I'm going thru some"stuff" right now and I really need some support. I don't want to"burden" him with my issues. I've cried alot lately and I know I'll get through this thing I'm going through, but I really need his support and I don't want him to feel like I'm crying again, ya know?....but the thing is..to get through it, I need HIS support....i have no one else I can be open with like I am with him.(he's my hubby!)..and it's so personal that i don't want to turn to friends.
So my main question is...
Should i tell him I really need him right now?...OR...
Do I suck it up and deal with it on my own?
I just don't want him to get tired of my tears...
2007-10-26 19:42:14 · 10 answers · asked by surat108 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave a note in the bathroom asking him to be there for you, that your sorry to bother him, but you need his attention for a little while and you promise to make it up when it's all over
2007-10-26 19:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by tucky1225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband what is bothering you. He is your husband. He married you for 'better or worse', didn't he? What ever it is you are going to share with him, should only be between the two of you, no one else. If you need his support, then tell him what is on your mind. You will not know what the outcome will be when you tell him. I am sure he will support you, you know him more than us in here. Just remain calm and tell him you need a hug. He shouldn't get tired of your tears, ever. You are his wife!
2007-10-27 02:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should be your main support, as you are to him and you're not sounding like a crybaby by telling him that you need him. You shouldn't go through your personal issues alone. Go to him and tell him, you'll feel better that you did.
2007-10-27 02:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by < J > 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, men do not always see that there is something going on with us. they usually will find your emotional state annoying. I am sorry that I do not have a more encouraging statement for you, I am married to and when I ask my husband for support he thinks I am weak. Or if the support is given, it does not last long. I am sorry for your issue, I do not recommend keeping it in, but husband and wife, are not always for better or worse, and that is oh so obvious this day in age. If you do talk with him try not to be too emotional, and state the facts, if you go on about something he cannot relate to than he will not understand. GOODLUCK:)
2007-10-27 02:56:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you dont suck it up thats why he is your husband to be there in your times of need and vice versa. You should just sit down with him tell him how your feeling and say i really need your support on this, its very hard on me. And he should give it to you (hopefully). But be honest we all go through hard times and need their support and we just have to ask for it.
2007-10-27 02:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by resqshanna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's your hubby! The whole point of having a committed relationship is for times just like this. "For better or for worse" as the vow goes. Tell him.
2007-10-27 02:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Linni 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is your husband - I am sure he knows there is something worrying you - tell him - I hope he will be there for you whatever your troubles are and he will help you.. God bless
2007-10-27 02:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Barbie V 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him, u will have to sooner or later
2007-10-27 02:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy o boy... you have to tell him as he dose not know.. he thinks its him not you... please give him the chance to help you... sorry.. but true ... good luck .. and it wont hurt..
2007-10-27 02:50:01 · answer #9 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just "Buck up!"
2007-10-27 02:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by talloolah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋