I am a stay at home mom, and spend 24/7 with my daughter. Very rarely do I get any time away from her. And due to car trouble we have been stuck in the house alot lately. (daddy has to take the good car to work) I don't know what to do. When my mom comes over to visit she freaks out, and is only happy if I am holding her. I know I need to socialize her more, but untill this car thing gets taken care of were stuck! I have been trying to let her play on her own a little more..... Help! Any advice would be appreciated!
By the way I am not complaining about being home with her, best (although hard at times) job in the world!
2007-10-28 01:10:07 · 13 answers · asked by lindsey4706 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
As for walking to a store, there is nothing close enough to walk to, but thanks anyway.
2007-10-28 01:14:28 · update #1
Several suggestions:
If your mom comes over, hand the baby to her and go take a walk - anywhere - or just go outside for a half hour. But get far enough away so you can't hear the baby cry and try not to think about it. Your mom will handle it and you'll know she is safe.
On weekends when you do have transportation, put your little girl in the car and take her to the mall. You don't have to buy anything, just take her for a stroll around the mall and let her see and get used to all the people.
I also stayed home with my son and since he was born in the winter and it was a particularly hard one that year, we had a lot of together time. He loved when his dad and I bundled him up and took him for a stroll around the mall. He particularly enjoyed seeing other babies and small children and I treasured the time out of the house. Good Luck!
2007-10-28 01:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try to have people visit your home as much as you can. Start by holding your baby and sitting next to them while you talk. After she starts to calm down, let your guest hold her and continue to talk as though nothing much is going on. Gradually move away from the person who is holding the baby until you're on the other side of the room. After that, try leaving the room for short periods of time. Be patient, it could take weeks of doing this every other day before your baby is comfortable being held by someone else.
Don't worry about finding other babies to be friends with your baby just yet. Kids don't start to socialize with other kids until after 12 months, and don't start really playing together until 18-24 months. A pair of 5 month old babies would probably ignore each other completely.
While you're waiting for your car to be fixed, bundle your baby up (if it's cold where you live) and take her outside. It's good for babies to have a lot of sensory experiences. Spread a blanket on the grass for the two of you and point to birds, trees, clouds, anything, and talk to her about them. If she's not putting everything in her mouth right now, let her hold a few sticks or leaves and play with them.
When you're inside, try to engage your baby in at least one new activity every day. Play music and "dance" with her, sing a new song, look at a new book, or introduce a new toy (you can rotate old toys and books by putting them away for a week or two so they seem new when you bring them back). Your baby won't be so overwhelmed by strangers and unfamiliar places if she's having new experiences on a daily basis.
2007-10-28 10:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you trust a friend/family to keep her maybe start with 2 hrs once a week. Next, keep the car and take your husband to work once a week to get her out. Lastly, when your husband comes home from work sometime you should get lost either leave or go in another room and watch a movie so she will have to depend on someone else. If all else fails get out the handy dandy stroller and go for a walk if weather permits.
Good luck!!!!
2007-10-28 08:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by antswife 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal for a 5 month old to cling to their mothers. Don't worry, in time she will learn to trust others. I don't think there is any need to force it upon her just yet. Just enjoy this time stuck at home with her, and remember, she's only 5 months old. Be patient with her and remember you're her mommy, and she's only been in this world for 5 months, and you're the one who makes her feel the most secure. Introducing her to others in the future after your car is fixed will be nice but for now, even if your car was fixed, might be a bit traumatic for her yet. Enjoy her clinginess... it doesn't last that long.
2007-10-28 08:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by ~Live,Love,Breathe~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why not try taking her for a walk to a park or if there's a nursery near by, you could take her there to see and interact with other little ones even if she can't join in.
I used to be the same when I was little, but I always loved going to a pond to feed the ducks and I always went on walks and met people on the walk.
Just go to places near you where there's more people, even into the town.
2007-10-28 08:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is only 5 months old my little causin does the same thing. It isn't something you can just take away and make her social. She will become social by herself. But if you try to force her to be social she will end up hurt and in the future very shy. All you have to do is be somewhere where there are other kids and take your child there. but DO NOT make her hang out with the other children. but maybe you shouldnt do any of that 'cause she is ONLY 5 MONTHS OLD.
i repeat she is only 5 months old she is supposed to be staying around where she feels safe. and she safes around you
2007-10-28 08:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she's probably having some separation anxiety, which is normal. kids have it and it goes away then they have it again and it goes away again. don't worry about it. she's only 5 months old. she'll go through a lot of phases and will outgrow most of them. when your mom comes over, leave her with the baby for a few minutes. let your daughter know that you will always come back and she can get more acquainted with Grandma.
2007-10-28 09:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should go out, take her for walks or take a walk up to the shop...
Sweeties :D
Its sounds a cute thing that shes obsessed with you, untill you get your car back, just go outside.. =D
2007-10-28 08:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by Simon 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to invite some of your friend with babies and let her play with them. In this, she can start socializing and most probably will let go of you because babies are the best observers, they try to imitate what they can see around them.
2007-10-28 08:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Raulo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you going to complaint when your child is a teenager and don't want you around, or when they have a family of their own and have no time for you? Thank the LORD you have a child, some people aren't that lucky.
2007-10-28 09:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mariska 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋