Okay I've been bestfriends with Ashley for almost 6 years. Daniel; her boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and they r long distance meaning they dont see eachother often. Im long distance with her also! She seems to have putting her boyfriend before ME! She talk to him everyday for at least 4 hours and me and her talk rarely and if so it's no more than an hour...I've deleted her off my myspace and everything.
The question is should i continue being her friend or not.
And i really would not rather talk to her about the situation..i have never put a boy in front of her!
2007-10-28 11:25:25 · 9 answers · asked by VeganChickk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Still be her friend, don't expect her to talk to you, be there for her when they finally break up
2007-10-28 11:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should continue being her friend.
First, you should tell her how you feel about the situation. If you are truly good friends you should be able to talk about anything. Second, the shoe will be on the other foot. When you start dating someone you will do the same. When you find yourself is a serious relationship you will spend more time with that person. That is what you call love. Don't jump off the deep end because she is not talking to you as much. You should support her and still be her friend. Like I said before you will be doing the same and I hope she will not void you off of her myspace page....
2007-10-28 11:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by specialteadybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you are not being the mature one by being spiteful and deleting her off of your friends list. You really do need to talk to her about this, it really is the only way to fix the problem. It is normal for her to talk to him more than you, if she has been with him for 2 years then they are close, plus the fact that they live so far away from each other, they talk more. She can't see him all the time or talk to him so when they do talk she wants to make sure she does not leave anything out. Which might take a while. You need to be more patient with her, you need to just tell her look I wish you would talk to me more you are my best friend. I will work out if you make the effort to try.
2007-10-28 11:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the distance is taking its toll on your friendship. I would let her make the next move when it comes to any kind of contact and see how long it actually takes for her to miss your company. Sometimes boyfriends can be the most important thing for some girls. You just have to ride it out. Maybe if you get a boyfriend you will do the same thing. You never know.
2007-10-28 11:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by sweetangelgreeneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to find that when friends meet someone special they will spend more time with them or talking to them. Good friends are understanding about this and one day it will be you who is on the phone or out all the time with your someone special and i bet you would be upset if all your friends left you.
As you grow you all find different directions in life sometimes they lead you apart for a bit but if you keep and open mind and have respect for your friends then friendships can last a lifetime.
Good luck and lighten up on your friend ok.
2007-10-28 11:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you don't put boys in front of her doesn't mean she has to do the same for you. Trust me, all my friends who had girl friends put them in front of me, and I acknowledge that. Those girls make my friends happy, and I can understand that they would want to spend time with them rather than hanging out with me. Its called sacrifice, and I'm willing to do it if it my friends are in love. You should realize that that boy makes your friend happy and its not the happiness you can provide. She is still your friend, just close to significant other. You shouldn't end your friendship because you are Jealous (yes, thats what it is). Wait for a good time and tell your friend how you feel, don't be a douche. Hope that helps.
2007-10-28 11:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does that .. then do what you gotta do .. but Just so you know , Everyone feel that way when they loose a Best friend . just try to talk to her face to face or on the phone ..if u got her phone number .and tell her how you feel about that situation . but even through u did that . You' ll be alright . You'll get through it .. Like everyone use . and if she ask for ur help about her boyfriend .then help her then say that you miss her so much as a best friend then u will get ur best friend back
2007-10-28 12:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's one of those things, not everyone is the same, u wont put ur dude b4 her she does the opposite. dont stop being her friend becos of this, distance and time apart when combined destroy realtionships, if you value ur friendship then you be the one to keep in touch.
just hang in there i guess if the both of you happen to be in the same area then you will be in touch better,
2007-10-28 11:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by xdrealpx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem lies with you. You as her friend should be happy for her that she has someone special in her life. If you want to be her friend then support her with the relationship and quit making her out to be a bad friend.
2007-10-28 11:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Beverly C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋