i am overweight i can admit that, BUT I LOVE ME, and people always think that i have low confidence or something... whats up with that!! i'm not a charity case, i can even be cocky at times!! how can i get people to stop feeling sorry for me like im a huge house or something?!!??
2007-10-26 18:55:50 · 18 answers · asked by real eyes realize real lies 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Show it off a bit, smile, laugh and most of all, stop caring what others think.
2007-10-26 18:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry that you have to deal with people's comments on this issue in the first place. But, here are my thoughts on why they might be butting in so much:
1. Some people just like to project their own issues onto other people. (i.e. They would like to lose a little weight, so they are nagging you to do it. The things that people don't like about themselves are the things that they absolutely hate in other people. Every see two bossy people in the same room together?)
2. They may think that they are encouraging you to do something that they assume will make you happier. If this is the case, tell them point blank that you could care less about losing weight and that you'd appreciate them not bringing it up again. It may be awkward, but it should be effective and would only last for a moment.
3. I don't know you at all, so please don't be offended by this. They may be concerned about your health. Adolescent diabetes is growing at an epidemic rate, and young heart attacks are becoming a common problem. I know girl who just had open heart surgery at 20, and weight was an issue. As I said, I don't know you, so this may not be a plausible concern at all.
4. Some people are just jerks. I hope this isn't the case.
Regardless of the reason, I would simply tell them that it is not an issue for you--that you are happy as you are and that you'd appreciate them not bringing it up anymore. If you want to know why they're doing it, I'd ask them directly.
Good luck and happiness to you. I hope this was helpful.
2007-10-26 19:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize, know that some people will always do that. And the best answers always happen ten minutes after the person just left!
The reason one or another person thinks about your weight is as unique as each person is. Some care about you, some want to offend you, some think so little of themselves the only way they can feel better is to put down others. It goes on and on. I find ignoring them can be a good way to deal with some. For others, the most obnoxious ones, need to be reminded that your weight is strictly between your doctor and yourself. True friends accept you for who you are and support your efforts to be happy no matter how you approach it.
2007-10-26 19:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly those people have a problem in their life that they are having difficulty being honset with themselves about. We humans tend to look at others closely when we are avoiding looking deeply into our own lives. Ponder these thoughts... The things we can "see" outwardly (such as height, weight, physical limitations etc.) are freely discussed with no regard for the person being critiqued! If we all had "blinking signs" above our heads revealing our inward struggles some might read: I am judgemental, I do not like myself, I do not get along well with anyone I meet, I am selfish, etc. If you love yourself, the people who want to have a healthy, loving relationship with you will recognize how blessed they will be to have you in their life. Those who continue to try to "fix you" by commenting on your confidence & pitying you are missing opportunites to get to know the real you.
I have recently come to realize how important good health is to me. My opinion is, if I do not have my good health I am not able to truly enjoy anything else in my life. There are ways to assess good health. You can go online & enter weight & height chart. It will tell you ( depending on your frame size) a healthy weight range for your height. As a good, caring & helpful doctor will tell you there are many aspects to maintaining a healthy lifestyle. You already have the MOST IMPORTANT ingredient to living a successful & healthy life... YOU LOVE YOURSELF. Whatever lies ahead you will do what is best for you because you do love yourself. I wish you the best.
2007-10-26 19:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by Secret Agent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, most people just base that on themselves. They might think that you're afraid and not proud of your body. I have the same problem, all the people in my grade say I'm too skinny but I checked in this website, it said I wasn't.
Tell them you are proud of your body, that you don't care of what they say, and that it doesn't really matter if you're an overweight or not - you're still a nice, loving person. Try to explain to them that you DON'T mind being a little bit of an overweight.
If they still bug you, you might want to just eat as much as you wish, to prove your point...
2007-10-26 19:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Society thinks everyone should be thin so they project their ideals on to you as they figure you must not be happy even though you are outgoing. They may, on some level, believe that your happiness is a front and not the real you. What's important is that you know who you are and how you feel about yourself. Most people are so obsessed with trivial things that they don't think for themselves. They want to follow what's popular in their opinions and believe that if something doesn't follow their ideal that there must be something wrong with it.
2007-10-26 19:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by Bach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't no way - but listen dearest I am with you all the way but just lately it is getting very horrid with docs and govs helping to get at overweight people. they are even actively shrugging their uppity shoulders and neglecting giving us proper treatment using our weight as a reason for all our problems (even if the health services mucked us up at the beginning!) My advice is get as much weight off you as you can because if you need medical treatment they will have a field day, were it not for that I would say stay fat and be happy!((((HUG))))
2007-10-26 19:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people think, It's your life, live it how you want. Im not saying you should go out and have a heart attack, but a few extra pounds won't hurt that bad as long as you love the way you look.
2007-10-26 18:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by Darin D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the real lie that so many of our generation fall into: that you have to have a certain physical characteristic to be happy with yourself. All i know is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and usually someone who is confident and comfortable with their body is also attractive to the opposite sex.
As long as your weight is not from obsessive/compulsive
disorder and your physical health is ok, then just let them know that their opinions are not welcome. Don't dwell on the fact that they can't realize reality!!!
2007-10-26 19:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. We live in a society that tries to dictate their policies on the rest of us.
Be happy with yourself and laugh at those who are too busy being miserable trying to live up to everyone else's expectations. You go girl!
2007-10-30 15:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by dovesong44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love your question!
Just like I want to try to have another baby but
I heard people always say you are to over weight.
But Ive done researching and well
Its OK as long as you watch what you eat.
Ive just realized that This me has been since I was younger,and why always diet and take pills that make you sick. Ive done my share of all of it and I just found me! and well my hubby says I'm happier because I'm not so worried and grouchy. and I'm not as tired all of the time.
Plus he loves me! and well he likes me with more meat on me. :) ;)!!!!!!
He says more "cushion 4 the pushin"
2007-10-26 19:08:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋