Should I come out to them as it might freak them out and I think I would be ridiculed?
2007-10-26 04:35:02 · 18 answers · asked by Sammi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
So just what are you doing?
You say you are a transvestite, does that mean that you do that on your own time after work? Or does that mean that at your work you present yourself as the other gender?
If they "know", then what more do they need? Are you wanting to disturb them, is that your goal? If not, then why bother?
Either you are wanting to 'push the envelope' or you are just doing your thing on your own time--the two do not have to happen simultaneously.
Bear in mind, that the norms and traditions you have observed in their presence assumes place for males portrayed as males and females portrayed as females. What is your objective then, if you risk "it might freak them out" by defining yourself to them as something outside their concept of normal? Bucking tradition carries risk. Some will and some won't accept. If you knew already that they would automatically and unquestionably accept you, then the matter would have long ago been made clear. Therefore, you will experience pain in your relationships, and some of those others will experience pain. Is it worth the pain and social disruption in your little circle of the world for you to bother 'coming out' to them? I think not. But then, you might merely be exploring a feeling of expanding your boundaries. You set your boundaries before, and your sensibilities and fear established lines, don't destroy on a whim the lines that you once found sensible. You may discover that your lines were entirely right.
2007-10-26 04:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it would really nice if we could all just be who we want to be and like you i would love to be able to tell all exactly how i feel inside but the society we live in will not allow that, even if there are one or two people you have told in the past and they have been ok with it telling your work colleagues would im sure be a mistake i can almost promise you that you will be ridiculed and some will totally blank you.
Although it would give you a great feeling of liberation it would i think be short lived and after all you would probably not be able to go to work dressed and be treated with any civility. I think its best to only share this with people who need to know and you can really trust.
2007-10-26 04:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what I'd do in your situation, but I know i'll be in a simililar one one day, hope they accept you. Sometimes you get surprises from people who turn out to be tolerant and accepting. This is my account for being open about transsexuality, so I can say that I know some of what your concerns are, but not all. I personally have no problem with transvestites even if their not quite like me :) I hope whatever decision you take works out for you.
2007-10-26 07:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If some of your friends know... If they're your truly friends they won't hate, right?
Now... Your coworkers... I got the same trouble, I'm not trans, I'm gay, and I started talking about the gay theme...
I didn't say I hate gays, but didn't say I am neither, I just wanted to see what they think about it. I saw they were fine at this theme. So I decided to tell to three of them, now I get along more than before!!!
One advise. Don't let your personal life get troubles in your job.
Luck!
2007-10-26 04:52:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only one life taht we live, if u area transvestite u should be confident about it and come out in the open and i am sure your friends and colleagues will treat u just the same. it doent matter who u r when u good to people
2007-10-26 07:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by The Lost Elf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never volunteer information. If they come to you and ask questions, then that's different. Answer only the questions you are comfortable with. Remember this is your life and you owe no one any explanations. If you think you will be ridiculed then keep your life to yourself. You have but one obligation and that is to yourself.
2007-10-26 04:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel l 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't (and hasn't) freaked me out in the past when friends have told me they are LBG or T.
BUT if you are unsure I would just keep quiet as it really isn't anyone else's business.
2007-10-26 04:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Storm Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what makes you comfortable. If you're happier keeping it a secret then do so. However I agree with the person above that it's their problem if they freak out.
Good luck!
2007-10-26 04:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Xai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you think they already suspect.. why dont you drop a few hints and see what happens.. like wear a little mascara and if someone mentions it then say 'whoops i forgot to take it off from last night' casually drop things into conversation.. that way they will come round easier...
2007-10-26 04:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by confused 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whatever makes you feel better...
why do you have to explain to them anyway???
if one of them was into sado n u kinda figurred you think that they would come and tell you???
girl you don t have to explain to anybody!!!
you are what you are and that s it!!! if they have questions they can ask you....and only IF you want you answer.....
no reason to explain... ((hugs))
2007-10-26 06:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋