I want my wife to do some freaky things in the bedroom to spice things up. Like maybe play act a rape seen and have a code word if it get to violent. Maybe she can dress up in some sexy costumes and be a nurse or school teacher. Or dress
up in a sexy Ny Jets football cheerleader outfit. I have asked her she says no way what should I do?
2007-10-26 02:45:11 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i would sit her down and tell her how it is... be gentle but tell her sex is getting old and lots of people do different things. if she still says no way then maybe instead of doing a whole rape scene or having her dress uup in a nurses outfit you could start out slow. maybe during sex you could get on top and hold her arms to the bed when she's about to *** and pump her real hard. later on you could do more and more. the point is, is to ease her into it.
2007-10-26 02:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by It's me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm all for spicing up the sex life but dude the acting out a rape is very sick. And I'm sure put's a scary thought in the back of your wife's head. You may have made things worse for yourself with that suggestion. I'd have some questions for you if you were my husband and asked me to do that. The dressing up like a school girl or nurse or cheerleader sounds like fun but the rest, I'm afraid not.
2007-10-26 10:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by memegeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you are just trying to spice things up, and then ask what SHE might think would be fun, on her terms and conditions. If the answer is still no, ask what part of your relationship she feels you both need to work on. It has been my experience that women don't compartamentalize aspects of thier self, or relationships like men do. We can go to the bedroom regardless of what ever issues the relationship has. Women (for the most part) have to feel good about the relationship[ outside the bed room for the bedroom to have a spark. If you focus on her and really LISTEN to what she has to say, with no expectations, your whole marriage will change, especially the bedroom. Good luck!
2007-10-26 10:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a rape victim does not sound fun. I do not believe it should be a fun joke or play to anyone. The other stuff is okay. Instead of asking buy her some of those things and just let her know what a turn on it is for you. I wear alot of costumes and do alot of pretending. Some are okay with it and others are offended. I like to pretend I am a teacher, prostitute, babysitter, principal, girlfriend, doctor, nurse, constuction worker, police officer, biker, and so on. I hope that gives you some ideas outside of rape.
2007-10-26 10:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious conversation with your wife. Find out what kind of things she might be interested in and go from there. But a rape scene? Come on that isn't a way to spice up a relationship. The other ideas, yes even I would consider. But if my fiance' asked me to pretend to be raped I would tell him to get out!
2007-10-26 09:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you had asked her to dress up like a Baltimore Ravens cheerleader she would have said yes. ;)
Honestly, if she won't spice things up then you have to do it for yourself. Try to seduce her into trying new things. If that doesn't work get her drunk so she lets go of some of her inhibitions and then I'm sure you guys will have a great time.
2007-10-26 10:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by dogcrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay to ask your wife, who else would you ask? Just be careful how you do it; be understanding and patient, and never blame anything on her or put her down. I don't know about your "rape" fantasy, but anything you desire in the bedroom, as long as both of you agree, to spice things up and make sex more interesting, I believe is not just okay, but healthy and necessary. Dressing up and role playing are very fun and uncomplicated things to do.
2007-10-26 10:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take the lead on this as well. You can cook her dinner in just your apron and serve her some wine as well. You looking for just her to jazz up your love life in not the best way to make it better. A good teacher is one who leads and practices what they preach. Come home early from work, send her out to get something and while she is gone do some candlelight scene.
2007-10-26 09:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have the 7-yr itch....of course you could ask her to help you spice it up. If she's not into it then find out what she would like to do to spice it up. It has to be mutual!!!
2007-10-26 09:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe ask her what she wants to do to spice it up, and maybe she will cut lose on your needs, I hope you get the spice back up.
2007-10-26 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by 12121212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋