My wife just left me a week ago, but we are not legally seperated or divorced or anything. She has not responded to my emails and the one time I tried to call her when she heard it was me she hung up.
Can I end up in legal trouble by trying to contact her? Is there some guideline to the amount of times I can try to call/email her in a day without getting into trouble?
Keep in mind that I'm not trying to argue with her via email or phone so much as establish some sort of communication. I know that if I called her constantly to insult her or call her names THAT would be harassment. But what about just calling her to try to find out what is going on with our marraige?
2007-10-26 09:15:11 · 18 answers · asked by Norman 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I guess I also need to know what could later be construed as unsolicited communication...does that mean I can't try to find a place to live or a new job or anything until she decides to contact me?
2007-10-26 09:22:47 · update #1
Legally, she can claim harassment at any time. However, it can only be established in this case if AFTER she has asked you to not contact her, you continue to do so.
Better to email her an invitation to a neutral location to talk about the marriage with a professional marital therapist. Identify a date, place, and time. If she does not show up or respond, then leave it alone.
Hope this helps, good luck.
2007-10-26 09:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by ken erestu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If She Hasnt Told You Not to Call You Can Call. Within Reason Dont Keep Calling If She Hangs Up. Try Writing Or Have Someone Close To You Both Relay A Message. Good Luck To You.
2007-10-26 10:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by SWAT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously very hurt and shocked - rightfully so! However, by contacting your wife now, even just to establish communication, is the WRONG thing to do - she left because she needed some space - There will be plenty of time to try to figure out what went wrong. Wait for a period of time before you try to talk to her again! Don't push her - she'll never be back or even want to establish communication with you if you keep trying to contact her.
You may not know the ONE reason she left - but you do already know that she wouldn't have left if the marriage was going well for her.
After a bit, suggest marriage counseling to get to the bottom of all the issues - if she won't go with you, go yourself! It will help tremendously! Good luck...
2007-10-26 09:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by GrammieV 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The harassment laws vary in the UK from county to county. In the county I live in, harassment is UNWANTED attention that persists once the person who is harassing has been issued with a verbal warning. If they persist after this, they are finally issued with a verbal warning from a police officer who will get the harasser to sign his notebook saying he understands the verbal warning that has been issued.
Basically, until your wife informs you to stop contacting her, you are safe, but common sense tells you that a huge amount of texts/emails/calls per day/week is not healthy, regardless of what your intentions are. If your wife does tell you to stop contacting her, then your best route of communication would be via a solicitor.
2007-10-26 09:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by robincaz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not unless she files a restraining order against you, otherwise, keep trying to get a hold of her.
Call her as many times as you want until she threatens you with a restraining order then when she does, you will need proof, that will be when they find you at work and slap it in your hands, until then, keep calling her.
If you constantly called her and used insults and called her names, that would be verbal harrassment, BUT, if she calls the police and tries to get you arrested for verbal harrassment, I know in my state of Michigan, the police can't do anything to you because you did not physicall harm her!
I was verbally assulted last week and the police could not file a report because he did not physically assult me in any way.
Boy, was I mad!!!!!
Try calling her, you have every right, but if she is getting annoyed, I would step back and give her time, you do not want any of the guys in blue to be pounding at your door or an attorney!! Since their fees can run you into the ground.
2007-10-26 09:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not even close to harassment. Just tell your family not to answer his questions. However, it does sound likely that he is the abusive type. You should look into information from local women's shelters and provide it to her at a safe time and place.
2016-04-10 07:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, common sense tells you and me and everyone else that what you're doing is not harrassment, however we all know how ridiculous some laws can be. I would have thought you would need a warning before anything formal is processed. But Im not a Solicitor so I wouldnt know. Maybe you should give her a week to think about things and maybe she will contact you.
2007-10-26 09:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by missBambi 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
While you're not divorced or separated, she has left you for a reason. Give her some space and let her breathe for a moment. Then in a few days, make a call. But if you are constantly harassing her (and yes this IS what you are doing) you are going to drive her further and further away.
2007-10-26 09:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by L.A. H 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If someone doesn't want you to contact them and you contact them that could be considered harassment. If you want to find out about what is happening about your marriage.. use a lawyer or police officer to help you out here.. this way you'll avoid a harassment charge! I just happen to be studying about becoming a police officer!
US Law might be a little different than Canadian Law!
2007-10-26 09:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any excessive unsolicited form of communication between you and your wife at this point will constitute harassment, plain and simple.
2007-10-26 09:20:20 · answer #10 · answered by nsecurenold 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋