2007-10-28 05:17:20 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's called trust. Sounds like you may have some insecurity issues. What if she did? you need to get over it.
2007-10-28 05:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Honestly you need to trust her and not worry about the past. Live in the present and for the future. If you are concerned that she has slept with men while you are engaged then that it a different story. If you are concerned about the men she has slept with in the past then that is insane. How many women have you slept with and is your girl concerned about that number? If the answer is no to that question then why are you worried about her sexual past. Trust me because I have been there, if you cannot let go of the past you have no future and besides would you really want to marry her if you do not trust her. The problem here is you (your issues on trust) talk to her before you get married because divorce cost more than marriage (especially when children are involved). If you love her trust her and let the past go. Think about the here and now.
2007-10-28 05:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant unless she tells you. But why would you want to know? If you suspect she has been with someone else while you two have been together, Then there is a trust thing going on and you should hold off marriage until you are sure of her one way or the other. If you are wondering if she had sex before you met her, its none of your business. What counts is what has happened from the moment the two of you became a couple.
2007-10-28 05:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her for God sake.
You can't very well start examining her down below can you!
And what if she has had sex prior to being with you,thats her business,not yours,and if she has,maybe she's scared to tell you that because of how you are coming across to her!
You sound a bit controlling in my opinion,and that alone will sure lose you your fianc'ee in the end,if it doesn't,she may well feel she has to tell white lies just to please you by letting you hear what you want to hear.
Without trust,you have nothing,well nothing that will make you happy long term anyway.
You have a past and so does she,thats life,so try and deal with it.
2007-10-28 06:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her and trust what she says. If you can't trust her, don't marry her. Besides, the hymen is so easily popped that she could have never have sex with anyone but still have a broken hymen.
I'm assuming that you are also a virgin. If you aren't then you have no right to insist on a virginal bride. If you can't wait until marraige, why should you hold your bride's virginity to such a rigid standard? That's completely unfair.
2007-10-28 05:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant - you can only take her word for it. Obviously you have trust issues that need to be resolved. If she did have sex with other men its in the past and should not affect your relationship. Nobodys perfect or without a past. Just look to the future positively.
2007-10-28 07:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by Cathyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her being a virgin was that important to you, why did you get engaged before asking her about it? If she's told you she hasn't been with anyone, then you have to trust her. If you don't trust her, then I'd seriously consider not getting married.
Honestly, unless you have never been with a woman and are a virgin yourself, you need to stop the double standard.
2007-10-28 05:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? If your engaged to her, surely she will only be having sex with you from now on, so it doesn't matter how many other men she has slept with.
2007-10-28 05:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by clare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets start with trust do you trust her and may be you can both talk like adults then may be you will get your answer another thing shower her in affection then there is no need for her to look else where is there another thing do you both love each other make sure before taking the next step before marriage ok hope that helps good luck.
2007-10-28 07:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's it got to do with you?
Very strange culture you come from.
In most of the world, before Albert died and Victoria went into mourning, it was normal for every one to experiment with sex as a youngster, in fact it was normal for the bride to go to the alter pregnant, proved she could increase the family!
2007-10-28 06:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless she was a virgin when you met her ... you can bet she has had sex before with other men ... if you mean while you've been engaged or g/b friend ... you can ask her ... but the key here is trust ... with out it you shouldn't be looking into getting married.
2007-10-28 05:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by emnari 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋