Well, I read a bunch of Q&As on yahoo, and it seems that the majority of adults are against teenagers partying, doing drugs, having sex...etc etc. BUT after reading a lot of questions that teen mothers have posted, I noticed that a lot of people are posting things like "you are missing out on partying and friends" (Partying and friends a lot of the time lead to alcohol, drugs, and sex) So why do so many use that phrase in supporting their opinion of teenagers not getting pregnant, and yet also use it as an example of what teens should not do.
For anyone who says partying is better than getting pregnant, refer back to where I said that partying tends to leads to alcohol, drugs, and sex (which is where babies come from).
2007-10-28 13:36:24 · 14 answers · asked by .:Tina ♥ marie:. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Jenni...glad you see my point! I know that they refer to a lot of things teen mothers miss out on, I'm just listing this because it is so often contridicted.
2007-10-28 13:48:27 · update #1
M&Ms Mommy-
I made sure that I put the words "a lot" and "some" before the partying leading to babies theorys, so that I wouldn't get answers like yours saying that I'm stereotyping, I'm not.
2007-10-29 05:50:03 · update #2
I don't think too many are getting the point of my question. I'm not speaking of all these things you are saying teen mothers are missing out on, I'm only talking about people saying that teen mothers are missing out on "partying" which is what a lot of people have posted on previous questions and then off the subject of teen mothers say that in general it is bad that teens party, because of what it CAN (not always) lead to. It is a very bad example, and if you have ever said it you only contridict yourself...say what you mean and mean what you say. It is not a good supporting arguement.
2007-10-29 05:57:00 · update #3
M&Ms Mommy-
You were were offended that I wrote you...well you prove my point more than anything...teens who become parents are looked down, you waited till you was 21 to have kids and you were left in the same predicament that a lot of teen mothers are. I see why your defences are up.
2007-10-29 15:49:27 · update #4
i use to party, drink, do drugs all through high school.. and have sex but i protected myself and made sure he used a condom or i wouldn't have sex.
i wanted to have fun not stay home at night and take care of a baby.
i had my first at 21 and was a single mom because my bf was a jerk and left and it was hard enough. i wish i would of waited and lived a little more of mylife but i love my girls and am married now for a few years and love it too.
so do'nt catagorize everyone, on the irresponsible careless ones end up like you talk about
2007-10-28 14:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by 3 girls call me mommy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally agree with you. I dont see how they are missing out on anything at all. I think that as long as they are happy and in a relationship sometimes its better than an older couple having a child. Some teenagers are mature and are ready for a child. Maybe we should start saying that having a baby when you are in your 40's and up is a bad thing... But all it comes down to is sterotyping a certain group. I am not saying that i agree with girls the age of 13, 14 and even 15 should be having a child but geez people get of their backs! Good question
2007-10-28 14:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by ~Nik~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think parents mean their kids should be out having sex, doing drugs and drinking, but having a child to take care of means no more going out with your friends, headed to the movies, just being able to relax and enjoy your youth. I didn't get pregnant as a teen, but enjoyed dating, hanging out at my girlfriend's house, and shopping...all the fun things you do as a teen. Having a baby makes those things really hard.
2007-10-28 13:46:45 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-23 03:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. And whoever says "partying doesn't lead to drugs, drinking, or sex" well they must not have been to too many parties. Sure there are those occasional teens who do behave themselves, but thats only a handful.
2007-10-28 13:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they mean more like hanging out with your friends, going to the movies alot, dating, etc.
you cant do any of that because you need to give up your weekends and after school to take care of the baby. basically it is a legnthy way of saying you will not have a big social life ever again. your next social life will be in 5-6 years after the baby is born and you are going to PTA meetings and parent teacher confrences while your friends are just starting to finish college (maybe just starting.)
2007-10-28 13:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Catholic 14 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you. Ive never thought of it that way. But one thing I dont agree with is, when people say you are missing out, they dont always mean partying or friends. I think they mean more of an education, growing up, doing things other then partying that teens do. But alot of people say one thing and then say another thing.
2007-10-28 13:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Baby is finally here!! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Partying does not lead to drugs, alcohol and sex. Bad choices do that. Its the same as getting pregnant as a teen, its a bad choice. Even though lots of girls accidently end up pregnant, they had the choice of not being on birth control (with a few exceptions).
What is all boils down to are bad choices that result in people stuck in unhappy lives.
2007-10-28 13:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
They say that because they haven't really had a chance to live and enjoy life. Some people can handle that though because babies at a young age is what they prefer
2007-10-28 15:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kanesha J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i rarely party or drink . and i don't have sex! teens need to keep they're legs together. they give the rest of us a bad name
2007-10-28 15:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋