breast augmentation for my husband?

Question

i am getting ready to get a breast augmentation. there is a part of me that thinks the novelty of it will be fun, but i really don't care either way if i do it. my husband is super excited (he just sometimes misses what he used to have)- i am pretty much doing this for him. don't get me wrong- he loves me and is always telling me i should be a model. i don't think there is a husband out there who finds their wife more beautiful than mine does me. i am only getting it to look normal again after nursing 4 children- nothing huge or anything. i guess my question is, is there other women out there who did this mostly for their husbands and are happy now?

corrine- i accidentally gave you a thumbs down, when i meant thumbs up- i liked your answer

of course he understands this is a big deal and has made it very clear not to do it if i don't want to. he has never made me feel unattractive or anything. he's a good man- i know it's hard not to judge when you have a tidbit of info about someone- and yes, he would do it for me- i know this for a fact!

CH- exactly!!! people are acting like my husband is a jerk, but truth is he treats me like a goddess- physically and emotionally. but the fact is, like someone said- men are visual and we all like the physical appearance of someone attractive- no matter what people say. it'd be nice if the world didn't care, but that's not how we're wired!

elmer's a negative person who doesn't get it because he's too quick to judge. no, i wouldn't fix normal aging stuff- but looking 80 when you're 30 isn't fair. evryone deals with things differently- it's not shallow to have low self esteem because of a deformity that can be fixed

risks are quite low nowadays, and scars? who cares we all have them- it just doesn't bother me.my friend did this for her husband (herself too, but he was more excited than her) and she is sooo happy. it has improved their marriage because she feels sexier- and yes that is important in a long lasting marriage

Answer 1

I have them....I am 5'2 and 110 and got small D's. I was barely an A before...I always wanted breasts so it wasn't solely for my husbands sake. I have had them for 2 1/2 years and i love them.....They are beautiful, soft and truthfully I can't think of another pair that I have seen that I like as much....that said...my husband being a man is a visual creature...he loved me when I was flat...he was hot for me then...he is hotter for me now...and loves me the same. It is about what you want...and also he....I have not had one day that I regretted this decision...it was really pretty interesting...woke up flat...went to the center....went back to sleep and woke up with the body of my dreams.....good luck on what ever you decide.

Answer 2

First of all, your question is very hard to understand because the sentences all run together! If you are happy with your breasts, I guess that's all that counts. I worry more about your screen name-"ms sexy." If your main concern in life is being sexy, then you're off balance and that could effect your children. Also, your original question was if breast augmentation was a good gift from your husband. No, that is not a good gift. Then later you said it was your idea, so I am confused. Anyway, your breasts are yours, not your husband's or anyone elses, so the fact that you have to ask this question indicates that there is a problem somewhere!

Answer 3

I really do think that you should do it for yourself. But, if you're not against it then it might not be a bad thing. I did it for reconstructive purposes after a big weight loss and I didn't go huge. In fact, kind of small for a augmentation. I am a really small girl though and everyone has trouble believing that I am only a full B. I think they look BIG because I am so tiny. I am so glad that I did it. They are perky again and I look fabulous in all of the really cute clothes. If you don't want it, don't do it. If your on the fence about it, then find a great plastic surgeon and make an appt. and talk with them and discuss your fears and concerns, they will help you make an informed decision.

Answer 4

Well, as a man and a husband, I have serious issue with him. I'm very happy when my wife does something nice for me, but there's no way in hell I'll let her suffer through a non-medically-needed surgery, getting her breasts slit open and stuffed like a turkey, just to please me visually. There's no such thing as minor surgery if you get knocked out and cut up. I doubt he'd get his scrotum slit up and stuffed just to make you happy. Maybe you should ask him to get scrotal implants to make his sack look bigger, in exchange for you getting the augmentation. See how he reacts to that.

I'll bet you a dollar, that the augmentation won't fix the issue, because then there's always something else on you that could be better...Surgery isn't the answer to questions of shallowness. You and your husbands shallowness needs to be addressed. You're going to get old, and no amount of surgery will help you then. What will do you? Nothing. What will he do? Find a young hussy with perky breasts and smooth skin.

Answer 5

Breast augmentation for my husband?

Answer 6

Hi Autumn - Before you take this very drastic step I want you to consider a few things.

1) It's never a good idea to do something just because someone else wants you to. Yes, the girls may be different after nursing four children but you can always wear a pushup bra and other sexy things to bring them back into shape.

2) Breast augmentation is serious surgery - not a novelty.

a)You will be left with scars on your breasts, no way around it - they are never going to look the same as when you were young.
b) You will go through weeks (possibly months) of pain while you recover.
c) If you develop an infection - your scarring may be very bad, you may lose more tissue or even the entire breast. Don't think this doesn't happen - it does and it even does happen to good surgeons. With the prevalence of the antibiotic resistant strains of bacteria (ie MRSA) in the environment - esp. hospitals - you have a pretty significant risk of getting a bad infection.
d) You may develop problems with the implant - many women do and it's never an easy solution. You may want to consider a breast lift rather than an augmentation.
e) Your breasts, after an implantation, will never feel normal. You will likely lose sensation in your breasts - so while he may enjoy them you won't. You'll still be able to feel pressure but not light pleasurable touch. They won't look the same way as when you were young and to the touch won't feel the same. - again a lift might be more what you're looking for.
f) God forbid you ever develop breast cancer - because any surgery - esp. implants- will make the diagnosis and treatment of the cancer much more difficult. You do not want to sacrifice your years on earth with your children for a novelty.

3) If you do decide to go through with the surgery - make sure you go to a good plastic surgeon. DO NOT skimp on the surgeon - don't go to the cheapest one - go to one that has done a fellowship in plastic surgery and is in good standing with the plastic surgeons association of america (can't remember the proper name right now - but look it up on the internet). Any hack surgeon can call themselves a plastic surgeon - make sure you go to one with specialized training - and ask to see photos of the surgeons work. They should have a large portfolio to show you. If they whip out a just couple polaroids and say that's their work - run the other way!

I'm not trying to scare you off of your decision - just trying to give you some information before you go any further in your plans. This should be your decision about what you want done to your body - not anyone elses. Because if something does go wrong you will resent your husband forever - and that will be a terrible strain on you marriage and your children.

Good luck and feel free to e-mail me through my profile with any surgery questions you might have!

EDIT - After coming back and reading your comments I wonder why you bothered to ask for opinions. Are you seriously having doubts or did you just want to let every one know that you are having surgery?

Yes everyone has scars - but few have them on their breasts. And low risk doesn't mean risk free. I've worked with lots of women who have had to come back in for reconstructions and removals - don't kid yourself, it's not easy and there are serious risks.

You might be lucky enough to sail through the surgery and recovery - I hope that you do if you go through with the augmentation.

But it doesn't seem like you are taking the risks seriously enough - I don't know how many times I've heard women tell me, after something has gone wrong, that they wish that they had never had it done.

Still - good luck...

Answer 7

Are you crazy? You are considering breast implants for your husband??? If you were honest about this to your Plastic surgeon he shouldn't even be doing the surgery. First of all the surgery will be extremely painful, and breast tissue carries a lot of bacteria and there is a huge risk of infection. Imaging studies will be more difficult especially cardiac studies and chest x-rays. There is a fair amount of risk and discomfort for something YOU aren't sure YOU feel YOU need for yourself. If you wanted it for you, then I say fine... To please someone else, I think it is a disastrous mistake. I think you will hate them.
Also look into the huge risk of MRSA infections in hospitals right now... It's hardly a great time for unnecessary surgery

Answer 8

I am in the same boat. I want them but I am unsure, my husband wants me to though. I wish someone would give you a good answer on here. I too am wanting to hear something from someone with experience in this situation. You kind of feel like, he loves you the way things are but will the implants change things later?

Come on someone give some good advice!

Answer 9

I have a friend who is in the same boat she's not happy with her size cause she did breast feed her babies and now she is small but she's doing it for herself not her husband that what she says but then again who knows. But you shouldn't do it for your husband you should do it for self. He should love you for who you are and don't matter what size you are.

Answer 10

If you don't care either way, I say go for it. Men are very visual, and I know when I exercise and start looking like I did before I had a baby my husband gets very excited as well. I too nursed and it does take its toll on a women's breasts. Now if you were against having it done and was ONLY doing it to please him, no way don't do it. Really only do this if you want to, its major surgery and there are always risks. From a health care perspective, it has gotten a lot safer than it used to be.

Source: RN