Do you agree with the statement "opposites attract but like should marry like"?

Answer 1

Opposites do attract, but being married to your opposite means a marriage that will be a lot of work. I mean a lot.

Let me give you some examples. I am a passionate, hopeless romantic. I go crazy at Christmas and birthdays. My husband does not. In 15 years I have been given flowers 2 times.

I love to be around people and am very outgoing. He wants to be with pretty much no one else but me and our children, or our families.

These things can really cause problems, especially if you have differences sexually. So make sure you talk this all out, understand where you are and can be secure in those differences.

I had to learn that not getting birthday cards or Mother's Day cards meant he didn't love me or care about me. It just means he doesn't think that way. But he does other wonderful things and I need to take that under consideration.

They can work, but be prepared, they are difficult.

Answer 2

In a sense, yes if you mean like minded should marry like minded. My husband and I have been together for 18 years and are polar opposites yet posess the same morals and ideals for life and what we want together. He's mellow, I'm not so much, I'm neurotic about every move the kids make, He's more laid back, He's very social, I prefer smaller "crowds". Ironically, He can't sit still, I'm content to just relax on the couch. He likes some music I'd never listen too and vice versa. That's part of what keeps us going though too. When he's being too laid back I step in and vice versa. When I don't want to go somewhere, he says let's go.
When he won't sit still, I say hey relax on the couch with us.
18 years- it works for us!

Answer 3

No. It's too general of a spectrum and lumps everyone into one big ugly category. The thing is...you and your spouse might very well be total opposites, but have one common thread or goal, or interest that is strong enough to keep you together. Personally, I would hate to marry someone just like me. How boring would that be? Better to find a compliment than a complete carbon copy, I think.

Answer 4

My wife and I are opposites in many ways. For one, I was a farm boy and she grew up on Chicago's west side. But our core values are the same (marriage, children, family, religion, education, life goals, etc). So we are opposites and likes. The differences in backgrounds have made 40 yrs of life together very interesting. As kids, I rode my horse to the swimming hole, she rode the bus to Wrigley Field.

Answer 5

I dont think total opposites actually work out. But I know the best relationship are those with lots of similarities and some opposites to balance each other out.

Answer 6

It depends on how opposite. A little bit of difference in personality is good. You don't want to be married to yourself! If he likes Coke and you like Pepsi, or you like chick flicks and he hates them..so what. It mixes things up a bit. But if it's something like a religious difference or totally different political views, you'll probably fight alot.

Answer 7

Not nessesarily. I mean, my husband and I aren't alike on a lot of things, but we have learned to compromise over the years.
A good marriage is based on honesty, love, communication, and commitment. If the 2 don't always agree on everything it's ok, they learn to make it work.

Answer 8

Haha, no.
If I married someone like me, I'd marry an overly confident, hard working, independant, crazy person! (lol).
But seriously, the man I'm engaged to is opposite of me but he's shown me so much.. he's taught me how to love by being different from me. And so, I'm marrying him.

Answer 9

Yes, to minimize long-term conflict after the "in love" wears off.

Answer 10

Nope! I believe have common interest is the best in a life partner...As far as friends, go figure!