Can you differentiate between some personal bad experiences and hating a whole gender?

Question

We all have good and bad experiences with people.
I would never hate men because I had the misfortune of having some bad experiences with some jerks, as I judge people according to their behaviour as individuals.

So why it seems in this category that there are so many generalizations?

Thoughts?

Answer 1

I think the only way to survive in the world is by recognizing the absolute necessity of making those kinds of distinctions. There would be no way to exist in relative harmony if people held grudges forever. Wars happen because people hate entire religions and races for a period of time. The so-called battles men and women have are termed "gender wars", as if we're in a battle. Most of the women here indicate that they love men...most of us have male friends and family members, so we can't really hate men as a group. Many have had negative experiences with men, but hopefully have not then branded all men as negative people. The same would go for any group.

Answer 2

Blaming a whole gender takes the responsibility away from the individuals who have hurt you in the past. ""It's not their fault if it's part of who they are as a [Man and/or Woman] blah... blah... blah...'"" Who needs that kind of thinking. If someone hurts you it's because of a flaw in their character, most of the time involving indecision, and that falls on them not on some random assignment of identifying criteria

Answer 3

1. When you have a bad expirience with a person of the opposite sex, you mainly made a mistake and choose the wrong person who just so happened to be that gender.

Example: if you choose someone that you thought was right for you but they eneded up breaking their heart, then you have choosen the wring person

2. Hating a whole gender means you hate the gender becuase you dislike the dislike the characteristic or triats that gender was born with or you hate the way that gender usually acts.

Example: Hatred shown towards men becuase of the way women were treated in the past or "penis" envy.

Or the fact that women can live longer than men and most men are envios of that fact.

I have done the same with a bad expirience with a female friend and i have often taken it out on the whole gender. It is a common tiong with gender, race ethnicity and religion that we blame the whole group for something one person did.
Example: the jews

Answer 4

Unless you are an actually Jehovah Witness, you could not possibly answer this question. Everything a person states will be hearsay and not be based on any knowledge themselves have. To answer a question based off what you have been told gives you an ignorance to any facts about the religion and a bit of a closed mind. Jehovah's Witnesses believe in living strictly by the Bible. They do everything voluntarily. They give of our time, energy and money. They do not get paid for the time we spend going out talking to people about the Bible. They as well as others only give donations out of are on will. Never are collections taken at their meetings. They follow the example of Jesus Christ. They go where the people are and do not wait for people to walk into their meetings. They believe God's Kingdom will eradicate all of mankind's problems. They do not believe that all good people will go to heaven but instead the earth was intended for humans to inhabit. When God's kingdom get's rid of all of the problems, the earth will be a wonderful place live. Just to name a few things

Answer 5

I don't believe hating a whole gender because of some bad experiences is warranted. However, as far as misogyny is concerned, I'm convinced that it all goes back to what is recorded in Genesis regarding Adam and Eve.

It is widely believed that Eve tempted or seduced Adam to disobey Almighty God in the Garden of Eden. When Almighty God questioned Adam, what did Adam do? Blamed Eve for his disobedience. Because of this, I'm convinced that misogyny came first. It set in and became widespread, even unto this present day and time. There are still men who blame women for everything gone wrong in their (men's) lives.

I believe we've all heard this too many times: If women get sexually assaulted, it's their fault, not the men's. If women get brutally beaten by their husbands or boyfriends, it's their fault, not the husbands or boyfriends. What do these men say? "She made me do it." No self-control. Yet, these are the same men who are convinced they are superior to women. And these same men would be the first to complain about women hating men. What do they expect?

If people want to waste precious time and energy hating an entire gender, they will have to live with that hatred. That's no one else's problem.

Answer 6

Its hard not to especially when one is trying to make sense of everything. I have had 2 relationships so far in my life with women, and both turned out to be cold hard bitches and I didn't even go looking in a bad area for women. At first my mind rationalized that all women were like that, but I knew that was wrong. The people who don't realize this, will never recover from the event in which caused them to hate that gender

Answer 7

I think we can all try. But even when we aren't aware of it those memories may still be affecting our behavior. As long as we come to terms with the fact or keep reminding ourselves that one bad apple doesn't spoil the rest we can get better at not over generalizing.

People on here probably over generalize because they feel like the whole world has done them a disservice in some way. This leads to feelings of anger or resentment. This in turn causes people to personify the object of their anger in a person even if that person is innocent.

Answer 8

Yes.
I have had bad experiences as well, and it's easy to be a difficult person, re-live the past over and over again and mistreat others, which I was and used to do sometimes, but have realised since years ago that one's actions are personal choices one makes, exclusive of any bad past experiences...a group of people are not to blame for what one person or several have done. I'm still protective of myself, but not a meany anymore, am much happier this way.
Good question. :-)

Answer 9

I'm not sure why there are so many generalizations, but they really annoy me as well. I suppose I can understand, though, that those bad experiences with people were extremely painful, and those sorts of things are hard to get over.

My biological father was physically/emotionally abusive, and one of my previous boyfriends cheated on me. It was tough, it sucked, but I got over it. I forgave them for the pain they caused, and moved on. I don't hate men, I'm not afraid of them, and I am currently in a wonderful, healthy relationship with a perfectly wonderful person, whom I love very much.

Hating an entire group of people because of one or two bad experiences is like swearing off bicycles just because you fall and scrape your knees once or twice.

It's quite ridiculous, really.

Answer 10

Well this is the local watering hole of wounded people of both genders. Think about it, who with only positive experiences from the other gender would ever think of even checking this place out, let alone posting here?

Lashing out at 50% of the population is just a way of restoring some sense of power, control and self-esteem.