2007-10-26 03:41:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Put your hand on a hot stove. Your hand get's burned. Forever afterwards, when you walk by the stove - you remember in detail about when you burned your hand. You avoid the stove unless you have to cook something on it. But still you are cautious.
The same with people. When people are rude to you or hurt you physically, you withdrawl inward to avoid further injury.
The best way to get out of this inner fear is to push your emotions up in your brain. Emotions are controlled by our metabolism. If it is high, we are happy and self-confident. Aerobic exercise pushes our metabolism up again.
2007-10-26 03:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm sure most people have. Triggers could vary, but I'm thinking that most of the time it's having suffered a blow to our self-worth. People who are very self-confident (not an external "bravado" as a front for low-self esteem, but true confidence coming from knowing your worth) can weather those affonts without damage. Those whose self-confidence is shakey at best are the ones who suffer. And they suffer in different ways: some resort to drugs and alcohol to buffer the pain, some act out their pain on others in violent acts, some commit suicide, some simply withdraw.
How to emerge from it? Sometimes it requires the help of a therapist, sometimes a good friend can break down the wall, sometimes a change of scenery helps....getting away from the source of the attack....and, always, God, IF the person is receptive and willing to acknowledge God, since it's a given that God never views us as "trash". We are always valuable to him because he loves us no matter what.
Whatever, though, it's going to take a realization that our self-worth and value isn't dependant upon what others may or may not say to, or about, us, or do to us. That's why it's referred to as "SELF-worth", what we are worth to ourselves. If, when we look into the depths of ourselves, we don't like what we see, either....if the truth hurts.....then we need to seek to better ourselves. That's where therapists and counselors can be invaluable. They can direct us to sources of help, and restore our hope and confidence that we can improve. If we look into the depths of ourselves and find that although not perfect, we aren't worthy of the "put-down" hurled at us, then it's just a matter of realizing that we can't please all of the people all of the time, and hold fast to our inner knowledge that we are okay.
The key to emerging, I believe, is introspection: have a long look inside. Based on what you find, go on from there. It may take time....nothing worthwhile is instant. Don't despair, don't give up. No one is beyond help or restoration.
2007-10-26 11:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by transplanted_fireweed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear. When you are angry and resentful at the world outside, you develop fear and withdrawal. You need to go forth with good will towards everything you come in contact with and you will come out and come alive.
2007-10-26 10:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excellent source material for the answer to this question is the book "Memory and Abuse" by Charles Whitfield. Check it out.
2007-10-26 10:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Yes
2) Tried, teasted and true.
3) Poor leadership
4) Good leadership
2007-10-26 10:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. All the time. Mostly it's because I don't much like people in general.
Doug
2007-10-26 10:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i daydream a lot if that' what you mean
2007-10-26 10:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by airforcewolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, LIFE PROBLEMS , MY WIFE , FAITH.
2007-10-30 09:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by gamal_adel2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋