I find myself less attracted to my wife and women in general and now look at men in a sexual way. I get extremely sexually excited when I look at men's groin, butt, face, etc and would like to experiment having male to male sex. Please help - I've been married for 18 years, have children, and now think I'm gay.
2007-10-28 12:57:41 · 13 answers · asked by bjoey006 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are only gay if you have only been exclusively sexually attracted to the same sex. Since you had an attraction towards women and also have an attraction towards men, you may be bisexual. I would concentrate on why you have become less attracted towards your wife instead of questioning your newfound attractions and consider marriage counseling.
2007-10-28 13:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, absolutely and without a doubt. Keep your 'straight' tag and wear it proudly brother. Many gay men (including myself) find extra pleasure in seducing straight men. When you do succomb to the gay sirens call, explain to your prospective sex partner that you are straight, and that you're willing to participate out of curiosity, nothing else. Draw a firm line between what you're willing to do and any activity with which you're not comfortable. "Don't you ******* try to kiss me or I'll punch you!!" Would be a strong affirmation of your straightboy status that contrarily will excite the lucky gay guy that's about to get into your uncharted pants. Undeniably, dudes give better head than women. Hey, we got one too, and having been on the other end of the fellated penis we know what feels good and what doesn't. Sucking cock requires stamina, technique and pain tolerance, not for wimps. The best kind of oral is moderately violent. Strong, relentless thrusts of the penis into the throat.
2016-04-11 00:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not say you are gay just because you have those feelings.
A lot of people are curious about the same sex..I think it is normal.
I guess you would have to actually go through with it and see how it affects you..but then, that would mean cheating on your wife, or losing her to find out.
How long have you been feeling this way? Maybe you are just bored with your current state, and are letting your mind wander.
Maybe try some new techniques with your wife.
Good luck..hope you get it figured out..and with as less hurt feelings as possible.
2007-10-28 13:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to determine whether you are gay or not is to have a gay encounter. test the waters to see if it's what you want in a sexual experience. being gay is not a wrong thing. if you are, that's ok. many people are attracted to the same sex.
2007-10-28 13:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by michael p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would have said "No, You're just used to each other and lost interest" but after reading all of the question, I too, would wonder. Maybe you are not actually gay but (hopefully) just curios. Remember though, curiosity killed the cat. Even secretly, it's not worth losing all you have got, so don't.
2007-10-28 13:07:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ava 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gay when you are only attracted to men, NOT AT ALL attracted to women.
2007-10-28 13:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by That Gay Guy for Da Ben Dan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your poor wife, she stuck in a relationship with you for 18yrs and her husband might be gay, you wasted her life buddy. Well done, hope you're proud of yourself.
2007-10-28 21:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who you are interested in having sex with.
Good Luck BB
2007-10-28 13:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're not gay.. maybe you're just curious on how things going on with them.. experimenting is just a part of learning so if you wanna try those then do it, you 'll lose nothing if you try something new, but you'll gain experience..
2007-10-28 13:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by devil snaire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe, maybe not. best thing to do is go ahead and try it and if you hate yourself afterwards then you are probably not gay
2007-10-28 14:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋