What can you do about this situation???
I mean, on one hand, you want to help them, but on the other....your senses just tell you that they are going to end of screwing up your own sense of happiness in the world!!
2007-10-28 06:10:11 · 28 answers · asked by Flutterby!!! 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am afraid some people are just too sad for me is all I am saying!!!
2007-10-28 06:10:33 · update #1
Hermoinie?...Is that you?
2007-10-28 06:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have had a person tell me that - I tried to help as much as I possibly could and got burned in the process. So badly burned that it has effected everything else in my life too. I mean EVERYTHING. Am thinking latetly, that the person is either a devil re-incarnated or does know a heck of a lotta folk in the know and in the how of the world. It's very, very embaressing! What I can do about? Apparently not a lot. If the SHE wants, then her friends get it..her friends being of position. Am a mere person trying to help her out and this is the way she gets back at me? Geez! I wont be helping anyone out soon not for love certainly not for money! Someone's made pretty darn sure I don't.
2007-10-28 13:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by upyerjumper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your Instincts. You are not going to make anyone happy, hapiness comes from within. Happiness as definition: results from the possession or attainment of what one considers good: the happiness of visiting one's family. Bliss is unalloyed happiness or supreme delight: the bliss of perfect companionship. Contentment is a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish may not have been gratified.
On the other hand make sure you follow your inner voice and run. Those "unhappy feelings" will follow you if you don't run....
2007-10-28 13:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Carmencita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, adults need to be responsible for their own needs. Follow your senses. It's OK to help someone out, but, if you make someone happy and the reflection back to you is not good. Well, it's time to look in a different direction. You just reminded me of a great old song. "Don't worry be happy". Ciao
2007-10-28 13:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by ontheedge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what you can to help the person, but know you're limit, if you get too over-involved with someone who really has no interest in helping themselves, you will end up hurt and disappointed.
Just do what you can, back away when you need to, and take away from the situation, that you helped a person in need, whether successful or not, and maybe one day that person will look back and remember you in a way that will change their life.
Either way, you did a good deed and you should be proud of yourself for even trying.
2007-10-28 13:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hang around people like this. They need you to serve them and make them happy but they are selfish. Some people just think their partner is there as a slave and they do nothing for the partner. They put a high value on stuff they do for you and a low value on what you do for them.
2007-10-28 13:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by wemblania 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many people don't get this...NO ONE can make you unhappy. You have a choice whether to be happy or not just as you have a choice to have a person in your life or not. There are people you would prefer not to be around but your happiness does not depend on them nor theirs on you. It's a hard lesson for humans to understand. We are so tuned in on "things and people", that we think, "If I only had this I would be happy...If this person would only love me, I would be happy..." Get it? None of those things work...you have to get up each morning and make a choice...whatever is going on in your life, what am I going to do with this day...waste it moaning and groaning...or find something to enjoy and be thankful for...It's our choice.
Update, so I get a thumbs down...for what? Can anyone honestly tell me "things or people" should make us happy????
2007-10-28 13:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by swtserenity43 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right. Some people say they need you, so you think , that's good, and start trying to get closer. When you do they treat you like a bit of the furniture, and start ignoring you. I have learnt that it does not do to get too close or to believe what those types of people (women in my case ) say.
2007-10-28 13:16:02 · answer #8 · answered by Poirot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah,my gfriend .I kicked her out a few weeks ago and told her she has to get a job and work for at least a month before she can come back,the lazy cow.I have had some great times since.Going to be a bummer if she comes back.
2007-10-28 13:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by Equal Animal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer, not need. You can't be happy with a needy person if you don't love & adore them. My friend has
been in one relationship after another with needy guys. She can't stand it to not jump in and try to heal them..it just won't
work. A needy person usually becomes domineering and
jealous. They don't want to lose their savior.
2007-10-28 13:23:27 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wory. If certain friends say they need you buy make you feel down then they're just leeches sucking off your happiness.
You shouldn't really spend too much time with them in my opinion because I had some friends like that and they just make you feel down and I can do with less of that with my GCSE's closing in. Ahhhhhh.
Enjoy your day =)
2007-10-28 13:13:32 · answer #11 · answered by TomRox 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋