And if somebody makes a valid point about something he does that's wrong, he will try to embarrass you in front of a whole crowd of people.
He will make fun of the way you dress, how much money your parents make, etc.
And when he is around white people, he is really cool to be around. But if he is around somebody black or Hispanic, or someone he considers to be 'ghetto' he will be really mean to everyone and degrading.
It is offensive because he is black but he seem to thing that every black or Hispanic person must be 'ghetto' so he thinks he has to be like that for them to accept him.
I'm not the only person that thinks this, even his girlfriend has noticed this about him. And it bothers her, but she is the type to just keep quiet.
How can I get him to just admit that he is wrong instead of acting like a little boy? It is making me want to stop chilling with him!
2007-10-26 02:12:43 · 6 answers · asked by . 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell him he's a bigot. Not only white ppl are racially prejudiced.
Maybe if enough ppl stop chilling with him, he'll get the message.
2007-10-26 02:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by pansyblue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kinda sounds like an emotional problem. Like he has no self esteem and doing these things make him feel better. Not a healthy way to do that, which is furthering the emotional problems. He may need to be on anti depressants, or may just need someone to tell him that he is just as good as everyone else. His parents may act this way towards him and/or other people. He may not have ever learned to properly express his emotions. Or maybe he is afraid of being made fun of himself. If he points the fingure first, no one can hurt him.
2007-10-26 02:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one likes being incorrect or being the reason for something damaging, even though it happens and that is greater convenient to confess your errors up front then to dig your self a hollow and deny it, such as you probably did. It takes braveness and a remember of self-worth to confess you're incorrect. What ever occurred with you won't be the top of the international, yet via doing what you probably did you sort of made a fool of your self and others ought to no longer have faith you for a collectively as enormously considering you accused others of issues they did no longer do. Ask your chum in inner maximum what she is attempting to coach via throwing you under the bus. tell her you recognize you made a mistake and are embarrassed and to in uncomplicated terms permit the incident flow. What did you do any way?
2016-11-09 12:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every person of color is 'ghetto', I'm not and because of it sometimes I am treated like I should be but you don't have to be. Just explain that to him as for the other stuff, no one really likes to admit their wrong. By him trying to make fun of you, it proves that he thinks he was wrong too.
2007-10-26 03:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by --; cookie. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize this person has very low-self esteem and has to brag and behave obnoxiously to make himself feel better.
I had a 50 year old boyfriend who did the same thing.. he was needy and had no self confidence.. probably still is? I don't know.. i don't see him anymore.
2007-10-26 05:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that in first you need to talk to him and ask what,s wrong about him.. why does he acts like that. Perhaps he´s got some psycological problem and needs to take it out. Does he like to talk to someone about his problems? A hug for you!!!
2007-10-26 02:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by sayuri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋