One of my best good guy friends has been avoiding me lately, and he won't talk to me about it.
He's been acting so strange for about 2 weeks now, whenever we would pass in the hall, wed give each other a high five (yes, people still do that), but now, he just keeps on walkin, and he used to wait for me everymorning so we could walk to class together, now, he has new people he walks with, and just leaves me there. He also used to walk me to lunch, and we would eat together, but now, he has his new people that he eats with, and im alone
I confronted him about this yesterday, because im not going to lose a good friend over unknown reasons, So, I tried to talk to him, i was like, what been up with you lately, your pulling away from us, and he just said LEAVE, just get out of my face, and he walked away, so, i followed and tried to get him to talk to me one more time, I didn't want to pester him, so when he told me to leave a second time, so I did
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2007-10-26 12:49:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I tried to talk to him today, but he kept blowing me off, and im not the type of person who will just walk away when someone says something bad about me, so I started getting mad, and we eventually started yelling, and getting really angry...so I ended our argument saying "whenever your willing to talk, ill be willing to listen"
I really don't want to lose him as a friend, he is one of my best friends, and Im terrified of abandenment, and being alone, so this is really bugging me.
Did I handle this the right way, should I do anything else to try to fix the unknown problem, or should I just forget about him altogether and just let him go on his own way
I just don't want to lose one of my best friends because of a stupid problem
HELP!!!
2007-10-26 12:50:10 · update #1
The thing that bothers me the most, is that he is still having a good ol' time with his friends (that aren't my friends) and im there all depressed and alone. Im actually jealous, because he is so happy.....
2007-10-26 13:11:15 · update #2
Sounds to me like something happened to make him avoid you, and you obviously don't know what it is. I think you have done the right thing confronting him about it, and as long as he knows you don't know why hes avoiding you, but that you're willing to talk about it, thats about all you can do right now. Since he is one of your best friends, I'm sure he values his friendship with you also, and eventually will come around and at least talk to you about it. In the meantime, all you can do is wait for him to talk to you about it. So far though, I think you have done the right thing. I hope you get it all straightened out soon!
2007-10-26 12:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I know just how you feel. Beleive me you are not alone! There are so many people out there just like you!
Regarding this friend, the best thing you can do is leave him alone. I know how much you are hurting, because the same thing happened to me. But you may be making it worse by continuing to confront him.
As difficult as it sounds, you have to make new friends. Join a club or sport at school, Things will get better, I promise! Good luck and let us know how this turns out!
2007-10-26 13:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I read this my heart broke for you. It was like reading my high school experience all over again. I wish I could give you some advice or soemthing on this matter but I come up empty with it. Just pray about it and leave it at that. You stated that when he is ready to talk you will be ready to listen so now the ball is in his court. The downfall is once he is ready he will have already put a whole in your freindship. Good luck sweetheart
2007-10-26 12:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Megan E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar situation once and it was difficult Tyler started acting weird and i could not understand it either then 5 weeks passed and he came to me after school crying like crazy then he told me what happened. he was having sex with my worst enemy Kristin. (that little s-l-u-t) and she told him that if he avoided me he would get more so after 2 hours of hearing " I'm SO sorry" and " ill do any thing if you forgive me" between sobs he calmed down and walked me home and we talked know hes my closest friend ever. so you might be in a similar situation.
2007-10-26 13:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by hottie34923 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me with a clos girl friend I found out she was mad at me because I "spread" a rumor about her I didn't spread, he could be mad at almost anything, highschools like that I think you acted well for the situation you were in
2007-10-26 12:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by wiz and skinz fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm terribly sry for u
i think u have done the right thing and all u have to do is wait until he is ready to tlk
maybe he needs some space so let him be and just wait
i think thats all the u can do right now and i wish u all the best!
2007-10-26 13:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by !urbeauty! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go his own way. If he wants to come back he will. You tried your best, now let it cool.
2007-10-26 12:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋