I met this girl a yr ago and even though we moved to different cities we keep in touch now and then by chat. It was obvious there was an attraction from the start and sure enough when we met up a few wks ago..we kissed and it was good but never talked about our feelings..as I had to rush off home. She contacted me since & I invited her to visit. She said she will but it's hard to find me there (I'm thinking of heading off travelling). Few days later I told her to visit and she said she'd love to as soon as she gets time off (she's a heavy study load). Last time we chatted she asked how long I'd be around & I said a few mths. She said she has vacn coming up but is thinking of visiting her parents (they're overseas) and then said 'we'll see'. Do I have a chance? It's preoccupying me..I feel strongly for her but don't want to frighten her by telling her how I feel. We go back a long time & once she said she was falling for me (but after a drink).
2007-10-26 02:09:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's ALWAYS best to be open and honest about how you feel and what you want. Just don't be so heavy-handed with your feelings and that'll help from scaring her away. Simply say that you have feelings towards her and would like to see her more, but you are confused as to whether or not she feels the same. Ask her if she sees this as something that is worth developing a closer relationship or should the two of you keep your possibilities open. Find out what her feelings are and if the two of you are on the same page. You deserve to know that.
Seeing as this has been a long distance thing for the two of you, though, I wouldn't put all your eggs in her basket just yet. Try to keep your feelings of attachment in check and also keep your eyes open for someone who might be more suitable and compatible for you.
Good luck. :-)
2007-10-26 06:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Happy Little Moron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why don't you go see her?
people who really want to see each other find a way to do it.
sounds like you both have more important things to do.
seems like at this point it's not worth changing your plans or doing your life differently to try to connect with the other person.
2007-10-26 02:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋