my 11 yr old had one period 2 months ago is this normally for it not to be every month?

Question

by the way she can't be pregnant shes only just 11 and it was horrrendous, bad pain and very heavy it hasn't happened again, does this happen

it was definately a period, I have endometriosis, the problem is she goes very red and upset and doesn't want to talk about it,I try to be very open, but she says its dirty and she feels horrible, I think to get her to talk to a dr would really upset her

Answer 1

She is younger than average, but it is in fact very common to have an odd period and then a gap. It could take more than a year to establish regular monthly periods. I am a bit worried that she had such a bad time at such a young age and it might be a good idea to take her to the GP to discuss some potential strategies to help with her next period when it does come.

Answer 2

Dont worry. Everyone told me it would go regular after Id had my first child. 4 children later they did. My daughter was irregular for about 4 or 5 years with very heavy painful periods. So were my sisters, mum and gran. Its really a curse in our family. For the younger ones of us the only real cure was going on the pill, but obviously your daughter cant do that just yet!
On a lighter note, we had a little book given us at school (written by a man!) that said periods lasted 2 or 3 days and were a bit inconvenient but werent painful. ha!

Answer 3

This is completely and utterly NORMAL!

I am not 100% sure from your question if this is her very first period, but it probably doesn't matter, because it is very early in her puberty, and it takes time for things to settle into a pattern.

11 is NOT alarmingly early to start, I started at that age, yes I was the first in my class as far as I know, but I soon had company! We are ALL DIFFERENT and our hormones react differently. But one thing many of us have in common is that our menstrual cycles take time to develop a 28-ish day rhythm. I seem to remember a long wait from my first to second period, but I was a precocious brat who read her sister's Cosmopolitan magazine, so I wasn't worried!

It really does sound normal to me, though of course I must add that I am a lay person, not a doctor!

I wouldn't worry about irregularities until she has been menstruating for around 2 years really.

Obviously take her to the doctor if the menstrual pain can't be relieved by normal over the counter pain relief, whether it's her first of fiftieth period.

Or of course if her period is so heavy that you feel she really is losing too much. It would still probably be normal, but she might benefit from Iron tablets if that's the case, anaemia is very common and easily treated!

But I really wouldn't be concerned about irregular periods at such a young age, that is normal.

Puberty is a gradual process. Imagine the shock to your system if it happened all at once! I think it's natures way of easing us into it all, but in modern times we are often so eager to get things done immediately that we forget natures lessons! I really hope this helps xx

Answer 4

Yes, this definitely happens. I am so sorry it was horrendous for you. I bet you don't want to go through that again. With time, it should subside and you should feel better, but you will need to find out those things you can't eat while on your period.
For instance, I can't drink soda, the sugar and the cafeine make me crazy. I can't eat junk food, the sodium will make me have bad cramps. I can't eat salads, the fiber absorb water while in my stomach and I feel terrible. You might want to stay away from these kinds of food. In fact, I feel terribly thirsty while I'm on my period, but if i give in to the craving, I will bloat all the more from drinking too much water, so I have to watch what I'm doing. Maybe you should try that too.
If after 3 or 4 days you are still menstruating heavily you could have a sodium imbalance, you have flushed out so much you can't retain your water. On the 4th day, get some orange juice and drink a glass and let's see if the potassium doesn't help you retain your water and get that to slow down. You could also use a sports drink or prune juice. If you're still menstruating heavy, drink another glass the next day. You may cramp, so be sure and get some acetaminophen before you drink it so it won't upset your stomach. Don't take aspirin, it will thin your blood and make you heavy again.
If you can't start now, it may be that you are too dehydrated and you can't gain enough water weight to flush out your uterus. Get some orange juice or eat a salad, and let's see if that doesn't draw more fluid into your system. (But once you start, stay away from it for at least 3 days until you're done menstruating.) If I can't gain my water weight I can't menstruate either. I find this to be the hardest part. If I can just get started, it's all downhill from there.
Remember, try and keep your cool. If you stress out, it will be harder for you. You can take some ginseng, it really relaxes me, and I pop Tums calcium to soothe down my stomach. B complex vitamins can help your stress. I've started after taking B vitamins after a few days and it really does help.
You're going to crave and have a yen for anything, but it's best to just relax and be yourself. Go see a comedy and laugh, laugh until your sides ache. Have fun, go shopping, and get your mind off it. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine. Don't let cramps rule your life. If you don't feel like it, this is the best thing you can do for yourself. Relax and go with the flow. It will be all right. Be yourself. This too shall pass. It will be OK. Tell yourself that. You can learn to manage this.
I hope this helps you.

Answer 5

I can remember when I started at age 10 and then did not start my period again for a whole year plus. You could always just call and ask your doctor, hospital or health department or clinic what they think. So many women have irregular periods it's hard to tell since she's so young. You could also try WebMD great website. Goodluck!

Answer 6

Well, something similar happen to me when I was that age, and yes my period was not normal, for most cases it would regulate after couple of month, but in my case it didn't so my parents took me to the gynecologist and they found out that I had Polycystic Ovaries, which was the cause of my irregular periods, it not as bad as it sounds, after medication and diet change and continue exercise my period was normal, but is not to alarm you, but my best advise take you daughter to the gynecologist.

Answer 7

Don't worry, this is normal... when I started, a few months later we had the 'feminine hygiene' lady lady come to the school to give us the talk during the girls P.E time... I was smiliar to your daughter and asked the same question... she said that it was perfectly normal and not to worry as many girls experience this when they start their period.

As the previous answerer said, it does take time for periods to settle to regular timeframe

Answer 8

It will take a while before her body figures out what it's supposed to do.
My 13 year old has had 2 periods in the past year and her doctor assured us that this was normal.

Answer 9

She is so young, but it is probably the start. It may take several years for regular periods to get established. Reassure her, as she is probably a bit freaked out by it.

Suggest you also research it with her and the two of you get educated so you both know what's going on. Have you taken her to the doctor, who can also provide education?

Answer 10

Perfectly normal ! It may never regulate, but not unusual to be without a pattern. Warm compresses and Aleve help with pain.