Is it good to have friends with opposite genders? Is it good to send messages and share emails?

Question

Dear friends even though it is great to have friends, it is dangerous to believe anyone on net.

Make sure Y/A friendship doesn’t effect your life in any way. Don’t take Y/A friends too much to heart. Don’t waste lots of time on them and spoil your studies or day to day activities.
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Answer 1

in some ways it does help you because then you get to share ideas on how you feel on some certain subjects.
when you share emails you get a little more knowledge and get more socially involved with the person
and you get to know people and their ideas toward things better while being friends with the opposite sex.
you get to know the way our life moves cause our whole life we are not only going to be with our gender our whole world is created on mixtures.

but on the other hand it is very hard for people of the opposite sex to be friends cause sooner or later the friendship turns into love between you and your friend.

and our society is not always in our favor and going against us and our friends and making rumors about things which makes it hard to stay friends

you know how they say a girl and a boy can never be JUST friends.

but it all depends on how your carry your relationships

from indianbeauty
Punjabi Girl

Answer 2

There is not much an issue with me having friends of either gender. Whether on the net or in person, the danger is always there. Admittedly though, the net is more dangerous because we all came in anonymously. The messages and emails we share with each other are our form of getting connected and they can pretty much speak of the kind of person we are.

We can gauge the hearts of our contacts or community members at Y/A by the way they ask and answer. It's up to us to nurture the acquaintances we share here and let such blossom into a lasting friendship in time.

We cannot be cynical indiscriminately. There are still quite a number of good and sincere people around if only we know how to find them. Let us begin with ourselves.

Answer 3

Having friends is a great joy....people are social beings and as such friends are a must....friends are there to share both joyous and sad occasions in a person life...by this, people become happier (when joyful) and they get through their pain easier (when sad)....sending emails is a great way of keeping in touch with your friends...especially if you are separated from them by distance...it is a great way to exchange stories and ideas....a great way to strengthen the relationship that is already there....having friends of the opposite sex is also a good thing....men have different traits than female friends...i think they are more patient, they dont find faults and are more forgiving...they do not magnify the small mistakes and instead ignore them...on the other hand, female friends are better listeners, they give good advices, they are very loyal and they know how to comfort you....a mix of male and female friends is therefore a great thing to have...

but you are also right....you cant trust everybody that you meet on the net....its easy to appear nice when you dont see the person face to face...its easy to deceive people when you are just sending email messages...so an amount of caution should also be exerted....

Answer 4

I do know that. U know I do !

It is really hard to get my trust. I like all my friends from y/a, but I give many things in my life more importance. Sometimes I don't even reply to the messages until during weekends when I get the time.

I guess it is okay to have friends from opposite genders as long as u know that u can trust them. How to know who to trust who not to ? Well here is how I do it-

Trust people who

- repects ur ideas and believes rather than trying to change u
- understands ur standpoint
-don't ask a lot of personal questions
-Give u advices when u need them
-give u good reponds
-talk appropriately

Also check out their profile and see how they answer and what their believes are.

Thats how I do it. I do have friends from both genders (few though since a lot of people don't pass all the requirements).
y/a is a fun place. I mean most of us r here to help others. I mean we all could have just sat home and watched t.v in our spare times. But we r all here to understand other people and help them. So most all of us should have atleast an open heart. I am assuming. Again it is personal preference, whether u want friends from opposite gender. As long as u r comfortable with it and u think u can hadle it well. I don't see a problem.

DO U ??

Answer 5

Is it good to have friends? It is always good to have friends.
Is it good to have friends of the opposite gender? Yes, as long as the relationships are clear.
I don’t want to make any one jealous because their mate is one of my friends. We all have lives different from our partners and so we will have different friends. I have had friends who I wish were more than just friends, but I am too honorable of a person to interfere in a relationship between two partners. I have also had friends who didn’t want to be more than friends. Oh well we were still friends.

The true question underlying here is, “Can you have friends of the opposite gender (or same sex if you are gay) and not be cheating? That is possible, but it can get complex. To men the most important part of a relationship with a partner is the sex, but to a woman it is the relationship itself.

When the priest ended up staying the night at Tony Soprano’s house Tony wasn’t worried. A priest would not have an affair with his wife. However to the wife it was an affair, a safe one, but still an outside relationship that was closer than that with her own husband. People are likely to confuse close relationships with threats to their relationship with their partner. It is up to both parties of the partnership to make sure that they can trust each other and that they know enough about the person and their friends to be sure that they won’t “fool around’ on them. That requires a strong personal relationship in the partnership and a great deal of trust. A good partnership will have that strong relationship and that trust.

The Internet allows us to be anonymous and that means you can be dishonorable without necessarily paying the price. So yes, you have to be very wary of what you hear from others on the Internet. The question is how much do you trust your source. When I answer a factual question I try to find a Wikipedia reference so the person reading the answer can trust it. Just my word isn’t enough, and I have found that I have been wrong. I have written up an answer and then looked it up and had to change my answer to correct my mistake. Luckily, I haven’t posted too many errors (only 1 that I know of and it is why I don’t answer questions on pregnancy anymore).

I do spend a lot of time on Yahoo Answers and some of it seems a little bit of a waste. I mean what use are those points really? The last time I checked I was in 2,000th place so there is no chance of me gaining the top spot. I thought that once I reached level 7 I would stop, and I have slowed down a little, but I am addicted and I keep coming back.

The ultimate answer to your questions is trust. You have to know about your friends in order to trust them and the same is true on Yahoo Answers. I would never have even answered this question if you weren’t one of my contacts and asked me to answer your questions in a personal note. I like to stick to the facts and teach not preach.

PS. It is not a waste of time answering questions here because I have used it to improve my writing, I am seriously considering on becoming a professional writer and if I ever do so then a good deal of my train for that came from answering Yahoo Answer questions.

PPS. I take Yahoo Answers her, through this portal I have saved a marriage, I have met the woman I want to marry and I have made a few friends. I have saved a few term papers and taught a lot of people, who knows I may have even saved a life with some of my advice. So all of you please take this board seriously and work out your answers or don’t bother to even enter one just for the two points. You are wasting your time and ours.

Answer 6

I don't communicate with a lot of people yet. My time is spent researching and answering questions, and I do spend too much time doing it. I'm neglecting roleplaying and penpalling, as well as other activities. However, that's probably because I haven't felt well enough to do much of anything else.

I can see how many people might get caught up in emailing friends they meet here because you can find people who share their interests. The bad thing would be disrupting homework time or activities. I understand how that could happen since I visit this site so much.

Gender has never mattered to me, not ever in my life. I have male penfriends, too, and roleplay with males. I've had some delightful messages about movies with a man in my age group who recalls the things I do.about movies, actors, directors and other details. Gender isn't an issue.

Answer 7

It's great to have friends of either gender! People who have time to share messages and E-mails! I do agree that in Y/A everyone is a stranger and care should be taken to protect your self and not to give out you home address and if you give out your phone number it can be traced to your home address through a reverse directory. And an e-mail friend is an acquaintance not a good friend. Though a good e-mail friend if you share the same values and morals, so you have things in common. It's nice to have people who don't really know you to ask advice from, less embarrassment for some. A good outlet for others. Information traded is a wonderful thing.

Answer 8

It has become essential like a watch, mobile, style to show off the friend. If we do not have a friend from the opposite gender then it tends to make us abnormal in todays system.
It's natural to have friends of opposite sex. Opposites always attract. Many like-natured couple have failed in Marriage/Business. The opposing nature in each come handy to analyze problems and have a whole and complete family and future. As for Good or Bad, its upon the intellect to decide. Those who go by sensuous mind, fall for the trap. We with good character will see the good in others and that has changed many relations.
Remember PELT !

Answer 9

Hi..
When you speak of friendship with opposite genders, I'm assuming you're speaking of true friendship, not acquaintances you meet on the Internet..
True friendship, is about trust.. Regardless of gender..
Someone who wants the best for you, and someone who will tell you the truth, even though it may my difficult at times..
I have several female friends, one of which, we've know each other since we were in kindergarten. Now we both have grown children of our own. I also have two male friends that I have known through the years, that I can honestly say,are my friends...Friends will always welcome each other, and be there for each other..
On the other hand, acquaintances that you meet on the Internet, are just that, acquaintances! Many are not looking to establish a long lasting friendship..
Some are people, looking to chat with someone..Some want to establish an intimate relationship..Some just want to pass the time..Then again, some are really sincere about wanting to meet that "Special Someone"..And yes..it can happen!
However, you still have to be careful what information you share with these strangers..And extra careful, if you choose to meet them in person!
Just be careful with your personal information..try not o share your personal business with strangers..
Take care all..try to enjoy the rest of the weekend!

Answer 10

This question is interesting. I believe their is no problem to have Friends of the opposite gender. If you cannot have Friends sending messages, e-mails then there is something wrong with the relationship. Trust is the issue.