Pot smoking hubby?

Question

Hi, My hubby used to smoke pot that bad years ago that he put himself into rehab. He has started it again behind my back a few times now and stoped again. He is now smoking it again ( i know as he hides in his shed to smoke it and i know where his stash is). He is smoking it more and more, and what pisses me off is that he smokes it while he is looking after our two kids while iam at work. I have tryed bringing it up in the past and telling him how much i hate him smoking it, but he gets defencive and pretty much abusive and argumentive to the point iam to scared to confrount him now. it has totaly changed who he is now from when we met and the longer it goes the less iam liking him........... anyone have any ideas how i can confrount this issue with out him getting argumentive about it?

Answer 1

Pack your bags and your kids bags and go stay at a relatives house. Tell him you love him but his drug use is tearing up your marriage and unless he trully stops you will be forced to file for a divorce. If you are afraid of how he will react (i.e. become physically abusive, do it when he is out or at work and leave him a note saying this, you dont have to tell him where you're staying. Give him a few days and call him, ask him if he has thought of going back into rehab or not, if he says no just hang up.

Answer 2

i'm sorry to take heed to approximately this, and if I have been on your shoes hell could have broken loose already! What an fool...to not point out irresponsible loser...! i assume many people will think of you -and that i- are overreacting...not SO. Pot is only the 1st step....Or do you relatively think of people do Coke or heroin in a single day? HA HA. humorous how some people can say that is ok to do drugs in some situations....i could be giggling if it wasn't pathetic. have you ever seen those 50 or 60 year olds who in no way stopped being hippies and nonetheless smoke pot? they don't seem so lovable now, do they? nicely....provided that your husband is an grownup -chronologically, a minimum of- he has the stunning to make a mistake his existence if he needs to; yet that would not recommend he has the stunning to pull you and your youngster down with him. So, in case you experience you are able to not forgive him and you think of he won't substitute, then get your guts at the same time and circulate to a lawyer after conversing on your loved ones. good success. no one merits a drug person as a husband- in spite of the shown fact that "entertainment" or "occasional". think of approximately your youngster's destiny, to boot as your peace of suggestions.

Answer 3

Uhm, a rehab wouldn't take someone who only smokes pot. Pot is not an addictive substance, in that there is no physical addiction only a psychological one (and even then, many people who smoke pot are not psychologically addicted). An addiction to pot is just as strong as an addiction to french fries, there is no withdrawl and no need for rehab. Are you sure he's not smoking something else??? Especially since he's become abusive. Pot doesn't make people abusive.

Honestly, I don't see a problem with smoking pot. He's smoking it outside away from the kids and if he's not getting ridiculously stoned and just relaxing, it's not any worse than if he were to have a couple beers or if he had a prescription to anti-anxiety medications like Xanax. In fact, it's probably better than he smoke pot than drink beer or take Xanax in case of an emergancy. The only problem with it is that it's arbitrarily illegal.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's smoking more than weed if he's abusive and so confrontational that you're afraid of him. What if he gets like that with one of your kids? What if Child Protective Services makes a visit because the neighbors smell the weed and call it in? You're pretty much guilty by association. What does that say about you if you leave your kids in his care knowing he's under the influence of something? You'd hate yourself forever if something happened to one of them on his watch because you could have done something about it. He'll be able to blame it on drugs, what's your excuse going to be? I'd pack his bags for him and have them waiting for him on the curb with a note that says "Don't bother coming back for at least 28 days. Best of luck to you in rehab."

Answer 5

Yes, tell him that you don't trust him taking care of the kids high while you are at work. There's a clear choice here: the safety of the kids or your husband's tantrum about keeping his weed habit. I'd choose your children's safety if I were you. Tell him that if he has to do something illegal around your kids and risk their wellbeing, then he had better leave and get his head together somewhere else. He can smoke his head off and turn into a coke head if he wants, miles away from your life and your kids. Because if he can afford coke, and it looks good to him one day, he'll be doing that too.

Answer 6

First of all there is no such thing as a rehab for pot smokers. You know there's people who smoke it to relax....Like there's people who drink wine to relax or a beer. Just let him be. It's not a big deal! My man does it and I do it with him too! **** it join him it might help the situation.

Answer 7

your completely wrong .first of all theres no such thing as rehab for smokin weed.There is drug rehabs but he aint hurtin no one smokin weed and just cuz you dont like it doesnt make him bad because he does.You arent much of a partner actually disliking him for it instead of trying to understand why.He a good dad for being there with the kids at all and weed is nothing but helpful for the stress kids can create.Look at the good qualities in your man and check yourself for changes.I suggest bringing it up while peacefully smoking it with him like the indians did.Alchohol is a far worse drug than pot.There is no statistical evidence of any fatalities or domestic violence caused by maryjuana so chill.If you went to rehab for overeating would you want to be treated like your wrong because you decide to eat a twinky you got stashed?If you started gaining weight would he like you less and less like you do him for something less harmfull than colesterol?Dont be so selfrighteous and judgemental towards your LIFE partner when they do something you might not like.Accept and adapt to changes in each other and thats what builds character and quality of your relationship and what your kids learn if you havent left their father by the time they grow up.Honestly thats the only issue i see you have.If you truly loved him you would join him so he doesnt have to hide in a shed to get stoned when he can be enjoying the perfectly harmless effects with his loving and supporting wife and friend.If you choose not to do so dont raise conflict by making him feel wrong and thinking lesser of him cuz thats hypocritical and a lack of loyalty on your part.how does that make you feel?pay attention to the positive traits he has before you reveal the negativity of your own

Answer 8

Your main concern is with your children. If he is smoking pot while supposedly caring for your children...I wouldnt be worrying about how he reacts. I would be more worried about the welfare of my children. If you are afraid for yours or your childrens safety if you confront this problem, then its time you got some help. Children are your main concern. If your children are at risk because of your partners drug habit, then you need to do something about it. You are the children's mother, you have a responsibility to your kids. If you are so afraid of your partners reaction, then its time to involve the authorities. Your children deserve a healthy future and if you are too afraid to stand up for their rights, then find someone who cares about them enough to ensure they are safe.

Answer 9

if he's on pot, thn good luck. that effects his thinking 2 and will make him harder 2 talk 2. u shud call a rehab center and ask them what to do about it. they cud come get him bcuz u might get hurt...find the stash and burn it. then run away with your kids. that's dangerous stuff he's messing with.

Answer 10

I would go about talking to him in a different way. Try, "Look I want to help you if you need help because I love you". I think a calm approach would be more helpful.