i have debts and am about to be married. my bf knows my debts but is it ok to ask him for financial support to pay for my debts since i dont have work yet. will it not affect our relationship? to depend on him for finances?
2007-10-26 21:33:52 · 8 answers · asked by cheena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't see a problem. He IS aware of you situation, and wants to marry you. Now, if you were lying to him about your finances, it would be different, but as long as he is aware, marry him, and enjoy your lives together. I certainly advise you to wait a couple years to have children. That will give you time to get your finances in better shape. The fact that you are the kind of person that WOULD care for a sick parent, is probably part of the reason he loves you and wants a life with you. Good luck, and enjoy the next fifty years.
2007-10-26 23:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are caring for your mother, there must be some kind of welfare you can get. I know in Australia, if you are the carer of someone who is ill or disabled or something, you can get a pension and money from the government. Isn't there something like that where you are?
You probably shouldn't depend on him for finanaces, pay the debts yourself and be more careful next time not to get into debt in the first place? Is is a credit card debt? Because if it is, you need to get rid of all your cards and never use any again. You shouldn't have gotten into debt at all.
2007-10-27 04:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should get a job and try to take care of as much of your debt on your own. You shouldnt rely on him and nobody else to take care of anything in your name. It may affect your relationship in a bad way if you just depended on him to take care of all your finances.
2007-10-27 04:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dae 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on whether or not you plan on pooling your money together. I'm assuming you're in a commited relationship or are planning to commit soon. My partner lent me about 1500 dollars when we were dating which I had planned to pay back, but now we put all our money together, so he doesn't care and I don't care to repay him because it would all go to the same account! We just don't count it. If you plan on having seperate money or accounts, a loan from him could cause problems if you find you're unable to pay him back. I would expect that you are looking for work and means to support yourself or contribute financially.
2007-10-27 04:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would never marry a chick with debt.
once the debt is paid off and all done, so is the sex...
i'd take a pass on the marriage if i was him
2007-10-27 10:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a job and pay for your own debts.. but if you really need to pay them discuss some options with your husband if he can lend some to you and say that you'll pay him back when you get a job.. show some girl power don't be so dependent..
2007-10-27 04:41:39 · answer #6 · answered by [275] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is your debt an d you should try to clear it .. if not possible then then also at least you should try it.... get a job .. it is ok to depend on him for finance after marriage ...
but debts are something different....
congrats for your marriage...
2007-10-27 04:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well good for you, most people would have put there mother in a home, things will work out for you, good luck
2007-10-27 04:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋