example going like commitment, yes please, respect, yes make it double, obedience to your husband ? Heck no. A husband that lais down his life for his family ? Of course I expect that. Do those so called "modern marriages" work out better than the traditional ones ?
2007-10-28 06:57:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its what the bible says. YOu dont like it ? Dont marry.
2007-10-28 07:07:27 · update #1
MissE you are a prime example for the worst possible woman to marry a man could come across.
2007-10-28 07:13:47 · update #2
Aphasia I guess you are one of those women who believe the pope is an @ss the bible chibrish, but you still want marriage.
2007-10-28 07:56:25 · update #3
Marriage is between 2 people, so there has to be compromise. It's not a dictatorship. Both people have feelings, needs and the right to express their likes, dislikes, etc. You should not be "following" an outline imposed by only 1 partner. You should both agree. If not, then compromise. Meet each other half way! If your spouse is dictating rules to you, it's not a marriage, they are being controlling and that won't last too long! People in love don't try to control each other. No one needs to be obedient, that's what a dog is. Each of you should have mutual respect for one another and treat each other respectfully in private and in public. With respect, committment is a given. It sounds like this spouse is a little insecure with the relationship and is trying to control it! Your spouse needs to understand what trust means and respect you enough to trust you. I don't believe that there is an outline to follow, whether you want to call it traditional or modern. It's really about your personal relationship with one another and discovering what works best. It's not the same for everyone. You guys need to communicate in a loving manner. Good luck.
2007-10-28 07:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by Susan N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked that you think you can even find a woman today who is willing to vow to love, honor and OBEY. I thought that went out of the standard vows a long time ago. Think about it: why would a woman sell her soul to slavery that way? Marriage is a give and take thing, a series of little compromises, if it's going to work. If you are thinking of getting married, I'd suggest you take some marriage counseling classes together beforehand to make sure you are both on the same page about other things like how to raise children and finances.
2007-10-28 07:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My vows didn't include anything about obedience to anyone - so no cherry picking for me.
What man lays down his life for his family? I really don't understand what you mean by that. Do you mean that you give up all the fun you were having as a bachelor to take care of your family. If that's the case - well, your wife did the same to take care of her family. Have you no respect for her "laying down her life" for the family?
And what do you mean by "modern marriages" vs "traditional marriages"? I have no clue what that's supposed to mean. Maybe you should define your terms more clearly if you want thoughtful answers...
2007-10-28 07:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like how you slipped the obedience to your husband in their. A woman with any self respect is not going to be with a husband who expects her to "obey" him. Maybe you'd be better off getting yourself a dog.
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and "its what the bible says if you don't like it don't get married." Excuse me but all cultures have marriage, they are not all believers of your bible. And neither am I.
2007-10-28 07:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by nonymouse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please clarify this bunch of questions....Use better English. I am married now 26 years. There is his way, my way, and we meet somewhere in the middle. Both have mutual respect for each other, and nothing is ever cut and dried. So there is many kinds of rules as you say in marriages. Some are subservient...(not good in my eyes)...and some women like that. Husbands laying down what laws??? Be more clear here ! Spending laws...intimacy laws... cleaning laws....????
2007-10-28 07:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Toffy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bible says a lot of things usually not flattering of woman.
A marriage is a legal commitment NOT a religious one
Hence please leave THAT book, written by men, out of it
As an answer to your comment;
Well it takes a real man to handle a real woman like me.
2007-10-28 07:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by MissE 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I expect my pets to be obedient, children and spouses are people with feelings.
2007-10-28 07:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋