All have experienced traumas in their life, some large, some small. How have the traumas in your life molded you. Are you who you are today because of them or inspite of them? Thank you for your answers.
2007-10-26 17:29:28 · 30 answers · asked by ? 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
They are moments where consciousness can be had about self. They are intervals where you can turn within. The negative brings an opportunity for consciousness to be had. When everything is going your way you are pretty much unaware of your own defects, negative times challenge you and you express parts of your nature that remain in the shadows of the mind at other times. The Negative shocks us out of the mechanical, business as usual mode of operation we're in daily.
So you can definitely be made stronger by them, but its up to how you approach these situations. will it be one where you blame the world, where you find fault with things, where you avoid the opportunity for consciousness that has been presented to you? The experience does not truly cause us mental trauma, rather it is ourselves in regards to what we have not understood in the situation that is the cause. With conscious understanding you can't be damaged because you approach the situation in a higher perspective.
2007-10-27 00:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Automaton 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can say for certain that they haven't made me feel damaged, plus--I would never compare the degree of my "tribulations" with others. It's impossible to do so.
Stronger? I don't believe I'd use that word. In times of crisis, I have, & always will--draw on a source--from which I am calm, competent, & stoic. I have feelings, & empathy, but never let them overwhelm me.
I've seen severe traumas in others. These traumas are perceived in unique ways by individuals. Some compound their traumas by becoming "victims." Others are the type that think in terms of the glass being half full, rather than half empty. The bottom line, is that life is a matter of perspective.
Today, I am who I always was & will be.
Edit: Aspen Dreamer, I'm sorry that you're depressed. You've stated many negatives. Is it possible, for you, to focus--at least to some extent--on the positives, for surely, there must be some?
mmatt314>YES!
2007-10-27 10:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I definately feel people who say "if you survive it'll just make you stronger," either haven't been through too much or have been gifted with an overly optimistic attitude. I know someone will get upset that I said they hadn't been through much. Truth is, no matter what you're going through, it feels like it sucks. But some things are worse.
You have to take into account a few things: are you religious (sometimes that helps), more chemically balanced than average, etc.
I definately fall on the damaged side. I know I have a great many accomplishments to look forward to (I'm heading to med school in the fall), but it doesn't change the fact that I'm scarred emotionally from the last few years and everything I've been through. I'm not a happy person. I doubt I will be. But I try. That's all I can do.
2007-10-26 17:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by jxr182 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stronger and damaged.
I've gone through a lot but I know of a lot of people who have gone through one hell of a lot more than me and have become a better human being than I am. But then I know that to cry because I have no shoes for my feet is useless because there are men who have no feet! Why am I to cry?
Physically I'm damaged from cancer. They had to cut out a massive amount of muscle on my neck to rid my body of the tumour. But I'm alive and kicking never the less.
So I would have to say that life is stronger from a great number of tribulations but I have been damaged by small things, like cigarettes? A divorce? Spit in the eye?
What the heck, life is to be run with the best of your abilities and if your abilities are short then run the fifty metre the best you can. If you have great abilities then go for the marathon the best you can.
2007-10-26 21:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by the old dog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am who I am today because of and inspite of all the things I have experienced and learned including trials and tribulations. At times they have made me feel weaker but even in weakness there is sometimes no choice but to go through, experience, learn from, overcome, pull through or move on which has ultimately made me a stronger person in the end (whether by choice or not). So yes, I am.
2007-10-26 19:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Shug 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that many of the traumas in my life have made me sensitive to the traumas that may be in the lives of the few people I tolerate around me. I don't care to get sucked into the problems of too many folks these days and I don't care for too much company. I have my family pretty close at hand on the phone if I need them, thank god.
Trials will always make you stronger because the people around you won't let you go. It's not like you can just quit. Really. Not only is it selfish, but it's also illegal.
My take on hard times is that it has damaged me,...but I would like to prevent someone else from becoming so damaged. But da*n their luck, they can't take a hint.
Made me mad, made me stronger, made me feel like a victim, made me hopeful, made me an introvert.
I hate people.
2007-10-26 17:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by berecca 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I feel very damaged and nowhere close to stronger...
I have been through many family deaths, friends deaths,
2 divorces, losing many homes, cars, and investments...
My daughter running away from home and losing my job of 23 years and my health...
What more do I have to lose but my own life?
I feel bitter and sad and hurt...
I am depressed a lot of the time...
My marriage seems to be falling apart because my husband has bad health as well but must keep working so we have a home and food...
I only see my daughter about twice a year cause she moved a long distance away when she left home...
I am on so many drugs to try to keep me going each day from my doctor...
I had back surgery that did nothing to get rid of my pain...
I live with back and leg pain every day and only get relief from pain pills...
All I have left in the world is my mom, who is in a nursing home and has Alzheimer's and my brother...
I have come to be very depressed this holiday season time of year...
2007-10-27 07:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say, that my trials made me feel damaged. Well, maybe at first when I was going through them I did feel that way, or maybe a better way to put it is that I matured more and feel less damaged and more strengthened because of them. As I have gotten older I tend to wear my tribulations as a kind of badge of honor. When I was younger, I feared bad times and experiences in my life, and I tend to embrace them now. I think that they mold me, more than I overcome them. I think that is the beauty of empathy. I love to help others overcome their fear, and realize the potential in themselves, without those experiences I would be clueless, which would be the worst of all.
2007-10-26 17:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Katlynnelore 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Like tempered steel that has been put to the fire and beaten, I have become stronger, a mighty arm of defense for the innocent. Experience has taught me what the more fortunate can never know. That I chose to sample it seems insane but how else would I know? I am not masochistic but true ecstasy requires intimacy with agony.
2007-10-29 08:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by midnite rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stronger. I learn from my mistakes, know that I can get through whatever else life want to throw my way, and am thankful for the times where I am not having a hard time. They have made me who I am today.
2007-10-26 17:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋