i am 16 weeks pregnant. this is my 4th pregnancy in 4 1/2 years.
my husband is soooooooo frusterated with me because i am just not in the mood for sex. he seems understanding but i know he wants it, i mean he is a MAN! lol
what can i do to get myself in the mood instead of just laying there or not having sex at all??
also how can i help him to understand why i don't wanna have sex, i just have no desire.
thanks!!
2007-10-26 13:45:32 · 13 answers · asked by 3 girls call me mommy 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
4th pregnancy in 4 1/2 years is quite the accomplishment!! Way to go...but your body has GOT to be exhausted!! Sex would be the FURTHEST thing from my mind as well!! Men arent so understanding and unfortunately will NEVER know what it is like to be pregnant and give birth. If i were you, id just be blunt about it..."Listen buddy, ive been carrying a child in my stomach for 4 years straight. Im a little tired..." Maybe he will get the hint...?? Congrats on your babies and good luck!!
2007-10-26 13:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by Alia's Mom 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are going to fluctuate throughout your pregnancy.. I have been the same way through my whole pregnancy. Not interested at all.. I basically explained to him that it's part of my hormones and how my body is dealing with the baby it's growing inside. He has seemed pretty understanding about the whole thing.. seems like I'm lucky that he understands, as I've seen a lot of women struggling with this very same issue.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-26 20:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I did the same thing when I was pregnant with my son. I had a hard time dealing with it. Unfortunately I dont know if it will get better. For me I just layed there for 9 months. You could try being more sensual, like going for dinner by candle light, or a fantasy you would like to do with your husband. Maybe you can find something that will help you. I couldn't but good luck to you:)
2007-10-26 20:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by *Mommy of 3* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being a asshole then take him to the doctor with you the next time and the doctor can explain that the hormones can make you not feel like sex. With all those pregnancies your body must be tired. He should just understand and that is that. If he doesn't, then he is the one with problems, not you. Being pregnant can make a woman feel unattractive too. Just do what you feel comfortable doing.
2007-10-26 20:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by Katina C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never ever want to have sex and my husband get so stressed out because im not the (horney amazon girl) that he wants to be with. He has kept me up untill 2:00 in the morning talking to me about how I need to have sex with him 3 nights a week and turn into as I said, an amazon girl. I hate sex except that it made my children.
I sapose that was no help.
2007-10-26 21:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him what your body has been through during pregnancy and get him to take you out for a meal to make you feel romantic, then start kissing but make it clear it will not lead onto sex so you can relax and feel good within yourself. im sure that after a few kissing sessions you will be in the mood, if not, then maybe porn?
hope this helps, and congratulations on another baby :)
2007-10-26 20:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Danny-Boyy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 17 weeks and feel the same way. My doctor told me that in nature, animals want sex when they are trying to conceive. Once you conceive and/or nursing, they don't have the urge since they have a baby. It's true for us too.
2007-10-26 20:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ha my fiance is the same way always wants it but i dont give it cause i just never feel in the mood... my first pregnancy i would for the last 7 months... lol... i guess its just your hormones.. he'll understand one day... maybe buy him a book on female hormones during pregnancy... lol good luck
2007-10-26 20:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Nichole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well instead of talkin g to computer try talking to him conversation is a start its ok to abstain for a time
after pregnancy if you still have no desire may be see a professional
life and love arent about pleasing someone its about pleasing each other mutuality if your not into your not into it
2007-10-26 20:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by jim1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because the point of sex is to reproduce and since you are in the process of reproducing.. sex for enjoyment seems .... well pointless.
It is natural.
2007-10-26 21:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋