Can you tell your boyfriend you want him to lose his belly weight?

Question

My boyfriend has a huge belly. It gets in the way and it's unattractive to me. I have suggested exercising together. He still does nothing. I think it's actually getting bigger. So, can I just say...hey I want you to lose that belly fat. How should I say it? I know our relationhip,especially in the bdrm, would improve greatly.

Answer 1

tell him Dr Oz made a house call

http://health.discovery.com/fansites/droz/excerpt.html

Answer 2

You CAN tell him that, as long as the relationship means nothing to you and you don't mind having him so hurt that he never wants to see you again. People who are overweight know they are overweight. Losing the gut is not easy for anyone, and for some guys it's nearly impossible. Being nagged is a major stress, and stress makes people gain more weight, even if they eat the same amount and exercise the same.

Love him the way he is or leave. Becoming a nag is not what you want to do with your life. Nagging is a form of rejection -- better to just reject him outright than to start dropping little hints about his belly.

Answer 3

this isn't really answering your question, but I have the same problem too. I will suggest working out together and sometimes I can get him to go for walks with me. We are starting to eat better now. He makes it more of an effort not to eat fast food. I do pack him lunch every day, which has been helping also. I really don't know what else to do because we did have a gym membership but he never really went, so when you find something that truly works, let me know.

Answer 4

I read somewhere recently that belly fat is the most dangerous type of fat deposit to have. It can lead to heart attacks. Does he drink too much beer? If so, he could be an alcoholic, in which case just give up. His tum will get bigger and bigger and he will prefer beer to sex. Get someone else. I had a fat boyfriend and when my next one had a perfect body, the difference was fantastic.

Answer 5

Lets say your boyfriend needs to lose 30 pounds. Take a backpack that and put 30 pounds in it. Tell him to carry it everywhere he goes including working with it on. He will be exhausted. After, tell him that is what fat is, excess dead weight that just saps your energy. Join weight-watchers together. Put the emphasis on eating healthy and not as much on exercise at first. Just go together for a 40 minute walk daily together. Don't expect fast results. A pound a week is 52 pounds in a year.

Answer 6

Let him know that it is bothering you. Be aware that he may say there is something about you that he finds unatractive as well. Or, if you already know you have a body part that he would prefer to be firmer or slimer....suggest that the two of you work out together. After the work out, maybe "reward" him by showering together and lathering eachother up... Make it a team effort.

Answer 7

make the gym something you do together. also tell him.."look, our sex lives are going to be better to, don't you want that?" ... if he still refuses he is in denial or something about losing weight. so, if he keeps refusing, if I were you I'd go by myslef and look better than ever and inspire him to get his *** out off the couch. the more of an effort you make, the more of an effort he is going to feel he has to make, so lead by example. if that doesnt work, he just doesnt care about anything. I hnestly dont know what to tell you if he doesnt respond to any of that. maybe you can say "look, i am making an effort, now you have to make an effort for me. it makes me feel good, but it makes it better for both of us. do this with me. dont you want to make what we have even better?". guilt often works ... hope this helps

Answer 8

Maybe you could tell him by stating you are concerned about his health with the extra weight, instead of making it such a physical issue. If you are not attracted to him anymore, perhaps you should re-evaluate your relationship and see if it is time to move on. If you really still love him, you might have to look past it.

Answer 9

Start working out all the time. He'll get lonely, and eventually will want to join in, .. I Hope. lol. Feed him healthy. As long as you feed him a lot, he won't know that it's healthy food (such as fruits or grilled veggies with cheese:)

Answer 10

Its up to him. Until its really unhealthy then you need to just deal with it. This whole thing makes you sound really shallow. As long as hes a great guy that should be good enough for you.

Answer 11

If offering to workout together didn't get him moving...would expressing that things would improve in the bedroom motivate him? I workout regularly but if I heard that from my wife I would workout even more!!