We are staying at my parents and when he came home from class my parents smelled it on him. So while he was outside working on his car my mom went in my room looking for clothes so she could help me with laundry, and she was checking his coat pockets and found a pipe and a vile of weed in his pocket. Not only that but there were recent ashes in the pipe. Well when I came home my parents told me about it..and at first I didnt believe it. So when I layed down on my bed next to the coat I smelled it, and i went thru the pockets and found nothin..So I confronted him and he said yea he enjoys it once in a while, its no big deal. But it is to me because im pregnant 4 mos with his child and I dont feel safe nor do i trust him if hes doin that.He told me he would stop but I still dont trust him. He broke the pipe right in front of me and threw the weed away in the outside trash..but everytime I talk to him about why it bothers me he just laughs.
2007-10-26 02:35:19 · 17 answers · asked by starrviolet82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What the hell is wrong with you people? Im supposed to be okay with it because he only does it once in a while? Are you freakin serious? I am pregnant! We have a child on the way..he needs to be responsible for all three of us not give into some immediate gratification just because he wants to! He needs to grow the f*** up. And those of you who judge me becuase we are staying with my parents, I work full time he is going to school and he just got out of the military...so dont act like you are better than me because Im staying with my parents I still buy groceries and pay most of the bills I just cant afford rent right now because my husband is in school,
2007-10-26 03:05:36 · update #1
No, you need to calm down and not get no attitude because people are giving you responses that you dont like, if you dont like the feedback that you get, keep your questions to yourself and deal with real life. Clearly, you got issues and now I see why he was laughing at you. LOL. You're too sensitive and you just expressed that by editing your question. Lighten up!
2007-10-26 04:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough subject. Why? Because a lot of people don't consider "weed" to be that serious. Someone who smokes it doesn't consider it to be harmful like cocaine or heroin is. So I understand, to a degree, why he laughs because he doesn't take it that serious. Especially if he says he only smokes once in a while - which I would believe to be true if it took you this long to figure he smoked to begin with.
If he broke the pipe in front of you and threw away his stash, you have to at least give him a chance to prove he won't do it again. He probably has always been smoking, but knew you would react exactly how you did, so he decided to keep it to himself.
Just continue to tell him that you don't feel comfortable having that stuff in the home knowing you have your baby on the way and trust that he is honest with you.
2007-10-26 02:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got trust issues over weed like that? Maybe this is why he didn't tell you. Good thing yall didn't find crack or anything on him. I say that if he wants to do it once in awhile to get a buzz, let that man do it. Considering that you are pregnant, just make sure it isn't around you. I'm sure he knows the time and place for everything, I bet he was mad when you threw that lil bit away too..LOL..I know a plenty of people that would be digging thru your trash right now. LOL!
2007-10-26 02:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Ice 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While I am not advocating the use of illegal drugs, there are alot worse things he could be doing. I would be more concerned about your Mom going through his pockets and him bringing drugs into their home.
Ask him to not bring illegal things into your home.
For the sake of privacy, keep your mother out of your room.
Talk with your husband and ask him to be honest with you. Tell him your concerns and let him have a chance to adjust to the pressures of marriage, a baby and school.
Good Luck.
2007-10-26 02:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by ruby 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am pregnant! too...big deal...my hubby smokes and drinks. He's also a VERY good dad to our other kids. Your boy just got back from the military? Let the man smoke! He's not smoking around you anyways. Pot is NOT a drug..God put it on this earth to be enjoyed just like he put fruits and vegetables on this earth...cause it's GOOD for your body and soul.......Get over it!
2007-10-26 03:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're probably in your early twenties, pregnant and staying at your parents house with a husband who smokes weed. Do you see all the problems.
2007-10-26 02:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by Pam 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have never used drugs of any kind but I do know this- its not like its "cracK" or "meth".....plus, i have never seen a person high on weed go nuts on people the way drunks do...the only real damage pot smokers do is they might be guilty of eating all the twinkies and ho-ho's you got stashed in the kitchen!
If this is a "once in a while" thing, I would say its not the biggest deal.
Talk to your husband about your worries. But like I said, its not as bad as other drugs, or alcohol, in my opinion.
2007-10-26 02:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think you are married to a boy and not a man. He needs to grow up or get out of the marriage.
2007-10-26 03:34:23 · answer #8 · answered by dogcrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sigh =(... even though he threw out the pipe, he will get another, or he will go out and buy rolling papers... and he will get more weed... he laughs because he knows he will do it again =(... sigh =(... tell him why you don't want him to smoke weed... this is what I would say... "we have a baby on the way that will need things... if you would rather spend the extra money on weed, you don't care about me or our child..." and... "I don't want to raise the child to think that smoking weed is ok"... "if you disagree w/ me and don't want to stop and don't stop, we can get a divorce... and if I find out you smoked it again, even once, I will divorce"... that is everything I would say... good luck, don't settle for less than what you and that little baby deserve and need! =)
2007-10-26 02:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
thell him puff puff pass..haha..well na in a way you schould be happy he dosent come home drunk cuse thats the worst..and make it clear to respcet your parents house ..well but then aging your pregnet so that sucks ..just threten him so he could strigen up
2007-10-26 02:44:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋