2007-10-26 02:10:15 · 15 answers · asked by Maria 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You do it by turning your question into a direct request.
I agree with the others who are basically telling you the same thing. One thing you need to realize is that you have to be very direct when communicating to men, or they just don't get it. Most women avoid doing that because they feel they are being too rude. Trust me --- its not rude.
Allow me to play this out for you...
YOU BEING NICE --- I appreciate the fact that you still care about me and the effort you put into your letters, but it really isn't necessary.
WHAT HE HEARS --- She digs what I'm doing, and it means a lot to her.
YOU BEING DIRECT --- I want you to back off and stop writing me letters!
WHAT HE HEARS --- Hmm, I think she wants me to back off and stop writing letters.
2007-10-26 02:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by mt75689 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your former husband to back off. it's making you feel angry every time he sends you letters.
2007-10-26 09:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by KJ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's sending the letters via mail, don't open them and write return to the sender on them. He'll get the message. If he emailing you, block his email address. But as a lot of the others said, I would simply tell him to stop contacting me.
2007-10-26 09:19:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him to stop sending letters or making phone calls. Put this is writing and keep a copy. If this keeps up, you should get a restraining order as he is harassing you.
Good Luck!
2007-10-26 09:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave you alone and every time he sends a letter, just put delivery refused, return to sender on it without opening it and stick it back into the mail box.
2007-10-26 09:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yep, the direct approach seems best, but, he may think you are playing hard to get... been there, done that, lol!
sending the letters back unopened should give him the best clue =)
change the phone number, even email address... good luck! =)
2007-10-26 10:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shred the letters and send them back to him.
2007-10-26 09:31:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Back off and stop sending me letters." Now that wasn't so hard, was it?
2007-10-26 09:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by CC 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
try it short and sweet. "stop sending me letters you make me angry" ?
2007-10-26 09:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by sarah W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your solicitor to do it, this could be seen as a form of harrassment.
2007-10-26 09:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by DOG B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋