be met by your bfs request to be supermodern and do away with marriage altogether ?
2007-10-28 03:38:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Exactly streaker, why get married in the first place. If its meant to be forever, there is no need for marriage.
2007-10-28 03:49:11 · update #1
bluebell thats something different, iam sure to friends and family they are mrs so and so as well.
2007-10-28 06:41:43 · update #2
If women can pick & choose which marital traditions to uphold, so should men.
Men whose fiances don't take their names should begin to question other traditions.
They should really consider if a $5000 ring is a "worthwhile" tradition.
She keeps her name... you keep your money. Easy peasy.
It's interesting though, that the women that keep their names all seem to keep the ring tradition.
I guess they like that one.
2007-10-28 04:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by hopscotch 5 · 2⤊ 5⤋
If my partner suggested to 'do away with marriage altogether' , I would suspect that his reluctance to committal was a signal that he was keeping the door open for something better to come along, and that I was only the partner for the time being. If he really wanted the two of us to be an exclusive committed unit in the eyes of God and society, I think he would want to make it official - that means signing the paperwork.
I know many professional women who are still known by their maiden surnames, although I expect that to the State they are officially Mrs. So-and-So
2007-10-28 11:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by bluebell 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'd prefer to take on each other's names - hyphenating to include both surnames.
And to the person who mentioned the ring - a ring with a huge price tag is ridiculous to me. The money could be put towards something worthwhile..a home, things you actually *need*. I want to keep my name, and I think the expensive ring tradition is ridiculous - so don't generalise.
2007-10-28 14:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by [Rei] 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't need marriage to declare my love. The only reason I would get married in the first place is for the rights that come with marriage, it may make the relationship easier. So I don't think I would mind that much. Though I don't understand why he would make a big deal out of a last name.. I wouldn't want to be with him if he did, I don't need a boyfriend/husband who has a need to feel dominate.
Stop calling us "girls", boy.
2007-10-28 10:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Why should the girl have to change her last name when she gets married, why can't the guy do it.
Do you know what a hassel it is to change your checking account, credit cards, social security card, driver licenses etc. And what if the marriage doesn't last, do you know it is just as much a pain to change everything back to their madien name?
2007-10-28 10:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥STREAKER♥©℗† 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is about committment not about what professional name I chose to use.
2007-10-28 10:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by professorc 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i would probably tell him that i am really serious about the relationship and i want to spend the rest of my life with him. but since he obviously isn't as serious, then maybe we weren't meant to be together.
2007-10-28 10:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by rands 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If my independence scares him away, then my response would be THANK GOD I discovered this before we walked down the aisle!!
2007-10-28 10:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋