What Makes People So Lazy?

Question

Just curious cause I know someone who is extremly lazy doesn't take care of her home it looks awful, I tried to help her out to get her motivated but she's starting to let what I did go down hill and I put a lot of work into her house. She has two children but I have more and can manage to keep my house looking better!

Guys I can understanding putting off things from time to time but her house is so nasty it litterally could be a health hazard! Mold in the coffee pot..ugh trash running over...yuck!

Answer 1

i have a neighbor like this that i tried to help once..never again..her kids walk all over her, her house is a pig sty.....she claims she has OCD...i think it is more just like lazy *** syndrome...

Answer 2

I wouldn't characterize this as a motivation issue, but really a question of something I refer to as the threshold for mess. A threshold for mess is level of messiness, clutter, and filth that someone can tolerate before they feel compelled or motivated to clean-up.

The question is not so much "why is your friend not motivated", but why are you motivated to clean her house? The answer is that you have a lower threshold for mess and clutter and you probably feel uncomfortable in friend's house. That discomfort motivates you to remove the source of discomfort, your friend's messy house.

So it's not simply a matter of getting her motivated to clean. That is important, but it may be more important to try to change her threshold or trigger for when things need to be cleaned. For example, the kitchen is a good place to start. Other rooms can get cluttered and dusty over time, but the kitchen can get filthy and nasty in a day or two. There are also serious health risks that come from having a dirty kitchen.

See if can get your friend to show an interest in keeping one room, the kitchen, clean for one week. Talk up the benefits of keeping the kitchen clean.

1. Healthier and less risk of foodborn illness.
2. Cleaning up after cooking is the easiest time to clean because nothing is dried and stuck on.
3. Same for doing the dishes.
4. Always have enough clean silverware and dishes to serve food (i.e., have to go out less because the kitchen is too messy).
5. and so on and so forth.

The hope is that dealing with clutter in the kitchen becomes a habit that generalizes to other rooms in the house. The key is not just to get her motivated to clean once, but to change her perception of cleanliness so she is less tollerant to mess in general.

Answer 3

It may be she was raised that way. But if it is really unsanitary in there, you may have to call CPS. The children could be in danger of getting sick. There are all kinds of bacteria, ecoli,samonella etc. If the children are old enough, maybe get them involved with the housework. She may not know how to clean because maybe she was not taught. I had a friend like that, and she lived with another friend. The clean friend and I scrubbed the whole house. The dirty friend came back from being out, and the kitchen looked like a tornado hit it in ten minutes! Good Luck, but she has to know that her dirty house could be unhealthy!

Answer 4

Upbringing makes people lazy. If you grew up spoiled, with someone who picked up after you, and did everything else for you, you won't do anything for yourself. I used to be that girl. My mom used to clean my room for me when I lived at home. I never had chores, I always got what I wanted and when I got out on my own I was clueless in regards to caring for myself, my money, and my home. My parents thought they were giving me the good life (thanks Mommy and Daddy) but they actually hindered my step into adulthood. Now I understand how to manage my time and despite my busy life I still manage to keep my home neat. She needs something to motivate her. For me, a man did it. A guy I was dating wanted a woman who could cook, clean, and honestly that's what most men want in a wife. So I changed. For her, I think you should use her kids to motivate her. Tell her that a dirty house breeds bacteria and airbone germs and such. Tell her she should have a clean home so her kids will grow up healthy. If that doesn't do it, I don't know what will. Good luck!

Answer 5

Our house is like a little doll hose, we are the leaders in the community here. We draw great pride in our neighboorhood and our area. If someone needs help, we'll help them but, they have to aide also.
Some people are plain lazy, there's no two words about it, lazy. They can't get up to open thier own beer. I have no time for these people. I've tried to help them from time to time but, to no avail, they'll stand and watch.

Answer 6

Im not parranoid but i seriously think that the government puts chemicals in the air we breathe and the food we eat...which is why obesity is such a problem in the US and only the US cuz 50 years ago we were just as hard working as Japan and other countries creating "easy living" technology today...I have noticed everyone getting very lazy even if your not overwieght somthing about the way we have to work to death to earn a living in the US makes absolutly no sense at all!!!!

Answer 7

You answered your own question in your description, its the lack of motivation. Some people just simply don't have motivation for life and let it pass them by. Then there's the opposite end of the spectrum people, such as myself, who have too much motivation and are always active and working hard to accomplish goals

Answer 8

Some laziness is just that: garden variety laziness.

For other folks, some underlying psychological or physiological pathology could be at work (e.g., depression).

For still others: cleaning up one's house just isn't a priority. They are laid back, and it simply doesn't bother them. They may have other pressing matters to tend to.

~M~

Answer 9

the laziness