I need help (mental problem)?

Question

I have social anxiety and I wanted to seek help but my mom thinks I'm perfectly normal and I'm just doing things to get attention.


When I was 12 years old, I became anorexic to get attention.

But that was 7 years ago. Now, I really have a problem and my mom doesn't understand it. Just because she's perfect, she thinks I suppose to be perfect.

How can I tell her that my problem with social anxiety and how it makes me feel?

Answer 1

she thinks you should be perfect. there's the problem. too much pressure and need to be perfect or just like her. and it has caused you anerexic and social anxiety.

Answer 2

I gather that you are 19 years old now. You do not have to have your mothers permission to go to a doctor and get a referal to a mental health clinic for an EVALUATION based on how you feel, your symptoms, actions, etc. If your mother does not choose to believe health professionals then she can take you to her doctors and get a second opinion. As to your "self diagnosis" of social anxiety, everyone has this to a certain degree. Do some research: Look up Social Anxiety Disorder on any search engine of your choice and compare the signs and symptoms you have with what the book says. It may be you have some other problem or a related problem that is simple and easy to over come. I would suggest, at 19, that you would have developed the responsibilities of a young adult and could make reasonable decisions for yourself. Your mother notwithstanding, perhaps you need to start untying the apron strings.

Dr. Tommy Skelton

Answer 3

Well first of all, in my opinion, and from what I know, no one becomes anorexic to get attention. There can be a variety of factors involved, such as "genetics, metabolism, psychological issues, coping skills, personality factors, family or social issues, and media messages," that contribute to this disorder.

It can also coexist with depression and anxiety disorders. Maybe talking to your Mom about what you went through before and being honest with her about your insecure feelings in public now. Like a comparison. Maybe write a journal of your feelings, picturing yourself in the grocery store, or at a big party, or wherever you feel you are not comfortable. Then show her this journal entry.

It might not hurt to be right out honest with her, telling her your 19 now and you are an adult but still need her. (I'm assuming you live at home) And how it bothers you that her expectations are for you to be like she is, when you are your own person. (I'm also assuming you are under her insurance). A good daughter to mother talk might be needed here.

In the meantime, try and talk to a guidance counselor at school (if you go), school psychologist or a best friend. Confide in someone - Aunt - find someone supportive to talk to until you get therapy. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You are 19 years old, now.
You don't need to convince your mother of anything.
Seek out help for yourself.
Your county probably has a community mental health clinic where you can get counseling at low or no cost.
Why not give them a call?

Answer 5

Anxiety again is another kind of tension.Your mental frequency might push up a little higher. Only when this frequency is lowered down you can get rid of it. Don't get into any kind of medicines. you can attend any pranayama classes from a good spiritual master.If you are above 16 that is the best thing for you..