2007-10-26 02:23:50 · 30 answers · asked by helentg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't just talk about it, do it.
2007-10-26 02:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
go for it.it will be hard and upsetting but not as upsetting as the abuse you and the kids are suffering now.is there real mum still around if so get her on board as well to look after the kids or close family relative like nans aunts uncles etc.go stright down to a solicitor with evidence of abuse and get a retsraining order on him and sort the kids out .some solicitors do have first consultation free type deals or you can go to a womens aid centre for advice
2007-10-26 07:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by kennedy537@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already found the strength to make the decision ,the hard part is going about it but you have to ar*eholes like him never change as you already have found out.Contact your local refuge if you haven't already they can be of great assistance and even go to court hearings and solicitors with you.Your not alone and can get through this.I have and 11 years on myself and my kids are new people and also so much stronger,I can even look him in the face and tell him what an ar*e he is, now he's the one scared of me !Good luck you can do it.
2007-10-26 05:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important you go trough this process with good supports in place because you will need ongoing help to deal with any personal danger you or your children may find from your husband. When the process is completed the freedom achieved will make it all worthwhile. There is definitely light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-10-26 03:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by pat l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much question there then is there?
You obviously need to leave. If your situation is dangerous (which it is most likely if he is abusive) you need to talk to your family or people close to you and make a plan to leave him.
It is not okay to subject yur children to abuse. Abuse causes so many emotional scars that are hard to heal , it's best to get out before any more damage is done.
Get out of there before it's too late.
God Bless you, and Best of Wishes.
2007-10-26 10:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by .sincerious. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't just divorce him prosecute him your an adult and can fight him off but his stepchildren can't then when you've turned him in to police then divorce the bastard and get an injunction to stop him coming anywhere near you and the kids again.Please don't let him get away with it for your own sanity.
2007-10-26 06:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So do it. have your locks canged before he comes home from work tonight and put all his clothes in black bags and have them delivered by taxi to his mother or best friends. Then phone a lawyer and get the ball rolling on the divorce. You have 30 minutes to do all of this so get a move on - you can do it.
2007-10-26 02:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by D B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusing you dork, then call your local police department or your local womens batter women shelter and take the kids and go. they will help you do the rest. or simply go get the divorce started. what is the problem? no time for confusion. seperate till you come to a decision. safety for you and the kids first then do what you got to do.
2007-10-26 02:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your question is, but if you want a divorce why don't you get a divorce?
Even if you put up with abuse yourself how can you stand to watch children suffer?
2007-10-26 04:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you waiting for? Why are you letting him abuse the kids? YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR WELL BEING. Can't you just leave? If not the next time he starts call the cops and have him arrested. What ever you do get those kids out of that house.
2007-10-26 02:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** or get off the pot. do something about it instead of coming here and asking other people what to do. If any man abused me or my kids he might get a way with it the first time but I swear to God there would not be a second time. Get out of ther before one of you or all of you end up dead. Go to a shelter, go to your church, go to family, anywhere just get the kids and get the hell out of ther NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-26 02:36:26 · answer #11 · answered by iceprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋