Well we're living together right now, and we've only been together a year only. The problem is that it feels like we're an old married couple. We HARDLY have sex, he hardly kisses me or hugs me. He NEVER compliments me and tells me hey you look nice today. NEVER! I do. When I like how he looks he knows it. I am always down for sex! I am always there for him. I dont understand why he treats me like crap. If we get into a small argument he ignores me the rest of the night. He is a jerk. Like last night we got in an argument and I told him what i thought, i didnt insult him or anything and he didnt talk to me the rest of the night. I wake up early every morning to go to work. yet i go to sleep late because i pick him up from work every night, he wakes up late and he doesnt care if i get enough rest or not. why is he this way?? I think he should take the bus but he says its dangerous and what not. I only get like five hours of sleep he oversleeps if anything. If I wake him up in the morning when I go to work he complains oh I’m so tired because someone woke me up to early, what the hell! We are living at him mom’s right now but we got our apartment which wont be ready until next Saturday, I am having second thoughts about him going with me. Guys: do you act this way with your gf or wife and expect them to know you love them? He neglects me and treats me like crap. I know I’m not the greatest price but for the most part I give him what he wants and needs. What more can I do? In your opinion, should I move out by myself?
Oh and we’re really young, so I don’t understand why we act like an old married couple. He’s 19 but acts like he’s 50! I’m a bit older I’m 23, but I’m a pretty hot girl, I don’t understand why he hardly touches me at night, or kisses me. When we do have sex its great but I’m clueless, guys, any advice???
2007-10-26 04:26:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and for the girl who said that i posted this before?? you're wrong, this is the first time, the fight was last night!! i just wrote that a few minutes ago.. crazy lady
2007-10-26 04:41:14 · update #1
He is 19 years old, that says it all. No, not all men treat there girlfriends/wives this way. He should be treating you with respect and love, not like sh!t. You do not deserve it, c'mon lady your 23 years old? What the hell are you doing with a teenager? There are millions of fish in the sea, why settle for a teeny bopper? Test your relationship. Tell him when the apartment is ready that you would rather he not move in with you, explain to him that you do not appreciate the way he treats you and you definately do not deserve it and until he changes and starts treating you better you do not want to continue the relationship. If he whines and tries to tell you he loves you, don't take him back until you see improvements because men always say that sh!t and they never change. If he acts like he doesn't care then right there you should know he has no respect for you and your basically in this relationship for nothing!
2007-10-26 04:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kasja 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I loved this line:
"I’m a bit older I’m 23, but I’m a pretty hot girl"
You said this as if ,at 23, most women's looks go straight down the crapper.
The dude is 19, and for some reason, I've noticed this about other kids of that age, they seem as if acting like an asshole makes them the coolest. I don't get it.
Dump the sap. Get yourself a real man.
2007-10-26 11:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sean C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are right to re-consider moving into an apt with him. Maybe he doesn't want to have sex at his 'mom's house'. Sounds to me like you have stepped into the role of his next 'mommy'.
Take him for a walk away from the house and talk to him. "Problems in a relationship are reflected as problems in the bedroom. Since I still want you sexually and I'm very attracted to you, I would like to know what the problem might be so we can work on it." If he gets angry let him vent, do not defend yourself. Then at some point tell him if you need to that you are having second thoughts about moving into the new place and tell him why.
2007-10-26 11:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel this way about someone, just dump him. It's going tobe great afterwards, believe me. When you're free of him and can be happy. You can find someone who respects you.
If it's hard for you to make a decission, make a pro con list. What are the reasons to stay with him(haven't heard much of those yet). And the reasons leave don't seem hard to find.
So, dump him. You can't go on like this anyway. It's hard to do but you'll have to power through and then you'll be free again.
2007-10-26 11:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by saskia r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, part of it is that he's young, but the relationship isn't going to get any better. He'll learn someday, but you should not stick around in a loveless relationship at 23 y.o. Move on now while you can make a clean break. And remember: The first breakup never sticks.
2007-10-26 11:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by jimmer333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats you this way b/c you let him. If you put your foot down and don't accept his jerky behavior, then he will either change or leave. If he leaves, then your better off.
Just don't get pregnant or anything or else you will be tied to him forever and may see more of his jerky side.
In a relationship, both the man and woman should care and be genuinely concerned for each others feelings. If he is not that way now, then he will most likely not be this way in the future.
I married my wife thinking she would change and actually want sex. 15 years in and I am in a sexless marriage. Things rarely change for the better and you will not be able to change him.
2007-10-26 11:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Good lord, if you go on and on and on with him like you did this question, the poor guy is probably bored to death! Want a little cheese with that whine?
You're right. You're "clueless"
Just remember...he's a 19 yr old BOY. You both need to grow up.
2007-10-26 11:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is wrong with ur guy
either he is a really booring person
or has problems at work
and are u sure hes not cheating on u
cos u are older to him and he may be digging for younger chicks
well if wht u say is really true and u are a sexy hot chick
dump him and move on
u deserve something better
2007-10-26 11:35:47 · answer #8 · answered by akhil2play 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess..u better run...I think he is gettin too used to your being arnd...jus give him the cold treatment 4 a while if he still doesnt change...I guess he is the world's greatest JERK...leave him...n u will be better widout him...hope u find true love..
2007-10-26 11:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by anitha i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TMI and I have ADD.
RUN! A relationship with no passion is not a relationship at all. You have needs, and he obviously can't comply. If you want to remain stuck in a boring, passionless relationship, then go ahead, but nothing you do will change him.
2007-10-26 11:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋