What is a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP?!?

Question

What is the definition of a healthy/adult relationship with a guy? What are the characteristics? How do you know when the line is being crossed and you're being disrespected...and the relationship is no longer healthy...and therefore should get out? Thanks.

Answer 1

A healthy relationship, in simple terms is when both parties feel safe, secure, both trusted and trusting and when each can be who he/she is, without fear of repercussions.

The moment you feel unsafe, or you begin to fear things such as a fight because it may escalate, the relationship is no longer healthy. Any type of disrespect cannot be tolerated. Once that happens, the relationship is pretty much over. Things happen in everyone's lives and everything will not always be peachy-keen ... two people in one mind can stand against outside influences; however two people divided (by fear, jealousy, disrespect neglect, etc.) cannot stand together and be considered a happy / healthy couple.

Answer 2

Dear Brandi,

A healthy relationship is a sanctuary, a place where you go to care for another, and another cares for you, where you fulfill each others wants and needs. In an unhealthy relationship, the wants and needs of one party go unfulfilled. However, both parties share responsibility for the state of affairs. One party, i.e., you, is obsessed with maintaining the relationship and giving to your boyfriend. Your boyfriend, is going along for the ride, exploiting your great sense of empathy.

Ultimately, your wants and needs are not met, because you fail to give them due consideration. Your focus, is on the wants and needs of your boyfriend. While empathy is to be admired, it is important to recognize, it may make us vulnerable to exploitation.

In regard to being disrespected, you most likely are being disrespected, if you feel disrespected. Your partner either lakes the sensitivity, or the caring to act respectfully. Regardless, of the mechanism, the end result is the same.

Cognitively, I am sure you know your relationship is unhealthy, and you should get out. However, you are bound emotionally. Sometimes, we must make decisions on a cognitive level, and follow through, regardless of how we feel.

Larry

Answer 3

I think that if you feel disrespected in a relationship and it happens on a regular basis that's unhealthy. I think if you don't trust each other, that's unhealthy. If there is physical abuse that's obviously unhealthy. If the relationship is dependent upon something, say sex, money, drugs, or anything else that makes it seem like the relationship doesn't function without it, that's unhealthy. I think most people know and feel when they're in a bad relationship, but often times they just don't want to be honest with themselves and admit it. I hate make this a gender things, but it seems to happen to females more often than males. Males seem to have have a easier time breaking a connection than females, in general, though obviously not in all cases.

Answer 4

For a long time I was with a woman, so my perspective about relationships in general is: the better the communication, the better the relationship. I'm in a relationship now with a man, and have been for a year, and assume I'll be with him the rest of my life (once I commit, I stay a long time). I have to admit the feminists I know have had their ups and downs, but overall, they have excellent relationships with their partners, not because their partners have the same views, but because both partners treat each other with respect, love, and dignity.

Answer 5

Hey there !. An healthy relationship is of two individuals trying to do many things together . Like respecting each others privacy and understanding each other well enough so that there is no misunderstanding and making up to each other after any misunderstanding / dispute/ argument.
And doing things to each another which they like and enjoy .
Suppose it comes down to physical or financial or for the matter of fact using abusive language which one of the partners don't like them and bluffing/ cheating on you , not turning up at a given point / time or using you or your contacts or assets to get what he needs ,to get things done, for which the relation ship is on the line and hence one should be care full of this type of situations.and get of this as fast as possible. Any relation ship with out love / loyalty /sacrifice is not worth it.Wishing you the best in deciding soon.

Answer 6

Some characteristics of a healthy relationship(in my opinion)

-being able to be yourselves
-accept your partners faults(not talking about the abusive, stalking type faults)
-good communication
-trust
-loyalty to each other
-respect for each other and the relationship(no cheating, etc)
-being able to have other relations away from each other..friends, family
-having fun together
-sharing goals and being encouraged to pursue them
-compromising
-knowing how to say sorry when you are wrong
-loving and wanting each other

Answer 7

Healthy relationship is a relationship without any expectation, without lust, always rendering helping hand, respecting their feelings, relationship should be guiding force for good, encouraging, motivating etc. When any of these if you find defective [caused intentionally] then understand that the relationship is not healthy and you be cautious.

Answer 8

Healthy:Friendship Affection Compassion Respect Desire to please.

Unhealthy:Control Possessiveness Insensitivity Disdain Self aggrandizement.

C. :)!!

Answer 9

Well, if you feel disrespected and unloved, it's probably going south. The relationship that is. He should make you feel important (to him), loved and taken care of. If not...move on. It will only get worse.

Answer 10

When the boy and the girl love eachother equaley