I love massages. Probably more than the average person esp. b/c I got into a car accident a few years ago and I am always at the computer, so I have a lot of pressure points that need work.
I have a male friend who offered to massage me. Initially, I declined b/c I know he likes me, but with the cost of massage therapy being so high, I am very tempted to take him on his offer.
How do I go about getting the massage but clearly explaining to him that that is all I want? We had met through an online dating service about five months ago and had gone out a few times, but I am not attracted to him and he should realize that by now, I am not interested in him other than being a friend (he tried to kiss me once, but I didn't respond. Still, we continue to talk).
Should I go ahead and take him on his offer? Mind you, an hour massage is around $65. Someone told me that I would probably need at least two per month.
2007-10-28 04:35:07 · 4 answers · asked by corsettesandkimonos 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, safety is an issue. You apparently feel comfortable enough around this guy to have gone out a few times with him...and the fact that he remained cool after you rejected his romantic attempts is a good sign. Still, be cautious.
I wouldn't allow him to do a full body massage. I would maybe invite him over for a movie or something and casually ask him work on the arms or neck and shoulders--BUT DO NOT GET UNDRESSED. No matter what you SAY, you will give him mixed signals if you're stretched out in just your skivies.
2007-10-28 04:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you need a friend just for the massage?But nothing comes free everything has a price not necessary money.So if you need a free massage explain your problem to him frankly and don't forget to mention to him that you are not interested in him romantically but can be friends and as a friend he can help you and in return promise him you would also help him in the future.All the best.
2007-10-28 04:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nazneen M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You already know he doesn't want to massage you for its therapeutic value, but because he likes you....you're not feeling him like that and that's not your problem. You need massages for your own reasons, but the costs are likely to be overwhelming; that's not his problem. You have the option of leading him on, or using him like an emotional tampon....neither prospect is especially appealing. So find another way to solve your problem without involving him because you obviously don't want to be bothered.
2007-10-28 04:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a back vibrator from Sears catalog or off the Internet.....It won't argue with you. Or get forward.
A good one will cost a bit more, but the heat can be worth it.
2007-10-28 04:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Initial contact 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋