Have you ever felt the need to save someone even if they aren't worth saving?

Answer 1

Surprisingly, I have. Whether that person is worth saving depends on how the other values that person's worth in the long term.

Those "outcasts" can make potential allies or can prove to be useful "tools." By saving them, they feel indebted to one and can be easily manipulated to do one's bidding. One's options, however, much be taken into consideration. Do the positives outweigh the negatives? Will saving this person cost me more in the long than to just let this person deteriorate? Those are questions one must ask oneself.

Answer 2

Wow excellent question my friend and I just had this conversation like two days ago. I find that when I like another person or feel love attraction etc.. I want to help them out make things right in their life rescue them but over time if the other person does not say thank you or shows no sign of gratitude they show me their true colors and that is extremely painful and sad and the reality is that I cared about this person in the end we hurt ourselves because we wanted to help this person and then sometimes we even going so far as to say what is wrong with me your being your worth gets dragged in the pie but when you finally come to your senses you realize that you are worthy and a beautiful person and you know how to love and give and help but there are some people that are selfish and just care about themselves and their careers etc.. and they are a fraud with no substance or value that you originally place on them so the energies that you placed on them will return to you and you will feel great again like a weight had been lifted off your shoulders and you will help those that really understand and appreciate your time instead of using or draining your energies for their own opportunist ways :)) Good luck :))

Answer 3

Often times, no one really care about the worth of a person to be saved, at that time all that matters is that one is saving some one. All other questions comes later.

Answer 4

Wow isn't every life worth saving I mean as far as man can know. We cannot judge a person's heart sometimes we don't know the depth of our own heart. I have felt compassion in strange situations. But I would ever consider myself and authority on who does not deserve mercy and love for I have made many many mistakes in my life and I pray that if someone would care and have a loving heart instead of ridicule they would reach out to save me.

Answer 5

Your question is so very apropos of something I experienced about a month ago, & I'll refer to it only to make a very important distinction.
First, I expect that many people would say, "Who determines the worth of a person?"
However, two of your answers made the most, & only pragmatic points. -I, Robot-: "Do the positives outweigh the negatives"? jenny: "...you cannot help someone who does not want to be helped."
I had a client, friend(?) of many years. (Sometimes for a psychologist to also be a "friend" is helpful; never for a psychiatrist.) However, in retrospect, I can see that because she was also my friend, I was far too lenient; I was in a sense, an enabler. She is, & will always be a danger (to herself & others) alcoholic. Just two of many prior incidents: She was beating her seven year old daughter in the back seat of her car. When I tried to intervene, she struck me violently. I SHOULD have called CPS. I was following her as she drove drunkenly, crossing the median into oncoming traffic, & was prepared to dial 911 on my cell when she went completely off the road. INSTEAD, I called one of her friends who came to pick her up. Many other red flags, & I'm chagrined about my professional negligence. I truly believed I could "help" her.
This last incident was so severe, it was an epiphany. In her drunken state, she was lurching toward a glass case on which she could have (perhaps fatally) struck her head. As I tried to deflect her, she hurled me to the floor. I have fractured ribs, sprains, contusions & torn tendons that won't heal for months. Perhaps my physical pain, & diminished ability to do the slightest task made me realize I've been coping with a "lost cause."
Does this have to do with the "worth" of the person, or as -I, Robot- & jenny said?
This woman incessantly drinks brandy from a tea cup, actually hoping her (now grown) daughter will believe her lies, knowing her daughter does NOT when she sniffs the tea cup
& that her daughter knows that she knows her daughter knows she's lying.
No. This woman may be "worth saving," but as long as she is in denial, there's nothing further I can do for her. I won't even try.
I hope this helps to see the difference.

Answer 6

I can't think of anyone who isn't worth saving, except maybe a murder or child molester, and no I have never felt the need to save someone like that.

Answer 7

Always feeling so cuz we are humans and all doin mistakes
but doing so is not easy..the one must be so patient and even can bear the insults that we will be like the bullets Which i know and felt alot
I succeeded to save some but there are some who are resistant but i will not give up
Saving for me may be a social or economic or scientific or concerning morals ...It concerns all
Everyone needs advice and to direct his/her powers accurately and carefully..Some don't know doing so or doing so but they abuse the powers or know everything even they know that they are abusing their own specific powers however keep in doing so..The last really are more resistant and needs both the logical and the emotional saving or supporting....
Excellent question and it is really so perfect..
KEEP-ON.........Best wishes and good luck

Answer 8

Dont you think that saving people you deem "worth saving" is a selfish act? Someone "worth it" might contribute to your benefits after the fact.

On the other hand, saving someone "not worth it," as you deem it, is selfless... because you truly believe you wont get anything out of the deal, not even appreciation.

Most people are quite selfish, actually. They rationalize their humane acts of kindness as selfless... but they blind themselves from the truth. That truth is the amount of pleasure they get from their act. Or other altruistic benefits they may acquire.

Do you think you can knowingly and deliberately allow yourself permanent deficit for the sake of another? This is where your true character shines.

To answer your question... have I ever felt the need to save someone not worth saving? I have never actually arrogantly put myself on a pedestal like that. We are all unique and special and deserve life and happiness. I may want the best for myself, but I am biased toward that end. My moral, objective, rational, decision-making mind wont allow me to act toward my benefits at the costs of other peoples health, safety, etc.

Unfortunately we live in a competitive economy. We are forced, by society and by our government, to trade value in one form or another... and we all act to profit at the cost of the other. Thats the American way.

We are selfish, corrupted by the power and influence that money brings us, that fame brings us. We gossip in order to raise our position society and undermine others'. We love money when we have it... but we hate it when we dont.

Those of us with money have little regard for those of us without it... except when we do our "humane" thing - donations followed by entries on tax returns.

Consequently, if we could apply it correctly and without corruption, and appropriate reward hard work, I would be in favor of a communist world.

If you havent noticed yet, Im very cynical about humanity. Im an idealist. And I know I will forever be disappointed because we are animals with an evolutionary imperative we cannot overcome.

Answer 9

And who is ANYBODY to say if a person is worth saving or not? What makes another human think that their life is worth more? I'm sure that person has or had a mother that thought so. EVERY LIFE IS WORTH SAVING!! (well, you know the exceptions) (terrorists and stuff)

Answer 10

Probably many times, because if someone asks for help or needs help, they are in your experience for a reason - we have no way of knowing that they aren't worth saving. We must do what we are given to do.

However, if we are unable to assist them, i.e. there are no results from our effort, and we find we are unable to 'let them go' OR this pattern of relationship is often repeated - we must consider that PERHAPS our ego is attached to this kind of worthless interaction because of what it is getting out of it emotionally.