. He needs to get a good attorney right away since she's proven that SHE knows how to work "the system" to her benefit. I think your son is in for the fight of his emotional and financial life. I'm sorry that she turned out to be such an awful and hateful person. I hope your son realizes that caring men such as he is, are hard to find. And in time, when he's ready, there will be an amazingly lovely and wonderful woman just waiting to show love back. I'll be praying for your family. Good luck.
2007-10-28 20:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Enchantress38 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to like this but I am a mum of boys too, and my advice would be slightly different from those above ^^^.
Firstly, your son met her when he was 22 and that was young to take on all he did, but he was obviously head over heels in love to do that, - he is not that naive 22 years old now he is a grown man and needs to be treated with that respect. What he needs from you is support - not slagging off the girl he chose (even if she deserves it) you will just put his back up and he will want her more! She is also the mother of your grandchild. I would advise him to see if she wants to go to counselling with him, (the more effort he puts into keep the marriage going the better it is for him). If she doesn't, then he should file for divorce, but it must be based on fact not on gossips say-so as to what she has been doing - people like to stir (don't know why but they do). Through all this please do not judge her actions, be wise hold your emotions and words together, because if this is just a hiccup in their relationship and if you have slagged her off it will be you who gets the blame and may well be ostracised, I do understand I am asking you to behave like a saint!!
2007-10-29 15:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is disgusting. Don't say anything to your son about this. Whenever you can and she is out with other men take photos of what she is doing. That way when your son is ready for a divorce you can provide evidence of her infidelity and he can get custody of his child. Unill then just be there for him and confort him as much as you can. It is a hard lesson but one he is going to have to face. Be there for him when he needs you. He needs you now. So take the pics and get everything ready for when he needs it. Women like that are scum and give single mothers' a bad rep. Gather any evidence you can against her because I have this feeling she had his baby for child support and leverage if they ever did divorce.
2007-10-29 12:10:05 · answer #4 · answered by sarah k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep that wud surely piss me off but hes a grown man and all you can do is provide a shoulder to cry on. Try to build up his self esteem as thats probably at an all time low hearing that his marraige was built on lies. Just love him and let him know that you're always there for him 24-7. DONT INTERFERE as you dont know what will happen in the future...if she doesn't actually leave the marraige and they try again you will be the worst in the world for getting involved. Good Luck xx
2007-10-28 20:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by studentmum2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WoW, that is nasty,...I don't think there is anything you can do but, boy!...I'm with you in wanting to give her,her proper just deserts or at least a good slap... or 2 ..or ...more.....lol... But, that would not help matters any...I know it's Hard but you must put your anger aside and conentrate on being there for your son. this must have been a horrible blow to him....and take some small confort in the knowledge that this will come back on her 3times as bad,...it always does....
Blessed Be!
2007-10-28 20:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Stormy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be emotionally supportive and tell my son that I am there for him and will help him with whatever he needs.
I would strongly suggest to my son that he hire an attorney, conduct a DNA test to make sure the child belongs to your son, and if the child is his, sue for custody of the child.
2007-10-28 20:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be your son's battle, so there's nothing you can do, except stand by him. However, if I were him, I'd hire a divorce lawyer, seek full custody of the child, and pronounce the ex as being dead to me.
2007-10-28 20:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my son. Get together with him in person and have a civil conversation. Explain to him you are not attacking her, but you want him to know what has been going on. And you care about him. Really it should be in his hands from there. I know as a mother you probably want to scratch her eyes out for hurting your baby. But really just be there for him, and help him with whatever he decides. Good luck! <3
2007-10-28 20:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a mother,but,speaking as a man,all I can say is your boy got played,and he needs a good lawyer,so the ho don't take him to the cleaners.
The reason I'm saying this is because in a lot of states nowadays,he can get hung up for child support for her kids,because he's been providing for them.Help that not happen to him.
2007-10-28 20:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋