I am an Aspie and I have found that there are those who will try to take advantage of someone with a disability. (garages especially) Maybe it is their "radar" that picks up my autism and they think they can "pull the wool" over my eyes and I won't notice that I am being overcharged, etc. I don't mean I am suspicious of everyone's intentions but I have to be vigilent that I am not being taken advantage of. Just a hypothesis, but maybe these types of predators prey on a disabled person's desire to be viewed as normal and to just be accepted. Has anyone else (especially fellow Aspies) experienced this and if so how did you deal with it?
2007-10-26 11:29:59 · 9 answers · asked by Bocephus 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ People with Disabilities
Depends on your experiences of course. I don't think Aspies are the only ones taken advantage of by garages etc, they've been doing that to women and older people for decades.
People seem to think that it's ok to mess with disabled people ,they're usually the people who have nothing else going for them in their lives so to pick on a disabled person makes them feel big and superior.
Usually low self-esteem causes that.
Not everyone is going to be nasty however and you just learn to trust your gut.
2007-10-27 04:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I am constantly worried about this, I have a sensory processing disorder not specified. People who are smooth talkers notice I don't process information the same way and use it to their advantage. I can't tell where people stand. Hmm...
I have a great support group. I try to let go of past ills when I couldn't do anything about it. Take action if you can, but have coping skills when it works or don't. I also have an advocate.
2007-10-27 01:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an Aspie, but I am disabled. I can't say I'm distrustful of others, unless they give me reason to distrust them, but a couple of people I only know casually treat me like I'm hard of hearing, or stupid because of my disability.
In a conversation, they'll raise their voice and almost yell only when addressing me, which I find hilarious in a way. It's my legs that are disabled, not my ears. And, some of them talk r.e.a.l. s.l.o.w to me like I'm stupid and can't follow them if they talk normally when they first meet me and don't know me very well. Silly people!
2007-10-27 06:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Clare 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am more understanding, accepting and forgiving because of my disability. I am skeptical of most people but that has to do with the fact that I understand that there are a lot of dishonest, greedy and deceitful people. The way I see it, trust is earned with no exceptions.
2007-10-26 18:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo Sucks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not an aspie, but i think ur right.
it's not limited to people with disabilities though, people try to take advantage of other people who seem meek, or older, or younger as well.. - basically anyone that might be looked "down" on
2007-10-26 18:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Luken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman in a wheelchair. I think some people act like Im not able to make good decisions. they often tend to oversell, try to switch me up from the product i ask them to show me, or give me very poor service. Others are wonderfull and go out of their way to assist me.
2007-10-27 04:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have Aspergers. Yes, people will take unfair, even cruel advantage of you.
It sucks. And yes, I can be very distrustful of others but initially I am very trusting, then once that trust is broken, it never returns.
2007-10-26 20:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very much so.
2007-10-27 03:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by starone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words you respond with. "Presume competence."
2007-10-27 11:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dinah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋