im 17 as is my best friend. i really think he is gay...like read my other questions which will give more detail. but anyway, he gives me so many signs but idk how to ask him, or bring it up. i mean what are the odds that two kids who have been best friends since 1st grade, now juniors, are both gay??? seriously, is it a coincidence, or justdestiny? or am i just wrong about my assumptions? but if i want to bring it up, should i ask if he wants to j__k off together through aim, or what? i need some help...thanks!
2007-10-28 09:06:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey terps....I agree with the first poster. If he is your best mate, then you could start this by first getting out there that you are gay. I know you don't like this idea....you want to be able to keep your secret a secret until the guy conforms for you that he is gay. Problem is....that is almost impossible to do.
Think of yourself and this issue. You are gay, but are very worried/scared about coming out to someone. Your friend is probably the same EXACT way.
Think of it another way.....honestly.....if your friend asked you if you were gay, without you knowing anything about him being gay, would you reply honestly? I have a feeling you would say no, right? Same thing with your friend.
So, that means the only way you are going to get this relationship to take a step forward is for you to give it a little nudge. Maybe says something like this to him....on AIM or in person..."what would you think if I told you I sometimes think I might be gay?".....something like that. You are not saying you are, just asking the question. If he then asks you point blank "why....are you gay?", you need to have the strength to say "yes" and take if from there.
I really think you need to make the first step. And as I've said in the past......this kid seems like a good kid and a good friend, so the WORST case scenario is he finds out you are gay, and he is not. But, think about that.....it's not that bad. He's your best friend. He sounds like the type that would be cool about this and would remain your best friend and respect your wishes to keep it secret. You would finally be able to be yourself when you are with your friend. You have no idea how incredible this will make you feel. And remember.......this is the WORST case scenario. Not so bad, really.
And I did not even get to the BEST case scenario! :) Terps, you need to have some faith and trust in your relationships. They are a lot stronger than you think! :)
2007-10-28 09:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
If he is truly your best m8 and you think he is gay and you know 100% you are perhaps you could start but telling him that you think you might be gay this might prompt him into saying how he feels if he is gay etc.
Might even work out how you want.
Either way you can progress but if he is strictly against being gay he will react badly but if he pauses before saying anything then you may be suprised
2007-10-28 16:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by cutecambslad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it......
2007-10-28 16:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by PARKERD 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋