My daughter's estranged husband "disowned" his 17 year old son because he isn't living up to his standard..I sent grandson to Israel to a Kibbutz with his nice friends to get away from the friends who were a bad influence. We are not Jewish though..He loves it and is doing well. I am 71 yr old grandmothe an work 9 to 5 earn 40,000 and have borrowed from my retirement to send grandson.Cost $12,500..His father earns over $150,000. Can I get him to refund this money to me..When he made low salary,we paid for all clothing,shoes and whatever since our 3 grandchildren were born. The youngest is 15..Now he earns$150,000or more..Daughter has been hospitalized for bipolar she has had for years.Cannot hold onto a decent job..Help me please...
2007-10-28 03:29:04 · 13 answers · asked by Penelope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you can ask him.
However, he may not be happy about paying for a "rehab" he never agreed to, nor suggested, in the first place.
Usually, when a parent "disowns" a child, they are trying to wash their hands of them permanently.
2007-10-28 03:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The gosh darn fool thing here is that you take money from your retirement fund . How careless can 'ya get . Do you think that when you are unemployable and standing in the bread line , all those ingrates will have sympathy with your plight .
That horn 'o plenty that you provided should have been plugged up years ago . No matter what the parents earn, if they can't manage to raise their family they should stop having kids and not depend on grandma and grandpa .
You gave the money etc. willingly and unless you have a signed contract with the parents, you can't expect to be reimbursed .
Now, wise up and pull the strings shut on your money bag . And I mean instantly .
2007-10-28 03:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, he has disowned the boy. So I wouldn't count on him helping out. This is your grandson and with his mother being ill you are doing a good thing to give him a good start in life, maybe the boy will be able to help you out someday as you have helped him. Have you tried searching the internet maybe there are some programs to help pay this tuition like there is for colleges and schools here.
2007-10-28 04:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be able to make a case in court by bringing suit against him to recover the money spent,but I wouldn't count on appeals to his decency to have an impact here. One obstacle to your potential case would be the fact that we're talking about your own grandson, and the fact that your son-in-law was not actively involved in sending his son to Israel. It may well have been a good move, but it wasn't his decision to do that...you did that on your own, so getting him to reimburse you for something he didn't requisition is a big hurdle. I would consult an attorney to get professional advice on whether or not you have a case worth pursuing. Good luck.
2007-10-28 03:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, your daughter's estranged husband owes you nothing. You CHOSE to send your grandson away therefore you CHOSE to bear the cost of the trip. It doesn't matter how much his father earns. I suggest that if you want the money back you discuss it with the boy.
2007-10-28 07:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stated that you sent your grandson to Israel to avoid bad friends. That is not the dads part to refund the money, unless you and he had an agreement about the issue. Sorry.
2007-10-28 03:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a verbal or written agreement that your daughter's husband would repay you for money you gave towards the tuition, then yes he would owe you. If not, then that's lost money. Think of it as a gift for your grandson, not as a loan to your son in law. Sorry.
2007-10-28 03:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked for family law for many years and I can tell ya that in order to get any money from your daughters ex, its gonna take one of two things, #1 You can hire a attorney and take this to court, or #2 you can be nice and try to contact your daughters ex, and tell him to man-up to his obligations as a father to his son, but be nice and civil, if you come off as bitter and mean, you wont get a penny from him
2007-10-28 04:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you will be able to recover those monies...it is dependent upon what is written in their divorce decree...you can see council for aide in discovering if you can recoup monies for this expenditure, however more than likely you would have had to pursue this before you spent the money. Good luck...your grandchildren are lucky to have you.
2007-10-28 03:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can probably go after him for half of that, but will have to get the other half from his mother. I doubt, even with all the neglect that a court will force him to take on the whole amount owed. You will likely have to seek it from both of them.
2007-10-28 03:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋