What is the best way to overcome shyness ?

Question

im kinda shy person.. its may be because im not sure about me or i think im always doin the wrong thing..however
people take my shyness as rude ness HELP!!!!

Answer 1

I suffer the same problem. Here's how I'm trying to overcome it:

1. I watch body body language. If I'm crossing my arms or legs, I uncross them. I try to look up and around at other people, and when I get somebody's attention, I smile, wave, or say hello.

2. If they seem friendly, I will attempt to start a conversation with them by making small talk.

3. When I walk, I try to keep my head up so I'm alert of my surroundings. I try not to watch my feet and shuffle along.

4. I hold doors open for people, and I make sure to say "You're welcome" if they thank me.

5. I try to take an interest (to a small) extent in the other person's life. I'll ask impersonal questions, like asking about their hobbies, job, or interests.

6. I adapt my language and body language off of their body language. If I notice that their body language is a little awkward, and they have a worried look on their face, I may make the presumption that they dislike the topic I'm talking about. If so, then I change the subject.

The best way to combat shyness is by being the opposite of it.

Ever hear the expression "fake it until you make it'? Well, it's true, I promise.

Answer 2

Here's what ultimately helped me.
Pretend.
Tell yourself you are going to pretend that you are that outgoing person you know. (We shy folks tend to be good observers of others' behaviors). Then, be that person. Act it out. If it comes off weird, you can console yourself and tell yourself, "whew! Glad that isn't really me."
I was painfully and horrendously shy all through my childhood and teen years.
I always craved adventure, though, and the only way to overcome my shyness and take adventurous opportunities, was to do a lot of "pretending."
I performed in some drama skits by pretending I was the bold, obnoxious "actor" type.
I've done some radio deejay work, by pretending the cows (in the field at the tower site) were my audience...
I have, for the most part, overcome my shyness and moved into many of the roles I once only pretended to be.
The shy streak still creeps up every so often, and then I pull out the "bold mask" and pretend all over again, until I find some measure of confidence to grab hold of.

Answer 3

The only way I know to over come shyness is with confidence.
You want confidence then just try to be knowledgeable ....this applies to anything....work ....social activities ....church....even perfect strangers you meet... the more knowledge you have the more confident you will become without even trying... I suggest reading as much as you can everything from the star magazine your local newspaper and usa today to sci fi books and romance novels. I believe knowledge is power learn from everyone you come in contact with and I'm not saying to try to be someone your not but pick out the best parts of people and integrate them into your personality.

Answer 4

If you are a natural person you should try cognitive behavioral therapy. It was the only thing that has helped me with my horrible health anxiety. Read here https://tr.im/5Nvl4

Your thinking determines your quality of life. Your thinking is what causes you these feelings:

Anxious, fearful, stressed or depressed
Constantly worried, or angry about something that is happening in your life
Struggling to overcome obsessive and negative thoughts.

If you change your thinking, you will change your life. This is the basic idea behind CBT for anxiety. The Cognitive part is where you learn nee methods and ways to change your same old habits and thinking patterns. If you keep thinking and expecting the worst – You will continue to suffer.

Answer 5

If you really want to get out of your shell, go to your local community theatre and maybe take some classes in acting. Even if you volunteer to work on the sets, its so much fun to be around other actors who aren't afraid to be on stage. They are a real fun group of people. As a matter of fact , they probably don't fit in with the regular people either. You will realize that some people CAN act crazy and silly and it doesn't matter and you can get away with it! Hope you try it!

Answer 6

Well life is to short to be quiet, life is meant for living not acting when you talk more slowly with baby steps you start to realize nobody really cares about you they will probably be worrying about them selfs more then you anyways soon you'll gain some confidence and then people will be wishing they were as lound as you. Do what i did i jest started to talk more little by little soon i started to gain confidence over the days soon i got over it and i didn't care of what other people thought of me. Jest talk more jest do it you'll be proud of yourself once you've done it.

Always do something your scared of everyday at least once thing.

Answer 7

Blag your way out of it ......... worked for me .... I am still incredibly shy especially with complete strangers. I think I just have the gift of the gab ............ just be yourself and don't let people higher up the tree (at work) look down on you .... they are no better than you are except they earn more money .......

Br brave and get in there ........ you can stop shaking when it's all over xx

Answer 8

arghh i have the same problem !!

I'm 14 and i seriously think that i could be really popular but i talk really soft and i have kinda bad hearing LOL!

every morning i try and go hyper so that when i get to school I'm crazy haha

well good luck :)

Answer 9

i guess you have to start it all with yourself.. if you're kind of conscious,, try not to be, just be confident in your own skin, that way you can face other people better. also , don't think that you always do the wrong thing. it's ok to make mistakes sometimes.,

Answer 10

Know yourself as a person and get into a good conversation.