My son has been suspended from school for being in a fight with another boy. Both have been suspended. I am worried about him, that if I don't guide him well he might become violent. He is a good kid, intelligent, good grades, but he has anger issues. I don't know how to handle this. I have told him no TV, internet, X-Box or PSP for 1 month. I know he feels bad. But I don't know how to talk to him. I would also like to know if there are any online counseling services. I can't afford a therapist. I have an 11-year old, and the older one sometimes hits his brother as well.
2007-10-26 20:55:52 · 7 answers · asked by TR 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It's normal, 13 year olds fight for small things...they think they are mature or whatever so they go and do those things.
He will learn eventually.
2007-11-02 12:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is angry about something. Try talking to him about what makes him angry. There will be a time when he tells you everything that's bothering him but I think he needs some one else to talk to like a therapist. You said you don't have money for that but I think you should really look into that one way or another to prevent him from getting more violent and angry especially when hitting his siblings. I know you don't want to see that but you gotta try to do everything in your power to guide him down the right path. Good luck.
2007-10-27 04:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by naca101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am i able to have that women digits or e mail or some thing? :D For one you need to do more suitable then do away which includes his video games, quite i ought to easily go away him in penitentiary using the undeniable fact that way is the in simple terms way he learns a lesson. Then even as he receives despatched loose, take him to a mind healthcare professional (sorry for no longer utilizing the pro time period :P), if he shot on the instructor the is not any understanding what he ought to do. Be carefull and sturdy success
2016-10-23 01:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by akimseu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it will help the situation by u taking his stuff away. he is 13 and he probably thinks that u dont care about how he feels and that u dont understand. u just took his stuff away. and its not fair. You should talk to him, ask him what happened, let him tell u his part of the story. Don't be demandive or scold him, just ask him in a friendly way. i'm 15 and when i get angry, if my parents scold me about raising my voice or send me to my room or threaten to ground me or take something away.. that will make me more upset and it stays. grown ups think 'okay fine he/she will get over it its not a big deal' . if they are calm and they talk to me about it. i melt and apologize about how i was acting. u should try and change ur relationship into something like 'its not a big deal, it happens to everyone.. but its not right..' , instead of u do something wrong so u get grounded. if u start talking with him, he'll see that ur cool with some stuff and he'll be coming to talk to u about EVERYTHING. it takes time but its great.
i used to keep everything inside and i wasnt getting along with my parents. my mom suggested we go to a doc or councellor... but my dad started trying to talk to me. it took time but i opened up to him and im very happy that i did. i'd never had done it if he wasnt patient in waiting for me to talk.
the more love and attention u give him, even if he doesnt give it back or acts like he doesnt like it.. the more it will help his 'anger issues'. and please give him his stuff back, if u think that he really should be grounded atleast ground him for a week (doing extra chores) and less time on the tv, pc, etc.
good luck =)
2007-10-26 21:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ana m ♦ Настя♥ ■ ■ ■ ╪Hecate╪ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont get mad at him for fighting. dont take away his stuff. its a normal thing and he wont become violent. u wouldnt inderstand because ur a girl but when guys get p1ssed at eachother they fight and then its over. u dont need a therapist or counciler. ive been in a buch of fights and im not violent at all. i only fight to defend my self and i nvr start one. u cnt blame him for fighting when guys get that enraged they cnt control it. the little brother thing is normal too. i beat uo my little brother too. this is just life. but trust me dnt wase ur mony on therapists because it wont do anything and dont ground him
2007-11-01 09:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to be like that anyways my parents told me that if i kept getting bad grades and getting suspended that they are going to make me change schools but anyways i went to a place called "Regis House" and that helped me out alot also it was free i don't know why but it was and i went their every tuseday for a couple months and the first month was just me then it was me,my mom,and my sister. at first i didn't want to go but then i liked it, so he might not want to go.i use to get F's and hit anyone that messed around with me i really don't know why. at regis house they tell you how to let anger out and how to discuss about how you feel.
http://www.regishouse.org/family.htm
2007-10-28 05:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by who 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cut off the TV and the xbox,he'll start hating u,ask him if he'll be able to face his friends and teachers after going through such an embarrassing situation,tell him how anger can damage his brain cells,tell him that he'll be the looser in the end
2007-10-26 23:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋