Can you force a miscarriage?

Question

I went on holiday recently and ended up being raped while I was there. I've done a pregnancy test and I'm deffinitely pregnant. I cannot get an abortion because my parents would know and I am against abortion [which might sound weird of me asking if you can force a miscarriage.]

I can't give birth to this baby, I'm 14 years old! It would ruin my whole life... I don't know what else to do except try and force a miscarriage..

Any answers would be great. Thanks.

Answer 1

Forcing a miscarriage IS abortion, think about it. Seriously.

Answer 2

A forced miscarriage is an abortion and you could seriously endanger your life risking it weithout a proper doctor.
If you cant talk to your parents then speak to a teacher or school counsellor or another close adult relative.
I agree at your age and having been raped you cannot have this child, but if you dont tell someone soon it will be too late to do anything else. And everyone will know about it, parents and the rest of the world.
You should not be afraid to terminate this pregnancy. Just as someone who does not believe in sex b4 marriage is not to blame if they are raped, a rape is an exceptional case for abortion.

Answer 3

I understand your views on abortion and disappointing your parents but if you force a miscarriage you might not just hurt the baby but yourself also.
If talking to your parents is not an option is there a church member, school teacher, or neighbor you can talk to?
Trust me, even if you did miscarry and were able to put that part behind you, the emotional stress of just being raped will wear on you for many more years. Seeking answers and help will be the only way you can overcome this both physically and mentally.
Please don't ignore this and hope it goes away..... it never will.

Answer 4

I understand and respect your decision to not have an abortion. You can't force a miscarriage, but what I'd do if I were in your position is have the baby and give it to a loving home. There are SO many couples out there who can't have babies and it would be a blessing for you to give the baby to a family. If you do decide keeping the baby is what you want then i wish you the best of luck and just love that baby no matter the circumstances. If you ever need any advice or someone to talk to, feel free to email me. i'm a mother myself!

Answer 5

You're against abortion, you say? Medically, miscarriage is called a spontaneous abortion.

I'm very sorry that this happened to you. The best thing that you can do is talk to your parents. They will try to help you make the best decision for you and your situation.

Answer 6

If you were raped, you should tell your parents. I understand you feel like a baby at the age of 14 would ruin your life.. but trying to inflict a home abortion will ruin your body.

Many people believe that abortion is acceptable in the circumstance of rape. Talk to a grown up - you can't do this alone.

Maybe you can get the pill RU-486 which is the abortion pill you can use up to 7 weeks of pregnancy.

Answer 7

OK. First of all calm down. Believing that you are saying the truth, I’ll drop in my two cents. If you are under a lot of stress, u might end up miscarrying as well. But don't try any of the ideas presented here. They might or might not lead to a miscarriage but they will definitely harm you. GO TO A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY. If you were raped recently, there are pills that can help u. It’s called THE MORNING AFTER PILL. It'll just cause you to have a "miscarriage". Although it is totally your decision, I'd like to tell you that you shouldn't go through with this pregnancy. This sounds harsh. But this is why I'm telling you this: You were RAPED. It isn't your fault. You are in no way responsible for this thing inside you. Yes, I called it a thing because it is just a POTENTIAL life. It is NOT a life because it does not have the ability to live outside you, very similar to a virus. So basically, it acts as a parasite. I disagree with the people suggesting adoption. There are millions of adoptable kids in orphanages who are waiting to be adopted. Ask these random strangers on yahoo to GUARANTEE your baby a life of love in case you give birth and then you'll see how hypocritical they really are. I also disagree that u should go through pregnancy at this age. These people who are asking you to just do it are forgetting what it truly is. It is NINE MONTHS OF HELL. Morning sickness, fatigue, constipation, diarrhea, back pain, irritability, sore breasts, cramps, varicose veins, hormones, pain, pain, pain, and pain. And did I mention childbirth? It is the MOST PAINFUL NATURAL EXPERIENCE ONE CAN GO THROUGH. And I don’t believe anyone should be made or even persuaded to go through all this if they didn’t want to be pregnant. You were raped, and you didn’t ask for it. Rape must have been hard enough already. No one has the right to ask you to go through this for your rapist’s child. DON’T DO IT. No one’s waiting to adopt your baby. And your life will be ruined. You are only 14. You still have your entire life ahead. Don’t let anyone tell you its better otherwise. Get the pill, induce the abortion, and forget it. Trust me. If you have the abortion, you might regret it but you can always have another baby. But if you have the baby now, there is no going back. There are millions of babies in the US and there is no guarantee that your child will be adopted. Don’t ruin your and this potential child’s life.
These people recommending adoption are doing so based on sentiments and emotions. Gather your facts and make the right decision LOGICALLY. Don’t let emotion guide you on one of the most vulnerable and life-altering stage you might ever face.

Answer 8

You should really talk with your parents. If you were raped, you need to tell someone. There are a lot of women who would love to have children but can't. I am absolutely sure you could find a good, loving home for this child. You have to remember, this baby didn't ask to come into this world either. So don't end it's life now! Really----talk to your parents! They would want you to.

Answer 9

I'm not a proponent of abortion, but it is a real option. You can always go to a clinic and they can help give you the options. Not only is forcing a miscarriage the same (if not worse) than abortion, it can be very dangerous for both you and the baby. Don't forget about adoption if abortion isn't an option for you. Tell someone who can be supportive--it will help you out sooo much.

Answer 10

First I'd like to say, it's not your fault. I don't care where you were, or what you were doing. It is not your fault. I know the idea of going to your parents is frightening, but keep in mind here that you are not to blame, therefor when you go to them and explain your situation, they will hopefully understand your situation. Be sure to be very clear about what occurred. I'm sure once you speak to them about this, you will be provided with the help and support you need, but you should not be isolated in this.
If your parents deny you help, then there are other things to do, like checking out the planned parenthood website or maybe speaking to your doctor or a school councilor.
Miscarriages can be very dangerous. Alongside being essentially self done abortions, you can severely damage yourself. Please do not take this route. Ask for help.

Answer 11

"Forcing" a miscarriage is just the same as an abortion. It's still killing your baby. I will not give you any advice in how to go about what you're asking. You need to go and be seen by a doctor.