I had to perform oral on him. He has been under a lot of stress lately..so I'm sure it has to do with that...but should I worry? Is this a fairly common thing? We've been together for two years and eveything has been great until this. I'd like to hear about others' experiences...
2007-10-28 05:38:49 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the good answers out there! My apologies for limiting the question to married women..
2007-10-28 05:52:52 · update #1
It happens. Maybe it's the stress or maybe he had too much to drink. Don't make a big deal out of it because it will just add unnecessary stress which could cause it to happen again. It's really common for a man to have this problem occasionally.
2007-10-28 05:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
It is normal to not be able to maintain an erection if you are stressed out. If it becomes a routine every time you are about to have sex, than you need to get him to see a doctor. Sometimes its medical and a wonder pill takes care of the problem. If it is not medical, than honey you need to find out if having sex with you is the only sex he is having or is there some extra marital affair going on. He I'm sure is only stressed and needs time to clear his head, but don't let it become a routine. It is OK to sometimes just change the sexual routine and just have foreplay and Oral once in a while to keep that spark there. Try that and see if it helps take the pressure off of performing for intercourse. Let me know how it goes. I'm curious to know.
2007-10-28 05:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Simbha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress can kill alot of things even an erection. I wouldnt worry at this point give it some time. Relive some stress in other areas of his life do a few of his household chores take a long hot shower give him a massage etc... dont put any extra sexual pressure or give him grief about your insecurities over it that could make it worse. Some extra time and thoughtfulness on your part will have him rising to the occasion in no time.
2007-10-28 05:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by verafyde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this happens. You don't make a big deal out of it or it will get worse TRUST ME. He will then be stressed out over whether or not he can keep an erection and totally fail. Just pretend it didn't happen. And continue this way when it does. If it occurs more frequently as time goes on he should check with a doctor. It could be stress or something is developing in his health condition.
2007-10-28 05:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't take a married woman to comment on erectile dysfunction.
Yes, what you mention is common and most men go through it on occasion. If it occurs a lot, he may want to see his doctor to rule out a medical issue. However life pressure, stress, anxiety, alcohol, drugs, and other things can all affect a man's abiltity to have or maintain an erection.
Nothing to worry about at this point...it's an isolated incident so far and likely not going to be an issue. There are many drugs available now to help guys keep it goin' ☺
2007-10-28 05:44:23 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Could be due to many things. Truth is, erections are created by blood flow to the area and, over time and due to use, the canal which blood flows through will stretch. When this happens, it is more difficult to have an erection as the blood flows back down. If this continues, he may wish to look into Cialis or Viagra as they send the flow back to where it belongs. This is a normal occurence and one that many men have or will have; they just don't like to admit it.
2007-10-28 07:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors that might be causing this. Stress could have been the culprit. I would say if this is the first time that this has happened to not worry too much about it. However, if this continues to be a problem then it may be something he may want to see a doctor about.
2007-10-28 05:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by flinttownpoker 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably wasn't fully in the mood and had some stress due to thinking about other things.
Let him approach you next time. You don't want to place him under pressure to "perform." Focus on cuddling and hugging. Let him take the lead.
Certainly don't focus on the issue, bc that will probably cause him anxiety and worsen the situation.
If he was older say around 50 I'd say it could be erectile dysfunction. What's his age?
2007-10-28 05:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by Contemplative 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have not had any experience with this, however we are young (24 and 28) and newly married.
To me it sounds as though stress is the culprit. However drugs, alcohol, medications and general aging can be a culprit in the inability of a man to keep an erection as well.
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2016-05-16 01:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋